Hello I just turned 20 and I just found out that i am pregnant with my 3rd child.
I have a 4 year old and a 1 year old already, that I raise on my own and the fathers have given up rights… I have only been in my current relationship a month and am already pregnant. My boyfriend and I fight constantly as of the past 2 weeks. Especially over him going out with his buddies and over the way he does not like the way I parent my oldest… I am not strict enough, he says. I think it is too early for us to be having children and honestly, I am nowhere near ready to raise another baby if he ups and leaves like the other 2 did… I just started back at school to try and get an education and better my children’s and my life and now this… I have cried every night for the past weeks because I don’t want this baby. I don’t want to bring another child into a broken home… I have been trying to convince myself having an abortion would be the best thing I could do for me and this baby right now… And honestly, I believe it is…
My problem is I have always been so against abortion unless in Criminal or Particular situations… And in my case, I knew what I was doing. So shouldn’t I have to deal with the consequences…? I just am scared that I’m going to make the appointment to have it done and not go through with it.. I don’t know if I can live with myself knowing that I did that to baby and never let it have a chance.. I am so confused can someone please help me… Maybe tell me how you felt or what they do or anything you may think is helpful… Thanks
I was sixteen and thought I was madly in love. We had been dating for three years.
I was so stupid, he beat me almost everyday. My parents pretty much knew but I denied it. I thought he beat me because he loved me so much. It was my sophomore year when I found out that I was pregnant. I, like many scared teens, hid this from my parents. My boyfriend was happy. The beating ALMOST came to a stop, they weren’t as severe anyway. I was 21 weeks when my parents finally found out. They were furious. The next day, I got up to go to school (my father took me) like always but we never made it to the school. My parents actually drugged me that morning. I fell asleep in the car and woke up in labor at a hospital three hours from my hometown. Three days later, I returned home. My parents never discussed it with me again and I never discussed it with anyone either except my older sister. Shortly after that, I left him. Thank God.
Today, I am 33 years old with two beautiful children, an 11 yr. old boy and a 3 yr. old girl. I am married to a wonderful man who really does love me the way a man is suppose to but I feel so guilty about my other child. I know in my heart that it was a girl. The guilt is so deep that I have never even told my husband. I feel hurt and betrayed by my parents who obviously think they have done nothing wrong. Every year though on March 25, my sister and I spend time together. She always waits for me to bring it up, and then she just listens and cries with me. I did not choose to have an abortion, that decision was made for me, but the pain, 17 years later is still there.
I just want to let both young girls and parents know that there are other options out there. Many families want to adopt!
Hello everyone.
I’m going to be a mommy again. I’m happy, but there’s always that nervousness that comes along with bringing another life into this world. Well, I’d like to put a picture on here but I’m not sure how. So if someone wants to give me a rundown of how this site works that would be cool.
Thanks
I’m 15 years old and I’m 7 days late for my period and idk, I’m starting to think that I could be pregnant….
I have taken like 5 pregnancy tests and they’re all negative but I think I took them too soon. I took them for like 2 weeks after I had sex…
Help?
When I was 14, I found out I was pregnant. I told my Mom and she said I was going to have an abortion no matter what. I told her I couldn’t do that. She then scared me into having one, telling me that I would ruin her marriage with my Dad and he would be mad at me. She said so many mean things to me to make me feel bad and give in. Being 14, I was scared and thought my Mom was right. We went to the clinic and as I was sitting there, I couldn’t do it. I Walked out. On the car ride home, my Mom yelled at me so much I gave in once again and called to make another appointment. This time, I went through with it for her.
Then at 15, I was pregnant again this time I was so scared I didn’t tell anyone I just went and did it. I have never been able to get over it. As time passes, it’s not in my head so much but it’s still in my heart.
Now in my life, I have To make this choice again….
I’m 24, Married with three kids. My Husband had to go out of the states for work for four months. During that time, I met a someone. I know what happened was bad, but it happened. Now I’m 6 weeks pregnant. My husband and my side of the family knows and so does the other guy. Everyone in my family said I need to have an abortion. My Husband is willing to forgive me for cheating and still wants to be with me. But only if I have an abortion. He will not raise this kid as his own and he said He will not be with me if I want to give it up. So in his eyes, there is only one answer. My family has told me that I need to make that sacrifice for My husband and kids. What they don’t see is how bad my past abortions have hurt me. No one in my family has had an abortion besides myself so they don’t know what it does to you. The Man I’m pregnant by does not believe in abortion and wants me to keep the baby.
I sit here and think to myself, I’m 24. I have three kids, a Husband that loves me. I have a nice home and I have never had to work. My life is good. Don’t think my life is perfect now… My Husband likes to drink. That’s the down side, he has a problem. He has told me he will stop drinking if I do this. But He has said this to me for eight years now and nothing has ever made him stop. So why would this make him stop??? He has told me I am going to ruin our kids’ life. That they will hate me and this baby.
I try to think what my life will be like with and without this baby and Both make me sad. (with baby) I know life will be hard. Harder than I probably think it will be but I see many women do it. So why couldn’t I do it?? This guy said he’ll be there for his baby. (without baby) I want to feel like I can go through with this and I’ll be fine but I really feel in my heart it will kill me. I’m scared both ways. I wish I didn’t have to choose. If I do this, who knows if my marriage will even last and then I’m left with this emptiness, wondering if I made the right choice.
What do I DO???? I have to make up my mind by next week he said.
My family and husband has told me that I am very selfish If I keep this baby. Do you think I would be?
I’m 18 years. old, I’m a freshman in college and this is MY STORY.
4 years, my freshman year in high school, I was ready and excited. I met this guy who I fell in love with and after a month, he took my virginity. Our relationship was strong and everything was good. In Feb, I noticed that I hadn’t had my period but never thought anything of it cause I hated my period anyway. I went to a party in the end of Feb. and ate so much food. So the next morning, it was no surprise that I woke up sick to my stomach. I thought I had food poisoning…. but I was wrong.
In March, me and my boyfriend broke up but were messing around. One day at his house, I told him I thought I was pregnant and he cursed me out, called me a liar and all kinds of stuff. I sat there and cried. Skipping ahead, I had really bad morning sickness and one morning, my mother was late for work and she caught me throwing up in my room cause i couldn’t make it to the bathroom. She asked me did I need a doctor. I told her no. She asked me was I pregnant, I told her no. She asked me again and I said yes. She stormed out of my room, called her job, told them she wasn’t coming to work. She came back and told me you messed up big time, now I gotta fork our money for you to have an abortion and that was that. I had no say so. She told me not to tell my ex but I did. All he could do was look at me as I cried. When i got home that day all I did was sit inside and cry. I told my mom I didn’t want to have an abortion and she said well, you’re gonna have to tell everyone and I was 14 so I knew people would talk about me and my family would be mad at me and I really didn’t have any guidance so I felt alone. My dad or any of my family never knew.
It was the end of school and two days later, I had the abortion. When they did the ultrasound, all I could do was look away cause I was so scared. I didn’t know what would happen. I was 3 months pregnant. All I remember is when they rolled me out of that room after it was done, all I could do was cry and ask why. To this day, it is still hard for me. I feel an empty space in my heart and I don’t know how to deal with it.
Me and my ex were still messin’ around up until 12th grade. We are friends now and he’s the only connection I feel that I have to my baby. Everytime I look at a picture of us, I think about our child. I wonder what it was (girl or boy). Everytime I see a pregnant woman, i want to ball tear. Everytime I see a baby, I get sad. I feel I’ll never be right until I have a child of my own and I really can’t do that now because I’m in college. But then I look at all these other teenage mother who are making it and it’s an inspiration. But still, who gets pregnant just to do it. I just don’t want anyone to go through this situation. it’s not worth it. Just today in my public speaking class, a girl gave a speech on Abortion and it hurt me to my soul. She made it clear that Abortion isn’t an easy way out….. I could have easily given my child up for adoption. It sucks so bad to be in this situation still.
But I pray that I make it and I pray that no one chooses this road cause it’s not an easy one.
