Hello. I just wanted to say how helpful this site has been to me. I just found out last week I was pregnant, although I suspected it long before, and I was so lost and confused about what to do. I felt I had no where to turn and that everyone would hate me or think I was a slut and no one would be there for me.
I was thinking about an abortion. I cried myself to sleep last night because I hated myself for even considering it, but really what other choice was there for me? I’m 18, I’m in college, my boyfriend comes from a conservative family, we can’t afford to feed ourselves we can’t have a child!
Then I read testimonials from people. I saw that I was not alone, people faced this everyday all over the world… people from all backgrounds, all religions, all walks of life and in all situations. They were trying to deal with the same fate i had come to, the same hard choice i was having to make. I realized, I couldn’t risk making the wrong choice. I couldn’t risk not only my future, but a child’s future who had no choice over what was going to happen to their life.
I was scared… more afraid than I had ever been in my life, but this site gave me hope. The stories of people just like me, in worse situations than I am in, pulling through and doing what they knew to be right. I told my boyfriend adam about it. He freaked out and is scared; probably more than I am now, but he hates abortions. He would never let me get one and I know that… maybe that’s why i was so scared to tell him before when I was considering it.
I even got the courage to tell my mom. I thought everyone was going to hate me. Even though I was on the shot, I knew they would think I was irresponsible and would look down on me. So far no one has. So far all my friends have been supportive, even the ones who told me just days ago to get an abortion and that it would be the “smart” thing to do. Now they are saying they care about me and will be there for me no matter what. I have friends begging to be called “auntie sam” and already offering to babysit months and months from now.
I am still scared. I am not sure everyone will react well to my news, but i know I have made the right choice. Thanks to the people willing to share their stories. Thank you. Thank you all so very much.
love, kelli and arwen reese-girl, or aidan thomas-boy
Kelli | kellidooby@yahoo.com
Dear Kelli,
You have definitely made the right choice! Every child is such a precious gift…so helpless and innocent. We hold his or her life in our hands. Will we give him the chance to live and grow? Will we give her the chance to discover herself and the world around her? You are giving your little child a beautiful gift, the gift of life! That is just so awesome!
I ‘m glad to hear that you are getting support from people around you. I experienced the same thing…I was so scared to tell anyone about my pregnancy. I was so worried about what everyone would think, especially my parents. After the initial shock wore off, my parents were very supportive and so were others around me. I felt such relief, once everything was out in the open. Then I could move on to thinking about my baby… and I started to really look forward to meeting him or her.
You will be okay. You will be given the means and the strength and ability to care for this child. Don’t give up on your dreams. You can still go to college. You can still do all of those things that you wanted to. Have confidence! You can do it!
Here’s a number you may want to try… 1-800-672-2296 (America’s Pregnancy Helpline). The people there can set you up with help and support in your area.
Please keep in touch, though. I would love to keep hearing from you, if you have any questions about pregnancy, etc.
