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Dear Becky,  I found out I was pregnant when I was 17. I was a Senior in high school. When I first found out I was with some friends and my  boyfriend. We had been together already for three years. Anyway, when I found out, I thought my world was over. I sat and cried on my best friend's shoulder for about an hour.

I didn't know what I was going to do or how I was going to tell my parents. My boyfriend and I talked and decided that we would let it sink in before we told them. We decided three days should be enough time to make some  plans.

There was never an other option for us but to go through with  the pregnancy. I thought I would talk to one of my teachers  about it just to get an idea of how to word it for my parents.  I really wanted to make us look as responsible as possible  under the circumstances. I mean, I was on the pill and took it  religiously. So, I went to her one day and told her what was going on. She was my theater teacher.

I have always wanted to pursue acting as a career and she knew  that. She encouraged it. When I told her that I was pregnant,  however, she said that I had other options that I should consider and that if I kept it I would ruin my chances for an acting  career and that I wouldn't be socially accepted at that school.

I know I shouldn't have been so angry seeing that I was the one  to approach her, but I guess I was looking for more support for  my decision. Needless to say, I kept my baby and I stayed at  that school. I was still able to participate in plays at school  and was even able to be on stage while I was pregnant! I was  completely accepted at that school. A few cheerleaders scoffed  whenever i walked by, but I really didn't care. I was fortunate  enough to have great friends and a completely supportive  family.

My boyfriend is now my husband and joined the military so that  we could have what we needed. We havve been together for seven  years and I just had my second child and am attending the local  college for my film degree. I just want every girl out there  that finds herself pregnant not to listen to the people who tell you that you won't be able to follow your dreams because you are having a baby. That is the biggest pile of crap you could ever hear.  The only thing that will stop you is yourself. Just have  faith in yourself. Be strong and never lose sight of what you want. It does take work, but it isn't impossible.

Rosie

 

Hi Rosie,  My name is April and I help Becky answer emails.

Thank you so much for emailing your story.  I loved reading it.  It was so inspiring.  I am really proud of you.  Way to be a Stand Up Girl!  I am so glad that you did not give in to your theatre teacher.  Can you imagine how your life would be now if you had taken her advice?  You have a lot of reason to be proud of yourself.

It is wonderful to hear that you are so successful as a mother and a student.  In the face of adversity you have risen to the occasion and succeeded.  Your children are lucky to have a mother like you.

Love, 

April

Comments (22)

  1. brianna F

thank you for your story, it brought me to tears, and inspired me very deeply, thanks!!!

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  1. Ikea

An inspiration to me.. Thanks!

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  1. wizdom

YOUR STORY WAS UPLIFTING, MY OLDEST DAUGHT FOUND HERSELF IN A SIMULAR SITITION. I LET HER READ YOUR STORY. IT ENCOURGE HER TO NOT LOOK AT THE PRESENT SITUTION, BUT TO REMEMBER WHAT THE END COULD BE IF YOU DON'T LOSE YOURSELF, OR LET YOUR MISTAKES...

YOUR STORY WAS UPLIFTING, MY OLDEST DAUGHT FOUND HERSELF IN A SIMULAR SITITION. I LET HER READ YOUR STORY. IT ENCOURGE HER TO NOT LOOK AT THE PRESENT SITUTION, BUT TO REMEMBER WHAT THE END COULD BE IF YOU DON'T LOSE YOURSELF, OR LET YOUR MISTAKES BECOME PROBLEMS BUT ONLY AN OPPORTUNTIY FOR A SECOND CHANCE. THANKS SO VERY MUCH FOR YOU COURAGE

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  1. Lats

thats so true no one can stop you from doing what you want to do but yourself.

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  1. MizzNicole

Hello everyone. My name is Ashely and I am 19 years of age. I currently am in my freshman year of college and I live with my grandmother. I just found out today that I am pregnant and I'm in total shock. I am so scared. I don't know how I'm going...

Hello everyone. My name is Ashely and I am 19 years of age. I currently am in my freshman year of college and I live with my grandmother. I just found out today that I am pregnant and I'm in total shock. I am so scared. I don't know how I'm going to tell my parents, grandmother or aunt and uncle, not to mention my boyfriend's parents. We both are scared and worried. This will be our first baby between my boyfriend and I. I'm afraid my grandmother will kick me out and then I'll have no where else to go but back home to Atlanta, Georgia where I am originally from and where my mom and dad are, and I really don't want to do that because I want to stay with my boyfriend. We plan to get a place together later on this year around the time the baby is born/due. Anyway, my whole point is that basically...I don't know what to do. I mean, of course 'm keeping my baby. I can't even imagine me going through with an abortion. That's out of the question. I have not my own place (yet) and I don't even have my own car, but my boyfriend does. So it's like I know EXACTLY how my grandmother and parents are going to react when they find out. I'm just SO SCARED!!! I don't know when I'm going to tell them or even HOW I'm going to tell them. I was thinking that since my mother lives so far away (I'm in Michigan) I could just send her and my dad a letter telling them the news, because of how scared I am. And then I just don't know how I'll tell my granny because she's very mean. I'm so scared of what she'll say and do. But the thing is, my aunt had her baby when she was 18 and my granny got pregnant at 16 and had my uncle at 17. So why would they be so angry when they did it their selves?? Does anyone feel me on this?

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  1. my3girls

I am in a very similar situation. I got pregnant when I was seventeen. I then married my boyfriend and we have had two additional kids. My husband also joined the military due to the benefits. He is presently in Iraq and even though my life...

I am in a very similar situation. I got pregnant when I was seventeen. I then married my boyfriend and we have had two additional kids. My husband also joined the military due to the benefits. He is presently in Iraq and even though my life story is not ideal, I wouldn't change it for the world. I love my daughters and husband.

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  1. Aeron dyal

Hey this is a great story and i am sorry that this has happend.

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  1. *tasha*

hi<br />im 17 and ive just found out im pregnant. Now i want to keep the baby because i don't want to kill something that is part of me, i also don't want to put it up for adoption. I live in England so college is different her. i will finish my...

hi<br />im 17 and ive just found out im pregnant. Now i want to keep the baby because i don't want to kill something that is part of me, i also don't want to put it up for adoption. I live in England so college is different her. i will finish my child care course 6 months after the baby would be born so i would be able to get a job and provide for my baby. however, my boyfriend wants it 2 be aborted n my mum said that if i ever got pregnant she would force me into havin an abortion. you girls are an inspiration and i thank you for this site. if any of you could give me some tips and ur own xperience i would be really gratedul. thanks

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  1. tmarie

hi girls I just started reading some of these stories today and all of them are so touching and remind me of my own situation. I got pregnant for my first daughter at 17 years old i was a senior in high school, and totally unprepared for some of...

hi girls I just started reading some of these stories today and all of them are so touching and remind me of my own situation. I got pregnant for my first daughter at 17 years old i was a senior in high school, and totally unprepared for some of the things I would face. My high school guidance counselor "advised" me to drop out of school and get a GED however after all my hard work to get through school, being active in sports and clubs and getting good grades I was not about to let other people bring me down. I was not allowed to graduate on time, even though I fought with the board of education, the town i grew up in was small and it did not look right to have a pregnant teen in the class photo. I went back to the same school the next year and finished out my high school requirements, and proudly showed my beautiful baby girl off. After all it was her I was working for too. I went on to go to college, and my daughter went with me there too, we lived at my parents for a while, with my her dad who was my husband before she was born. I graduated college and ironically moved to the same town, and only a few houses away from that high school guidance counselor, and when i was out walking my daughter one day we ran in to each other and I made a ponit to tell her how well we were all doing, all about the good job I had and the good things that were going on in my life that would not be the same if things didn't happen the way they did. I am not saying for one minute that it was all easy because GOD knows it wasn't we struggled for a few years but I had a purpose, I had some one else to take care of and that made it all worth while. all the smiles the kisses , hugs, and giggles, all the moments when you think of how lucky you are to be this kids' parent that makes up for all the struggles. I am now 29 years old and I would never want my 11 year old or my 5 year daughter to go through the things that I had to as a young parent but if that happens one day, I would be as supportive as I can be.<br />there are many services for young parents,( I am in NY State) not sure if all these things are the same from state to state but here planned parent hood, has some great things, parenting classes, support groups, birthing classes, and simply people to talk to, finacially speaking social services and WIC ( women with infant children) programs help with the struggles of money and food and getting basic needs met. <br />I guess my adivce to any young pregnant girl would be not to lie it's not going to be easy, but you get back what you put in and if you put all your effort in to being the best parent you can be the rewards are amazing, I love being a mom and I hope you do too! :-) good luck !

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  1. xrabx

hey my names robyn andim 17 years old, ive recently foundut im pregnant to my boyfrend of 3 years. although i would neve have an abortion, im still really scared or what my life will be ikein 6 months time. i feel lik im goiny have to grow up...

hey my names robyn andim 17 years old, ive recently foundut im pregnant to my boyfrend of 3 years. although i would neve have an abortion, im still really scared or what my life will be ikein 6 months time. i feel lik im goiny have to grow up realy fast and sacrafice alo of things i dnt wanna. athough im having these feelings theres no doubt in my mind tht as soon as holding a little baby in my arms none of toses things will matter. unlike alot of people my mum and i have a brill relationship and literally the minute i found out i told her although she was dissapointed i hadn lived y life more she was 100% supportive. i wish al the girls good luck for the future dnt listen to anyone else do what YOU want. x

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