StandUpGirl mother with baby boy on shoulder

Hi Becky,

I’m writing to day to hopefully inspire one girl, somewhere. I found out I was pregnant a little after i turned 17. I was a run away and heavily addicted to drugs. When i found out i cried for hours and when i told the father of my baby i was pregnant he said "take care of it" as in...get an abortion. I was mortified. That word in my head was not realistic, it sickened me to hear that from someone i cared so much about. I moved back home and stopped all drug use and started researching my options. My mom did not know why i moved back, until a little later she had the motherly feeling that i was pregnant. And her response to me when i finally came out and told her was.....get an abortion. I threw up instantly hearing those words again. I knew in my heart that i could never do that. Even though when i was at the doctors they told me "you know its still early you can just take a pill, you will only have cramps and bleeding" and I walked out of that doctors office right after she said that. I was so saddened to see how our society has become. How easy it is to just...get an abortion. So with my mom being of no support, i got a job that I walked 4 miles to work everyday and back late at night.

She was persistent about me not keeping the child so then i was told i HAD to call an adoption agency. When the woman came from the agency she was very sweet, showed us profiles of hopeful parents. I could not talk through the whole interview. We kept the profiles and said we would call her back. I never did. Though i am all for adoption agencies, the hopefuls are amazing people who deserve children. But i knew in my heart this baby was mine.

So that day i went and bought a pregnancy book set up my first ob appointment. From the day i heard his heart beat i told myself i will do anything and everything to keep this baby and give him everything he deserves. So i decided to leave my house and move to another state with my babies grandfather. He said he would house me. I stayed in the other state until my son was born. It was the most amazing experience i had ever felt, seen, heard. It brings tears to my eyes at the moment just to think of this moment. I left the father of my beautiful son when he was a month.  I was so happy to be able to leave him, he was abusive, drug user and cheated on me regularly. I delt with him in the other state just so i
would have a place to have my baby. Once i had my son my mom changed her mind and begged me to come back and live with her. Till this day she apologizes for ever mentioning an abortion.

Now my son is 2. Our birthdays are 1 day apart. I was 17 when he was born and then spent my 18th birthday in the hospital with the best gift i have ever gotten. I was so blessed.  Now i get to have an experience no one else does. He is my other half, were together everywhere. And education does not end. I am graduating this semester with my associates degree and transferring to a cal state! My son and I are unbreakable and im happy i did everything i could to have him.  

Abortion is not the answer. Im a single mom and loving every minute!! xo


Dearest Rachele - hi, I'm Lisa and I'm from the Stand Up Girl website.
When I read your e-mail I couldn't help but just be in awe of your
mature and loving Stand for life.  I'm amazed at the amazing woman and
Stand Up Girl that you are Rachele!

Would it be OK with you if we posted your story on our Stand Up Girl
website?  I just know that it will touch the heart of many around the
globe.  Just let me know.

I'm sure your mom is absolutely blown away at her grandson and is so
very proud of you for taking a Stand.  Thank you so much for sharing
your wonderful Stand Up Girl story with us.

Please keep in touch.  We love hearing good things.

Take care of yourself.


Luv Lisa
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  1. myangelsinheaven

Dear Rachele,<br /><br />This is a happy ending to a situation that doesn't always end up the same for other young girls. I wish that everyone would read this story. <br /><br />You should be very proud of yourself as your son will be one day...

Dear Rachele,<br /><br />This is a happy ending to a situation that doesn't always end up the same for other young girls. I wish that everyone would read this story. <br /><br />You should be very proud of yourself as your son will be one day when you share this story with him, and it's obvious your mother is as well. Sometimes it takes someone elses courage to show us the path.....where we want to see a change but we're afraid to be "the one". <br /><br />If we could all be the change that we want to see in the world, we would rid the world of a lot of sin.<br /><br />God bless you and your beautiful boy. The Lord works in mysterious ways. The father of your baby may see what he's missed and change his views. Then, you would be the one to bring about the change.<br /><br />Congratulations on the birth of your baby and transfer to Cal state. <br />myangelsinheaven

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  1. stephsinglemom

Rachele, thank you so much for sharing your story. I relate to it so much, I got told to haved an abortion by so many people including my own mother. Now she has come around but I know how much it hurts. I will also be a single mom. I am still...

Rachele, thank you so much for sharing your story. I relate to it so much, I got told to haved an abortion by so many people including my own mother. Now she has come around but I know how much it hurts. I will also be a single mom. I am still pregnant but cannot wait to hold my baby, your story is so inspiring and it's amazing how you finished school and everything which I am still planning on continuing. Thanks for sharing XO

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  1. ken

hi Rachelle.. I'm ken, i was really touched by your story. I could relate on your experiences because right now i am also experiencing teenage pregnancy and my mom advised me to abort it, it is hard being on my own.But I know I can! Thanks for...

hi Rachelle.. I'm ken, i was really touched by your story. I could relate on your experiences because right now i am also experiencing teenage pregnancy and my mom advised me to abort it, it is hard being on my own.But I know I can! Thanks for inspiring me in a way. I really cried reading your story. good luck Rachelle.

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  1. Nicolette

Thanks for sending this, I have no doubt that you have helped so many people with this- I mean alot of the girls who come hear are just as frightened as you are and also don't have the support from their parents at this time, so I think you're...

Thanks for sending this, I have no doubt that you have helped so many people with this- I mean alot of the girls who come hear are just as frightened as you are and also don't have the support from their parents at this time, so I think you're awesome, this is an awesome story- it will encourage so many people, you were so courageous and I'm sure your courgae will inspire many others...<br /><br />Nicki

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  1. harrell_34

wow your story is just like mine only im still 17 and im still pregnant,my boyfriend who i was with for a year and 3 months left me because we found out i was pregnant and he wanted to party and to have the "collage life" and not take...

wow your story is just like mine only im still 17 and im still pregnant,my boyfriend who i was with for a year and 3 months left me because we found out i was pregnant and he wanted to party and to have the "collage life" and not take responsibility for his actions...honstly i am scared to death and reading your story shows me that i can do it and that i dont need my ex in my life to help me with my baby...everyone kept pressuring me to have an abortion but im like you i cant do it to a poor innocent soul that has never done anything wrong to me...and im not that selfish to kill a baby just so my life will be ok...im scared out of my mind...but your story gives me hope.

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  1. AlwaysInMyHeart

Hey, I’m Rebekah. I’m 17. I look at your story and its amazes me… but I’m worried. I don’t know if I’m that strong. My boyfriend Jason, he wants me to get an abortion or I’m not going to see him again. We are a mixed couple, ...

Hey, I’m Rebekah. I’m 17. I look at your story and its amazes me… but I’m worried. I don’t know if I’m that strong. My boyfriend Jason, he wants me to get an abortion or I’m not going to see him again. We are a mixed couple, don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with that at all. Its just his parents don’t really trust me, because I’m white. Witch I understand. I just have to give them time to get to know me. Its just I found out I was pregnant and now he said he would tell them I’m some crazy white girl who just wanted a mix kid by a Jamaica. He said they would disown me, and never let him talk to me again. I don’t know what to do, because that’s not the truth but they wouldn’t believe me. He’s a really sweet guy, he’s just scared; like I am, right? I just don't think i have it in me to do this. i read him your story and he said that this is all fake. that we'd end up in the "ghetto." but i don't believe that a child is bad, its a blessing.... no matter how old you are. My baby is a part of me, its my own blood.

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  1. MittaX

I've just read a touching story. You are a strong woman and how I wish that other people would do almost the same to save their unborn ones. You are a living example, now women out there will no that pregnancy is not a sin.

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  1. limegreenrocks_13

hi, im courtney and i just read a amazing story! I was 14 when i found out i was pregnant. I did not know what to do i had questions after questions to ask ABORTION never came up i would not do it, my boy friend at the time also said that...

hi, im courtney and i just read a amazing story! I was 14 when i found out i was pregnant. I did not know what to do i had questions after questions to ask ABORTION never came up i would not do it, my boy friend at the time also said that ABORTION was not an option we planned to keep the baby. We went to our first and second Dr. appointment together and the first one was great. the second appointment i found out that i lost the baby. Still to this day my family does not know.

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  1. Sweetiesammy

hi, im sammy and 17 years old. My bf is 21 and we recently found out i was pregnant. <br />My mum wants me to have an abortion as she said it would ruin my life but i just dont know if i can do it <br />You have inspired me and made me realise...

hi, im sammy and 17 years old. My bf is 21 and we recently found out i was pregnant. <br />My mum wants me to have an abortion as she said it would ruin my life but i just dont know if i can do it <br />You have inspired me and made me realise that it is not a bad thing, it is actually a blessing and i would be a fool to ruin that. <br />The more i think about it and read these inspriring messages, the more i realise that i could cope and my baby is such a special person. <br />thanks so much

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  1. klasiquev

Your story will inspire heaps of girls :-) That's natural motherly love that you have and I agree...u are truly a stand up girl to have given up the drugs for ur baby and then stood against all those who wanted u to have an abortion and then to...

Your story will inspire heaps of girls :-) That's natural motherly love that you have and I agree...u are truly a stand up girl to have given up the drugs for ur baby and then stood against all those who wanted u to have an abortion and then to also leave ur abusive partner...what an example u are! Babies truly are a blessing :-)<br /><br />Much love to u and ur baby

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