I just found out I'm pregnant on Monday. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years, and we've lived together for 2 years. I'm 22 and he's 27. I told him immediately when I found out I was pregnant and he took it well, but didn't say much at first. I've been off birth control for about 2 months now (due to insurance messing up) and he' s known. He even told me about a month and a half ago that he wanted to have a baby and even asked me if we had sex that day did I think I could get pregnant. So we did and when we were done he even asked me not to get up right away. Now I'm pregnant and he's asked me to get an abortion. He says "we're not ready" and instead is saying he wants to get married and wait 2 years and then have a baby. I don't want to have an abortion, but I don't want him to resent me and my child for me going through with my pregnancy. He told me that he would be there for me and support me through the abortion and even now, but he hasn't. Today he left me in bed all day alone crying while he was in the living room watching tv with his friends, so I left to go to my mothers house and now he's ignoring me because I left. I don't know what to do. I'm so hurt and so upset. I've researched abortions and want no part of it! But my only choices are to keep the baby and face having to do it on my own if he doesn't step up (and if he does i'll face him resenting me and my child forever) or I can get an abortion and live with the pain and regret for the rest of my life. I'm not sure if I could handle raising a child on my own because I feel emotionally unstable after what he's put me through. Because him and I have been together for so long it would be hard for me to not be emotional about having his child. what would you do in my situation? please I just need someones advice! thank you.
- Written by lilbit531