So a couple days ago I found out that I couldnt have kids... I am 19 years old and this was a huge surprise, not that I am planning on having kids just yet, but one day I did want kids... anyways I am dating this guy and he has a kid.. he has a year and six month old boy.. this is great, only problem his baby mama... she is ugg i cant even describe her... she cares more bout her drug of choice then the bby... this drives me crazy because for one.. this little boy deserves so much better and secondly i cant believe god gave her a bby, it pisses me off that i cant have kids and she already has a beautiful bby boy that she takes for granted.. I dont get why god choose a mom like that for a wonderful child like this little innocent boy instead of one that knows how to take care of him and that cares and shows him everyday that she cares, it drives me absolutly crazy that she gets to have this little boy and that shes going to loose him because shes so stupid that she cant see whats right in front of her... See I grew up in a home that was broken and that there was always drugs and lots of drinking. It was horrible and I was put into foster care and then taken out and then threw back in, several times and that was hell.. at the age of 10 i was finally put into foster care permently and i was bounced from home to home... its no way to grow up and I really dont want that to happen to that little boy, I know my boyfriend and his mom wouldnt let that happen but that little boy deserves so much better and it makes me mad and sad that i cant do anything to help.. I would do anything to be able to have kids and it kills me that there are people out there that are so dense and self centered that they cant see whats right in front of them, til its to late...

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  1. Elisabeth22

Noonesgirl19,

I can totally understand why you feel so hurt that your bf's ex was able to have a child and you were told you can't. That must feel so terrible! You have been through so much in your 19 years of life and it seems that has given...

Noonesgirl19,

I can totally understand why you feel so hurt that your bf's ex was able to have a child and you were told you can't. That must feel so terrible! You have been through so much in your 19 years of life and it seems that has given you a respect for life that she unfortunately does not have. I respect you for caring so much about the little boy's well-being - he is lucky to have someone like you.

Sadle, there just isn't a clear answer why some women can carry children and others can't. If I was in your situation, I would want answers too. But it seems the most difficult life questions we have are the ones we can never seem to fully get answered. You are right that there are so many loving women and families that are desperate to have kids and aren't able to, and on the other hand there are mothers and families that hurt young kids and seem like they don't deserve the right to have children. Seems like the world would be a better place if only people that truly wanted children had them, wouldn't it?

I am not a doctor, so I can't comment on your medical condition from a medically educated perspective - but I do know that there are women who have been told the same thing as you, and yet they have actually been able to carry their own children. Without knowing all the details, I would suggest not giving up hope. You are young! There is a lot of hope out there for women in your situation nowadays! If you want, keep us updated! Would like to know how you are doing. Blessings to you!

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  1. MB

Hey, how are you going?? I understand ur situation...my brother and sister r struggling to have children...they have been married for 5 - 6 years...God sometimes allows things to happen to us that we are not able to understand, but what He...

Hey, how are you going?? I understand ur situation...my brother and sister r struggling to have children...they have been married for 5 - 6 years...God sometimes allows things to happen to us that we are not able to understand, but what He desires of us is that we trust...n hope! perhaps this little boy's mother doesn't deserve her child...life can be very confusing and a struggle sometimes as we try to understand things that just aren't clear to us...I dearly hope and pray that someday u can have children. If you feel you should, perhaps suggest to ur boyfriend that u would like to help raise and look after his child...and provide for the child's needs.. God does work in mysterious ways!

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