Kendra, I know that you wrote this a few months ago, however, I am new to this site and your story touched me. My name is Anna and I am now 37 years old and I want to share my story with you.
I had my son, Angel is his name, when I was 15 yrs old…he is now 21. It seems like you have made the decision to not get pregnant at the age of 14, and I am very excited to hear that. Everyone has given you AWESOME advice!!!!
Prior to me getting pregnant, I thought just like a 15 year old would….a cute baby, a little person depending on you, cuddling, playing dress up etc…however, after getting pregnant, I never thought that his father would ever leave. I never thought that I would be raising a child alone. I never thought that my little guy would get older and start to have feelings of his own. I never thought that he would start asking questions about a dad he knew of, but was never in his life. I never thought that he would start bed wetting at the age of 8. I never thought that I would have to put him in counseling because he missed his dad that never really took part in his life. I never had the right words to console him because I had both of my parents and I truly did not know how he was feeling. It was sooooo painful for me to see him hurt so bad. If anything that I can offer to you is to talk to someone in his position and hear “that child talk” as an adult and listen to his/her story. We don’t think about the child prior to conception, but they are real little beings that grow up.
It took a lot of courage for you to reach out to someone prior to making one of the biggest decisions of your life….I commend you!!!! Enjoy being 14, enjoy those football games, homecoming dances, prom etc…I can tell you from experience, I have no memories of one of them….I was a mom and I was changing diapers and making bottles while my friends were telling me their wonderful memories.