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March 16, 2006 at 1:27 am #10615neverfeltsoalone1
Last year I made the decision to have a abortion, i was a full time student and scholarship athlete, and in a relationship that i knew wouldnt last. I am still completley devasted by it, I cant see a baby on tv without crying. I am so scared now because I am in this amazing relationship with someone i want to spend the rest of my life with. I can honestly say that we have been less then careful when it comes to protection. I am so scared that I am not going to be able to have the family I have always dreamed of. Its stupid but we are so anxious, we already have names picked out, Mateyo for a boy and Eva for a girl. I can’t wait, we can’t wait, but I am soooo scared that I won’t be able to get pregnant after what i did.May 3, 2006 at 10:54 am #10996Anonymous
One thing that I know you didn’t have to do was have an abortion.
I’m sorry that that’s what society seems to make everyone think…I can’t imagine the pain you feel.
I look at my daughter every day and I cry thinking about how there are so many women who abort their chiildren. They don’t get the chance to feel this love. I can tell you now that I’ve never felt anything like this. She is the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen in my entire life. She gives me strength to do things that before I couldn’t do. She really is my life.
I was going to college when I found out that I was pregnant with her. It was in August that I found out, and I was planning on going back. Luckily, because of how I was raised, abortion wasn’t an option. I had to quit school. I moved back home and I now have a beautiful 17 day old baby girl, and I don’t regret it. I am going back to college, but this time it’s not for me. It’s for her.
Anyway, I am sure that you will be able to have more children. My fiancee’s mom has had two abortions, and she has three kids. She had one before my fiancee and his older sister. Then she had one before she had her youngest son. I don’t know how she could have done it twice, but… It’s sad to even be saying what happened, but I hope that it helps you feel better about having children.
I wish you could take what you ended up doing back…
Abortion hurts everyone. My fiancee still can’t stop thinking about the siblings he lost when he found out his mom had abortions. It hurts him more than words can describe, and when I told him that I was pregnant, although he knew how I feel about abortion, he was still afraid that I might have one without telling him.
I wish you luck with having a child, and I hope that everything works out with you boyfriend. Even if it doesn’t work out with him, it will always work out with your baby. No matter what, remember that no man is more important than you’re child. No one is as important as your child, and school can wait. I know someone who got pregnant in college and kept going while she was pregnant, she had her baby, and came back to school two days later. She ended up graduating with a child. If she can do it, so can you.
Good luck with having a baby. They truly are blessing.September 28, 2006 at 12:24 am #11993Anonymous
I had an abortion when i was 17 and a not a day went by i did not think about what i had done.
Now i’m 5 months pregnant and 21. If it is done correctly i think it is possible.
the guy i’m with now i thought it would never happen. but i did,
Pray and it shall be answered.March 19, 2007 at 9:33 pm #15964natalie1986
hey there! well i can say that yes you will be able o get pregnant again! i had 2 abortions within 6 months of each other only to ge pregnant again and miscarry…but on the bright side i am now 37 weeks pregnant and ouldnt be more happy. i was exactly the same when i saw other eople with babies amd it does get easier trust me, this pregnancy was planned but it took like 10 months for m to get pregnant again and i thought it would never happen, i guess it happens when the time is right for you body. anyway..all the best and keep your chin up!!! NatalieMarch 20, 2007 at 8:11 am #15968Meg11
I am sorry that you are in the midst of pain and an emotional battle. There are a few things I agree with from the other comments but I would like to add to them and refine them. Abortion is wrong for so many reasons you know that obviously because you are in the spot you are in. I am not going to drill you and shove it down your throat…thats not what you need. What you need is truth just like all of us. I am sure that you will end up conceiving again. Most women can after abortion. My concern for you is that you are letting the pain and regret from your decision lead you to believe a lie. One woman commented "pray and it shall be answered" I believe whole heartedley that God answers prays…every single one. Sometimes He says yes sometimes no and sometimes not right now. I know from my own personal experience that God is not going to "bless" things that dont honor Him. He declares in His word that sex outside of marriage is not what He wills for us nor is it pleasing to Him. So to pray "Dear God me and my boyfriend want a baby…would you please bless us with a child even though we are living in sin and rebeling against what Your best is for us???" is a very ignorant thing to do. I spent 10 yrs being sexually active and I had 2 kids from 2 dads outside of marriage, so dont think I am some "churchy girl" who doesnt understand what it is like to live in the world of sexual imorality. I know very well what that life leads to…Death!!! You have already experienced that. The death of a baby because things were not done in the order that God ordained them to be done in. I really do feel your hurt my sister has had 3 abortions and she has shared her greif with me. I hope that you will hear my words. I made the choice to be abstinent untill marriage when I found out I was pregnant with my second. 3 1/2 years went by untill I got married and I had sex with my husband for the first time on our wedding night. I have never experienced such fredom and blessing in a relationship. God loves to bless people who desire to do it His way. We all fall short of His grace…we all stumble…but if we are saved by the blood of Jesus then we are forgiven and are mercies are renewed every morning. I hope that you would take the right steps to get on a path that would please the Lord. Please get married before you have a baby…everyone involved (especially that baby) will be so blessed. I always say that with the life I was living I deserved AIDS but God in His grace gave me children instead. God does bless us inspite of who we are even when we are in sin, and I think He gave me kids instead of AIDS because He knew that I would turn from my sin and praise Him. So I hope and pray that you are prepared for the reprocussions that could stem from the choices you make from here on out regarding sex before marriage. I hope and pray the you would let the Lord heal your broken heart and that He would restore to you the life and joy that was taken from you. If you have any questions about why I feel the way I do or what my life used to be like just post a note on my page…Today is the day to make new choices..MegMarch 21, 2007 at 3:19 am #15989Stephie.b
Plenty people get pregnant after an abortion sweetie, so dont worrie, If ur really worried have a fertility test, bu im sure u will b fine xxxx
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