Hi, I am having my second baby and I am just scared because last pregnancy, my partner used to drink all the time.

I always felt really left out because well, we made a baby and now that I was pregnant, I had to give up a lot of things like alcohol, my body, smokes, and certain foods. I had back pain and I had to go through labor and he didn’t give up anything. I used to ask him just to not drink while I was pregnant. He could drink on his birthday and New Year’s. I didn’t mind but I wanted him to just give up on this one thing and he didn’t. Anyway, one night, his friend came around to drink and I was really sick with the flu or something and I was finding it really hard to breathe and he went down the pub even though I pleaded with him not to. Anyway, his mum had to take me to hospital because when I lay down, I couldn’t breathe properly. He then got really scared and said sorry, but still drank. He is not an alcoholic and would only drink every couple of weeks. I just am wondering if it’s normal for me to feel like this or if am I just being selfish??? During this pregnancy, he has been really great. I am 18 weeks and he only drank 6 Jim Beans yesterday because it was his birthday. He has his work dinner today and him drinking of that is stressing me out because this time of the year is when people pressure him to drink to celebrate New Year’s or Christmas or WHATEVER!!!

Hmm, please just tell me your thoughts.