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- August 5, 2007 at 9:58 am #18568
I have been off the pill for about 2/3 weeks now because it was making me moody and im waiting 2 change pill on monday. But on thursday i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend because i never usually get pregnant any other time so i just went for it. But my period is not due till Aug 14th and i just went 2 the toilet there and im bleeding, its really light but i dont understand why im bleeding at all? does anyone know?August 5, 2007 at 11:44 am #18569
Hey there, My name is Meagan and I help out on here, I came across your post and it caught my attention…first off I would suggest that you take a pregnancy test and or go to the doctor and get a blood test done….you can call Option Line for free at 1-800-395-HELP, they can set you up with the nearest pregnancy center to you where you can take a free and 100% confidential test and have someone by your side to counsel you depending on the results…second I want you to pause for a moment and think about where you are in life….you are obviously taking birth control because you are not ready for a baby, is that correct??? Well I don’t know if you knew this or not but birth control pills, condoms, shots, IUD’s, pulling out, keeping track of your ovulation and all such other "forms" of birth control are not 100% effective, the only form of birth control that is 100% effective to prevent pregnancy and STD’s is abstinence….and also as you have already experienced different "forms" of birth control can mess with your body, both physically and emotionally…..I don’t know how old you are or what your back ground is but that really doesn’t change the issue… you could be 12 or you could be 35 and I would still tell you that if you are not married you should really consider abstinence….you see, I was 19 and unmarried when I got pregnant the first time and 22 and unmarried when I got pregnant with my second from a different dad….it was hard…I was a single mom for 4 1/2 years with no family and no child support from either dad…when I found out I was pregnant the second time I realized that I needed to get my act together and protect myself from having more kids out of wedlock and that birth control was not the answer…I remained abstinent for 3 1/2 years until my wedding night and it was the best choice I have ever made in the area of protecting myself and my kids….I knew that my husband loved me because he asked for my hand and offered his love until death before he asked to take my clothes off and offer me kids on my own….you are worth more than this life of worry and stress about missing periods or not knowing why it is messed up, you have so much more going for you than to get stuck with a baby on your own, you are worth more than some guy having sex with you but not being willing to commit to you first….demand what you deserve….respect and honor…the world leads us to believe that having sex and living together before marriage is the way to do it nowadays….test drive the car to make sure you like it right??? Well honey you are not a car and neither is your boyfriend….if you love each other then wait….true love waits and true love will stand the test of time…if you can be faithful to not have sex until marriage then you will be able to keep your vows and promises IN marriage….my suggestion is to stop having sex and to not be on birth control….sounds like bad advise but is it??? Before I got married I was not on birth control, I didn’t want to end up getting to hot and heavy and then have the excuse of "well I’m on birth control, if we slip up then at least we wont have to worry about pregnancy" NO WAY, I wanted and needed that fear of pregnancy before marriage…it is a wonderful form of birth control…now a few months before marriage I did get on birth control to make sure it was in my system so that we wouldn’t get pregnant on our wedding night…LOL…but you know what….I have been on birth control for sometime now…I am in the same spot as you…I could be pregnant…I am not supposed to start until next Tuesday but I started spotting last night, in the same way and description you gave… as I have read on here and have had confirmed by my friends and sister there is a such thing as implantation bleeding…I am not a doctor so I can’t tell you or myself if that is what is going on but if you have had sex (I am married so obviously I have) then there is a chance that we could both be, even though we were both on birth control, but honey listen to the difference…if I find out I am pregnant how will it differ from if you do??? I want you to think long and hard about abstinence, you will never regret it….if you are pregnant then there is nothing you can do to take back that fateful moment of conception but you can learn form the future….your baby might shock your boyfriend or your family but in time your baby will be very loved and accepted but it wont be the same as if you got married and your parents are EXPECTING grandkids….I hope this hasn’t come off the wrong way all I am doing is telling you that I have walked the road that you are on and it doesn’t pay….there is heartache and suffering and so many more trials….life is hard in general but you can make choices to prevent some of the rough times….like the choice of abstinence…that one choice can save so much unwanted grief in life…no fear of pregnancy before marriage, no risk of STD’s or worse…AIDS…you wont have to wonder if your boyfriend is going to stick by your side in the event of pregnancy because there is no risk of it….if your period is late or messed up you will know that you are not pregnant, you wont have to take some pills that make you all sick and crazy…the good of being abstinent out weighs the bad a million times over…just think it over….it is up to you and I can’t make you choose what I did, but, I can tell you from my past and from my experience that sex before marriage is just not worth the 20 minutes of excitement it brings each time and the hours and days of lost sleep from worrying and stressing…..experience is the best teacher if you can afford the tuition, but, it doesn’t have to be your own….I hope this helps you…let me know what happens…Love Meg… email@example.com
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