Hi…

I want some help, some informations in fact !! I n’ my boyfriend were having some intimate moments but we were not naked!! After sometym he threw sperm in my lower part of clothes but i was still wearing the clothes!! However, it got wet inside also!! I m nt sure if sperm went inside or not …so i wanted to know how much sperm should go inside in order to get pregnant and does one get pregnant while having sex for the first time ??

Cinderella

Hi Cinderlla,

My name is April and I help Becky answer emails for Stand Up Girl.

Whenever you have sex or engage in activity where sperm is near your vagina you have a chance for pregnancy, and yes, you can get pregnant the first time you have sex. As for your specific situation I do not know whether you are pregnant. I can tell that you are really worried. The best thing to do is wait about 7 to 10 days after the incident and take a pregnancy test.

Let me tell you how to get a free pregnancy test. Go to www.optionline.org, click on find a center, type in your zip code, and a list of pregnancy resource centers will come up. Call the center that is closest to you and tell them that you need a free pregnancy test. They will be happy to help you and so glad you called. They are there to help you through this difficult time.

From your email I understand that this would not be a good time in your life to become pregnant. I understand that. I am in the same place as you. Have you considered not messing around with your boyfriend? You are really freaked out now because of it. Sometimes messing around is not worth the agony that you have to go though later. Do you know what I mean?

It is fun to mess around with your boyfriend but you have to pay for it later. Some people just think as long as they use a condom they will be fine. That is not true. Condoms do offer some protection but they do not offer a lot. It is best to not have sex or mess around like that.

Have you ever thought about your wedding day or the man that you will marry? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to tell the man that you married that you waited to have sex with him and him alone? That is what I am doing. Pregnancy scares are way too scary, and I want to be able to say I saved myself for my husband. That is why I am choosing not to have sex. That is something that you may want to consider as well.

Write me back and let me know how things turn out for you.

Love, April

Hi April

Ya , u r right!!! No , I didn’t get pregnant coz now I am having my periods regularly n’ have promised to myself that I wnt have sex until I get married n’ give myself solely to my husband !!! Thankx a lot 4 ur help !!!!

Cinderella!!!!

Dear Cinderella,

Thanks for writing back. It’s good to hear from you.

I am so happy for you because you have chosen the best option for yourself – waiting until you are married for sex. You are wise beyond your hears and you should be proud of yourself. This is a decision that you will never regret. You don’t have to worry about STD’s, about being used and dumped, and about guys who want only one thing. You are free to have fun!

You have made such a great decision for your future as well. I hope you reach all of your dreams. You are on the right path.

Talk to you later,

April