Dear Becky,
I am 15 and 17 and 1/2 weeks pregnant. I had an abortion over a year ago, and it was the most horrible thing i ever did. When i found out i was pregnant this time. I knew from the beginning i couldn’t abort it, but with pressure from my mom and from my boyfriend, i ended up going to the abortion clinic and because i was so far along it had to be a 2 day procedure, so i went and they inserted seaweed into my cervix to open them, and i had to go back the next day.
Dear Becky,
I am 15 and 17 and 1/2 weeks pregnant. I had an abortion over a year ago, and it was the most horrible thing i ever did. When i found out i was pregnant this time. I knew from the beginning i couldn’t abort it, but with pressure from my mom and from my boyfriend, i ended up going to the abortion clinic and because i was so far along it had to be a 2 day procedure, so i went and they inserted seaweed into my cervix to open them, and i had to go back the next day.
at about 12am after screaming and crying and slamming doors, i went to the emergency room to have the taken out. When i got there i was so happy knowing i was making the right decision and that i had to get the seaweed out ASAP to not have any problems, when the doctor finally got into the room he didn’t even touch me. He told me that he couldn’t do it that i needed to go back to the clinic where they put them in at, since it was 2 hours away and my mom already taking me one time i knew she was not going to be ok with taking me there again and then coming back without terminating the pregnancy.
Going home crying feeling like everybody was against me and my baby i decided i had no other choice but to go through with the abortion. I stayed up all night crying and at 8 in the morning my mom had a change of heart knowing how much it was hurting me to do it and she took me to my ob gyn. He took the seaweed out but told me that there was no promises that i would be able to carry my baby full term because of my cervix being open my body could expel the baby.
Well i went in on friday and everything was fine. And i just want to tell all girls that if you have any doubts what so all about having an abortion DONT DO IT! i know that my life is going to be a lot different with a baby, but i got myself into this and its my responsibility. I know of the sacrifices im going to have to make not being able to do what other girls are doing and not going to dances or partying. And i know nothing is going to come easy to me. but im willing to deal with that, and you should be to!
Love,
Heidi
Dear Heidi,
What an inspiring story!!! Thanks so much for sharing that with all of us here at StandUpGirl. It is never too late, is it, to turn back and do what you know in your heart is the right thing to do! You are such a brave girl, Heidi. Good for you, for standing your ground and not giving up. Your baby is going to thank you for this some day. You are giving him or her a chance to live!
You are right, it won’t always be easy (it hasn’t been for me, either)…but it is SO worth it!! It really is. I look at my beautiful daughter and am so thankful that we are able to experience life together. I can’t imagine not having her in my life. The world is definitely a better place with her in it!
I had to grow up fast…but that isn’t such a bad thing. I partied less…but that isn’t such a bad thing either, is it?! I really don’t feel like I missed out on anything important.
I am so proud of you…that you had the courage to do what you did. You are strong! Keep on being strong and know that all of us here are behind you…rooting for you…and willing to talk or help out in any way we can.
Keep in touch!
Luv,
Becky
Wow that almost made me cry, literally. That really is an amazing thing you did; I hope everything works out well!
That was a good decision,u were able to decide what YOU want.I also had the same problem five years ago,bt because i knew what was good for me and my unborn child.Five years later i have bright baby girl, father still there and he's supportive even my parents and there's another one on the way.GOD BLESS.
God gave you that baby for a reason….. i guess….. to make your life better….u..no….um….idk…..what happened …was good….and abortion is not right at all…The baby should not be blamed for anything and abortions only happen because of their selfish needs and others….
I am only 10. My mom allowed me to come to site.My mom talked to me about pregnancy and sex and protection.I think what you girls have been through is traumatic.I look up to you girls.My friend in sixth grade got pregnant and her parents got divorced,she was torn apart.Anyway…..I read your story and It is heart touching.
hi. im 16 and just found out im pregnant. i thought being young everyone would be disappointed and despise me in some way, but reading that you were younger and able to do it has really given me confidence. my mum is very religious and the sort of no sex before marriage, well her daughter is 4 weeks pregnant and 16. but thanks for sharing that story it has really helped and i hope you and your baby are healthy and happy 🙂
Hey.. I just wanted to say that your story brought me to tears. I'm so glad you made the decision to keep this baby alive. I'm wondering if you would keep me up to date and let me know how its going. I admire you, you may be young by the worlds standards but you made a grown up choice, and you will be growing up quickly as a mommy, but you'll be fine. Let me know if you just wanna chat.
Julie
I'm not trying to judge you or anything but you had your first abortion at 14, don't you think you should have learned a lesson the first time? Where were your parents while you were having sex(at14/15)? Its great that you stood up for yourself, but an unwanted pregnancy could have been the least of your problems. I used to work at a clinic and have seen the effects of std's on very young girls, its very tragic. I hate to be the one to have to say it but young girls wouldn't need to make the choice whether or not to have an abortion, especially a second time, if they used the proper precautions the first time.
Wow what an amazing story, girl u da best. I also had an abortion and I know 4 sho I would also not go through with it again.Im very proud of u.:0
this is really inspiering..and my friend just found out she was pregnat and had an abortion i was craying and she went on like nuthin i love babys and would never try to hurt them..good thing yuhh did what yurr heart told yuhh to..=]]
im 2 months and so happy..my boyfriend and i are still together and hes so happy that i am keeping this one and i think after what happened 7 months ago i am able to make a stronger and more personal decision that will make Me the happy one in the end
this is the first time ive gone to people who know what it feels like to make the biggest mistake ever in their life. i just wanted to say i respect u so much for being strong the second time around cuz im doing the same thing..i had an abortion (through pill) about 7 months ago..my baby would be due next month…and it killed me because it wasnt my decision..and this time im prgenant…2 months
Thank you for your story! Way to go!!! I wish I could hug you and offer you some kind of support other than a comment on your page. Maybe this comment will help you in the future, when you're tired, and want to give up. Just look into your baby's eyes… You'll find the strength.
Dear Becki,
I really do understand how you feel. When I was 13 I found out I was almost 2 months pregnant when I went to a clinic for a birth control shot. I immediately had to tell my mom and boyfriend, to my surprise nobody wanted me to have it. I was so scared my mom would disown me and kick me out that I let her talk me into an abortion and I cried through the entire process. I still regret it now 2 years later. It still feels like it happened yesterday. What I am trying to say is that I am really proud that you stood up and fought them.
I went through the same thing but i just got my abortion back in Dec.07 i had just turned 16 when i got my abortion. I do have to say the pain of that has made me a mess i cant get that day out of my head. So i know the pain she went through :/ I live with the fear of if i did the right thing? Do us woman who get abortion play god? We get to choose if our own child gets to live or die.
wow i cant even imagine… i just had a baby girl on January 6th and i love her and wouldn't change it for the world.. everything happens for a reason…. be strong its not as hard as it seems..
I am glad that you did what your heart was telling you. I just wish I knew what my heart was telling me..
you made a good decision i went thru a similar situation i was ready to go an get the procedure done still unsure so i couldn't live myself knowing that im about to terminate my third baby i mean other 2 times i was force but im 17 now 13 weeks caring this baby to full terms and ready to take full responsibility of becoming the best mother that mom was never all by myself with no family support only from my baby father everything will work out just fine wish you the best
I really thank you for sharing this information with all of us.I personally just found out that I was pregnant today,you might understand what I'm going through as of now ……….your story has only given me the inspiration that I so desperately need right now
thanks for sharing
Lauren,
That story is AMAZING! Good for you for sticking up for your baby and yourself!!!
You are one brave Mama.
wow this story is really inspiring…i love it,it has definitely helped me 2 see other girls r just like me n the same position im in and im not alone thnx:-)