My name is Brittany and I am 21 years old. I am a sufferer of Polycistic ovary syndrome (PCOS) and edometrious. I got told when i was 18 that i would never be able to conceive a child naturally. I have just found out that i am 9 weeks pregnant, I went to my first scan at 7 weeks and saw the babies little heart beat was a very exciting time for me to see the baby that i never thought i could have.
Lately I have been having some mixed feelings, The father of the baby wants nothing to do with it and says i am making a big mistake and should get rid of it because he doesn’t want to give up the life he has now and take responsibility of a child. This could be a one of chance of ever conceiving a child and He wants me to get rid of it. I have seriously been considering not going through with the pregnancy just from what he is saying, i feel so alone and dont know what to do.
I have seen my babies heart beat every day. He/she is growing inside of me….
Hi Brittany,
Thanks for emailing. It’s good to talk with you.
I’m sorry to hear about your situation and I’m sorry that your boyfriend is doing this to you. I agree with you that every life is precious and a once in a lifetime shot. When making the decision about whether to choose parenting your child or abortion, I would encourage you to do what you want to do instead of listening to other people. No matter what you decide and no matter who influences you, you are the one who has to live with the consequences. Your boyfriend will not have to live with it. It’s easy for him to tell you what he things you should do, but you are the mother and you are the one with the closest connection with your child. I think that you already know that you want to parent your child. Don’t let anyone talk you out of that decision.
Here is a great website that you can go to so you can see exactly where your child is in development: http://www.ehd.org/movies.php?mov_id=210. Needless, to say, if your child has a heartbeat and you can hear his or her heartbeat through ultrasound, you can be sure that he or she is alive and a human being. If you were to choose abortion, the worst thing in the world is knowing that you took the life of another human being – not just any human being, but your very own child.
No matter what your boyfriend may be saying to you, don’t believe it. Don’t buy into it. It’s true that you may not be able to give you child all the best in life, but what parent can? I know I was not given all the best in life and I still made it anyway. Your child is no different. All he or she needs is your love and your support, and you are capable to doing that. I think that you have what it takes. I think that you can do this! You can be an excellent mother! Just give your baby a chance to live. You don’t know what you are capable of until you try.
Let me know how things turn out.
Much love,
April
Hey Becky,
i emailed you around 7 weeks ago when i had first found out i was pregnant and the father didnt want anything too do with it and i felt confused and alone and not sure weather too go through with the pregnancy,
I listened too my heart and i am now 13.5 weeks pregnant and couldnt be more excited :). the father still wants nothing too do with the baby and that does upset me alot as my abby wont have a father and i have also lost my best friend, but when i saw my babies heart beating on the scan and saw its little body i knew i made the right decision by keeping the baby,
I want too thank you for this website as it has helped me a lot and when i feel down in the dumps i come on here and read peoples stories and it always makes me feel better, just cant wait too meet my little one.
Thank you,
Brittany
hey thats fantastc you just dont know wat life can throw at you…sickness or in health think possitive and sometimes doctors anit always right:-)
You should HAVE THAT BABY! That baby is a MIRACLE, and I'm not a religious person, but I know the obvious when I see it. Dr's are paid (whether out of pocket or by insurance companies) thousands of dollars to diagnose people's problems, so chances are, yours knew what he was talking about. So you might not get this chance again. And with what abortion does to your uterus, it would more than likely guarantee you that this situation would NOT happen for you again. Seriously, you can look up the negative physical side effects to an abortion, and it really messes up your reproduction system, unlike if you are to naturally have a miscarriage(although that alone can cause problems too)… I'm sorry if I sound like I'm coming off as harsh, but this is something that may be a once in a life time chance. I have a 2 year old son and I'm NOT with his father anymore but I don't regret having him. He's amazing and I love him with all my heart and more than my own life. You WILL NOT REGRET having this baby, but YOU WILL REGRET NOT having this baby. Trust me, and trust the other girls on here and trust Becky or the other girls on the site here. They know their stuff.
Take this opportunity to be a good mother to this new life.
that is so amazing God did that!;-)
🙂 I am so happy for you CONGRATS to you and a start to your family; Im sorry to hear about the father of the baby and his feelings and you feeling alone but once you have the baby your loneliness will fade away and you will be happy just by looking at babies first smile
Im Bethánie, im 16 years old and like you i am a sufferer of Polycistic ovary syndrome (PCOS) and edometrious… i have been in and out of hospital alot this year due to pain in my abdomem from the polysistic ovaries… 5 weeks ago i found out i was pregnant, after months of thinking i could never have kids i was so shocked to be told this, it didnt seem real. Because this could be the only chance of concieveing i have decided to go through with having a baby. i understand im only 16 and to alot of people is very shocking but when you suffer from these things its alot different.
I was with the babys father for 10 months and we split up end of october a few days before i found out i was pregnant, sometimes he says he'll do anything to get custody over the baby and other times he doesnt want to be involved. ive had such mixed feelings and because of the babys father i feel like im just getting depressed, too much stress on me makes me worry for the baby.
dont make a decision based on what the father wants. because if you do im sure you'll regret it. Think of yourself and what is best for you, in a few years when you want kids what are you supposed to do if you cant concieve. think for yourself xx
solitude can help coupled with meditation of the past and accepting the situation, be optimistic! love you especially for being courageous.
i write this in response to the heart beat, i really thank you for coming out for indeed this is so brave of you. My guys hardly ever think of this and they would rather resort to the extremes especially whenever things seem glim.
well, as of recent, it seems as though medical reports on many occasions shouldnt be taken absolutely right, and chances should always be avoided, someone would think probably since the medics have said i cant really conceive or as for i that i cant make a girl pregnant, i would not take counter measures for that would be so blunt. Conceiving and still embracing the ordeal is something many youths will hardly ever think of doing and now that you are indeed upto it, know you have 360` support.
looking onto many sites and learning for ma first time in life how and what it takes plus the interests at stake really…i came to understand that getting rid of the fetus isnt the wisest of all decisions as often taken for a maiden call by many of us especially university students. i once thought i would never have this problem but one day i had to face it, well, luckily it was a false alarm, but trust me, preparations had already gone under way, now i really have a lot of disappointments with ma past and for sure i dont really understand why atimes somethings happen especially when yoou feel its worthy all the sacrifices, not until yo disappointed.:cry::cry::cry:
my name is Cece i'm 26 years old and i found out that i have POCS and i really want to have kids I wandt to be called mom Plase tell me how can i get pregnet we have been tryin for a long time can u give me some Tips
Thanks
Alway's Cece
Honey youre not alone! Abortion is a horrible thing, i had one a year ago and im still regretting ti deeply… Im sure youll make a great mum to your beautiful little boy/girl. Never mind the father because theres so much support you can get, i hope you keep your baby… good luck! x