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Tatismommy
MY FRiEND HAS A 1 1/2 YEAR OLD SON..SHE WAS LiViNG WiT HER PARENTS WiCH ARE VERY STRiCT..SHE’S 20 & THEY TREAT HER LiKE iF SHE WAS 10!..SO ANYWAYS HER PARENTS KiCKED HER OUT..SHE HAD NO PLACE TO GO WiT HER SON SO SHE DECiDED TO LET THE BABY STAY WiTH HER PARENTS UNTiL SHE GETS SETTLED..SHE iS LiViNG WiTH HER BOYFRiEND (NOT BABY’S FATHER)..AND THERE iS NO SPACE FOR HER TO BRiNG HER SON THERE..HER PARENTS ARE NOT LETTiNG HER SEE HER SON..THEY DONT EVEN LET HER TAKE HiM OUT OF THE HOUSE..& MOST OF THE TiME THEY WONT EVEN ALLOW HER TO COME OVER. YESTERDAY (CHRiSTMAS DAY)..SHE WATED TO SEE HER SON CUS SHE HASNT SEEN HiM SiNCE THANKSGiViNG (BECAUSE OF HER PARENTS)..SO SHE CALLED N THEY TOLD HER SHE COULNT COME OVER..SO SHE ASKED ME TO TAKE HER TO HER PARENTS HOUSE.SHE WAS JUSS GONNA PACK HER SON’S STUFF AND TAKE HiM..SO i TOLD HER i WOULD LET HER LiVE WiTH ME. SO i WENT iNSiDE WiTH HER AND SHE ASKED HER DAD iF SHE CAN JUSS TAKE HiM FOR A FEW HOURS & SHE’LL BRiNG HiM BACK..HE STARTED ARGUiNG WiT HER AND SAYiNG NO CUS SHE HASNT CALLED TO SEE HOW DA BABY WAS DOiNG..BUT SHE CALLS HER SiSTERS ALL THE TiME TO CHECK ON HER SON..NOT HER PARENTS CUS THEY ALWAYS END UP ARGUiN..SO SHE TOLD THEM iM TAKiN HiM..N HER FATHER TOLD HER THAT THE ONLY WAY THE BABY WOULD GET OUT THE HOUSE iF iTS MY FRiEND CALLED THE COPS..HER MOTHER CALLED THE COPS & SAiD SHE WAS GONNA CALL SOCiAL SERViCES ON HER..SO THEY CAN TAKE HER SON FROM HER!..SO SHE GOT THE BABY DRESSED & SHE WAS ABOUT TO GO DOWNSTAiRS & HER DAD PUSHED HER WHiLE SHE WAS HOLDiNG HER SON..SHE ENDED UP LEAViNG WiTHOUT HER SON..& SHE SPEND CHRiSTMAS WiTHOUT HiM!..SHE HAS NO SUPPORT FROM HER FAMiLY..& i JUSS WANTED TO KNO WAT U GUYS THiNK SHE SHOULD DO??..CAUSE SHE HAS NO JOB OR HER OWN PLACE..iS THERE LiKE A PERSON SHE CAN TALK TO ABOUT THiS???..PLEASE RESPOND BACK TO ME!!bweber
personally i’d call them in for kidnapping if they dont let her take her own son!…that’s not right…
alexanders_mama
That is just beyond ludicricy. I would get them in for kidnapping. That shouldn’t entail a long court process, but if it does, then I say get her to go with a couple male friends and see if her dad is as brave as he thinks when he is pushing around a woman. And then take her son and leave. They can call the cops all they want. It’s her son, not their’s. That’s what I would have done anyway.
But I would seek legal advice first, I don’t know what the laws in your state are.Meg11
Hey there, I think you are a great friend for seeking advice on this issue. This is a touch and sticky situation that needs to be handled very delicately…First thing first though, getting violent back is never the right way to go unless you are fighting in a dark alley for your life and that is not the case here, it was very wrong for her dad to push her and especially while holding the baby and I believe that needs to be addressed as well, the question I have is that your friend is 20 has a baby and no job or anywhere to live…it was wrong for her parents to throw her out and to keep her child but at the same time your friend needs to find a way to provide for her child, I was the same age when I had my first baby and I had to do everything I could to make ends meet, it was only when I was 21 that I really had to start paying my own bills and day care and all the rest and when I was 22 I was pregnant with a second and I can tell you from experience that as a young single mom you will by any means needed provide for your children, there is help out there, womens shelters, state aid, food stamps, job training programs that pay you to learn new skills to get you better jobs, low income housing, food banks, gas vouchers, free bus fare where it’s available, hygiene vouchers to get shampoo and stuff, pregnancy centers where you can earn diapers by watching videos on parenting, they also have clothes both for mom and baby and other needs, there is WIC, the list goes on and on and on…at 20 years old I can’t see how a shelter could reject her for age and same with state assistance…I am not coming down on your friend, from the sounds of it she is going through a tough time to say the least the thing is though you don’t get kicked out for no reason, you don’t just not have a job and nowhere to live by accident…it is tough to hear when you are on the receiving end but when you are a mom you got to step up to the plate and face responsibility…I would be concerned if I had a daughter who was of working age with a child who was not working and had no where to live, I would be reluctant to let the baby go with her, is the baby going to be warm, fed, clean, safe??? Now I think it is heartless and cruel to not let your daughter come over for Christmas and see her son, but there is a reason why…have you talked to your friend about these things??? Does she get defensive if you ask her what the problem with her and her parents is?? There has to be bad blood in the family for a grown man to push his daughter around while holding his own grandchild and like I said that was way out of line and needs to be addressed but I think there is a lot more to this story than your friend is telling you, she needs to step up, find the resources and take care of her baby…I only say that because I have been there myself, it takes two to tango and if there is a problem with her and her parents I am sure she has played a part in it, I encourage you to keep being the great friend you already are being and help her to be accountable, help her find a job, or day care or any kind of resource that will benefit her and baby…every single mom needs a close friend to help out practically and emotionally but to not encourage her in being responsible for her choices and for her child is not going to help her..gently, lovingly guide her in the right steps to becoming more independent and to make wise choices regarding work and housing…that is the best thing you can do for her right now…I hope you can hear my heart behind the words…I didn’t used to make very good choices when it came to responsibilities and taking care of my children and it was the friends who cared about me and loved me the most who stood by my side and helped me pick my life up, even though I didn’t always want to hear what they had to say in the long run I am so thankful they loved me enough to give me a wake up call…Help your friend get her life together and then deal with the parents…Love Meg
Mommieofchris
umm yeah the personto talk to is the cops! it is kidnaping if they are NOT the baby’s guardian … inless the mother does have something to hide.. not saying she does.
WELL..SHE HAD A JOB AND SHE WAS TRYiNG TO GET HER SON N HER PARENTS STiLL DiDNT LET HER GET HER SON BACK..THEY WANTED TO GET CUSTODY OF THE BABY..& SHE’S SCARED THAT HER PARENTS ARE GONNA GO TO COURT N LiE TO GET CUSTODY OF HER SON..i DiDNT KNOW iT WAS THAT BAD..i KKEPT TELiNG HER TO JUST GO AND PACK HiS STUFF & JUSS TAKE HiM..BUT WHEN i WENT WiTH HER..iTS REALLY BAD..THE FATHER WAS TRYiNG TO TAKE THE BAB FROM HER..PULLiNG HiM FROM HER SO SHE WOULNT TAKE HiM..i FELT SO BAD & COULNT HOLD iT & i STARTED CRYiNG!!..THE MOM & DAD HAVE 5 KiDS & THEY ALL PLANNiNG TO LEAVE CAUSE THEYRE TOO STRiCT..MY FRiENDS SiSTER MOVED ON HER 18TH BiRTHDAY..SHE COULNT TAKE iT NOMORE..& ON TOP OF THAT SHE’S WiTH SOME GUY DAT DOESNT HELP HER OUT..ANYWAYS..THANKS!
That just sounds crazy. I think your friend is just very scared of her parents, and has what one could call the ‘bullied syndrome’ where you think the other side has more power than you do because you’ve seen them use that power. Similar to what a wife would have when beaten by her husband.
Personally, what I would do is get legal advice and preferably a lawyer (do you have any friends that are or know any lawyers?) and then either go to the cops for kidnapping, or just go there with a few male friends. If she has nothing to hide, she should be able to get and keep her son.
That’s her son! Her flesh and blood.rikanloka4u2nv
SHE’S JUST VERY SCARED OF HER PARENTS..HER DAD iS VERY AGRESSiVE.HE WAS ABOUT TO HiT HER CAUSE SHE YELLED AT HiM SAYiN THAT HE’S HER SON!..& THATS WHAT iM ALWAYS TELLiNG HER TO DO..TO GO THERE WiTH THE POLiCE & TAKE HER SON..SHE’S JUST SCARED CAUSE THEY THREATENED TO CALL SOCiAL SERViCES ON HER..(SHE’S LiViNG WiT HER BOYFRiEND & HiS FAM)..BUT i TOLD HER THAT SHE CAN COME STAY WiT ME SO NONE OF THAT HAPPENS..
kez_mummy_2_skye
thats her kid.. there is no reason they should be keeping the child from her unless she is exposing him to abuse. She has a place to stay with you thats good of you to be helping her out. And its not as if she is young. Look into it legally maybe or just walk in and take her kid(mind sound hard) but if the parents touch her in anyway she feels isnt right then talk to the police.
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