My name is Heather and I am 19. My boyfriend is 21 we have been together for 3 1/2 years.
I got pregnant about 7 1/2 months ago. I told my boyfriend the second I found out. His reaction was not the best and for about a month or so he was very mean to me and made comments like “maybe if we get into a car accident you won’t be able to have your stupid kid” and mean evil things like that everyday.
We barley spoke for over a month.
His mother didn’t help the situation either she told both of us that it was all my fault because it is 100% the womans responsibility to take care of birth control issues. And that I should have an abortion cause I know how he felt about the situation and that I didnt care about my boyfriend if I didn’t have an abortion and that I was ruining his life.
My boyfriend and I werent using condoms or birth control and he knew I wouldn’t have an abortion if I got pregnant and I knew he didnt want kids at his age so I personally feel we are both at fault since we both knew the circumstances.
Well finally I moved four hours away from him to be by my family. About a month later he asked me if he could move in with me. He said — he really wanted to make this work and that he was as ready as he was going to be for this responsibility. We discussed it and I explained things would have to change. He agreed and moved in.
He has made a complete turn around he is a totally different person and is in love with his child already. She is due to be born April 4th 2007. And although he has changed and has stated that he knows he was wrong for how he acted in the beginning and he told me he wasn’t sure what to do he was scared and he felt the only thing he could do was be angry.
I cant help but still feel some hatered toward him for how he did treat me for that month or so after he found out I was pregnant. I can’t help but lash out at him some times even now 7 months later I don’t know why I am still mad at him he treats me like a queen and I know he is sorry but like I said I still feel some hate for him treating me in such an aweful way. I do love him and I don’t want to be mean to him but” I just don’t know if I can ever forget the things he said to me”. I just need some advice about the whole thing and someone to tell me how they feel about my story.
Thanks in advance,