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October 20, 2006 at 8:31 am #12388Anonymous
you know how you always say that we can work things out when we talk? Well, I need to tell you something…i am pregnant. I know I am a huge disappointment to you. I feel really guilty because it seems as though ever since I was born all I have been is trouble. I am sorry, I am not what you envisioned or prayed for in a daughter. I know I have failed to live up to your standards many times. I am so sorry; I know this is not a good thing. I swear I did not want this to happen, I did not try to get pregnant! I know you might not believe me, but I really did not want this to happen. However, there is now a child growing inside me, my child, your grandchild. I know you have always said if I got pregnant I have to give it up for adoption. I don’t know what I will do yet, for sure. I can not kill this child, it is part of me whether I want it or not. I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me and I hope you can love me and this child. I know I am young, but I was thinking I might keep this child. Now, I realize you have dreams for me, like going to college and meeting a man, ect. I have an idea, I can do home schooling until he/she is old enough to go to daycare, and then I can continue regular school. Or maybe I can enroll in a school that allows teen mothers to bring their children. I know you wanted more for me and I wish I was more of what you wanted in a daughter. I will take all responsibility for taking care of the child, I will be the one to get up in the night when he/she wakes up, and I will feed him/her and change the diapers. I know you will ask how I plan on paying for the supplies I need, I admit I can not pay for these things for very long on my own, but I will get a job asap. This might sound cowardly to you, but maybe if I get in a bind I can get help from various organizations and social services. I will not make you support my child, because I know you don’t want to, but if you are willing, I would love to live at home still. I know we will eventually have to talk about this in person, and I know I will need to be stronger for this child, but right know I am too ashamed to face you, so tonight I will stay at aunt laurie’s. If you need to talk to me, you can call there. The father is blank, you probably don’t remember him, he was one of the men from a few years ago. I know this probably disgusts you, that I would still be in contact with him, much less sleeping with him. I know it was immoral and I am so sorry. I knew better, I am just a weak person I guess. I am sorry, can you forgive me? Are you willing to help me? I know you are probably angry with me and I don’t blame you at all. I love you so much, mom! I only wish my child will love me a much as I love you. I know you’ve had a really hard year and I am sorry to add this to it, but this child is coming whether we are ready or not. I am very sorry, and I love you so much!October 20, 2006 at 11:07 am #12399Anonymous
Bless your heart. It sounds like you have a lot of guilt that you are carrying. We all make mistakes and none of us are perfect. It sounds to me that you are being very open and honest about your situation. Does your Aunt Laurie know about the pregnancy? If so maybe it would help to have her talk with your mother. You have to be the one to make the decision regarding the baby as you will live with your choice for the rest of your life. While other people may be able to forget it ever happened, it won’t be that easy for you to forget.
All we can do is learn from our mistakes and move forward and take responsibility for our actions.
I wish you well.
Happyn GrandmaOctober 20, 2006 at 11:12 am #12400mommytoele
Hi! I want to tell you that I wrote my mom a letter, and some of yours- was just like mine. Other parts of course, were different. Writing a letter to my mom/parents, was my first step into telling the world the truth as to what was growing inside of me. It was hard, and I can imagine it is hard for you too. How and when did you give this letter to your mother? How old are you and how far along are you?
If you need to talk… write me!
NickiOctober 21, 2006 at 11:30 am #12421bweber
wow….u and ur mom really need to talk…..so how old are you?…how far along?…and when did u find out?….i told my dad in a txt while he was at work and i was at school….i don’t like that i did it that way but what ever works for you….it must have been hard to write that letter reading how she doesn’t like whoever the father is…..October 23, 2006 at 4:19 am #12450mommytoele
[color=#000080][size=4]So… have you talked with your mother? Any new updates?
:dry:October 23, 2006 at 12:01 pm #12456Anonymous
I am 16, about a month along, I found out because I took a preg test when I was 2 weeks late. Why didn’t you like the way you told your dad? I think I am too afraid to tell her in person because I am afraid of her reaction, this way she had time to cool down,October 24, 2006 at 9:20 am #12483dillon12
i know it would be hard but i think that your mum would be more proud of you if you told her in person. i can see where you come from my arents have always wanted the best for me coz mi sis had a baby at 18 and my dad told me that it would be diff if i had a child young, i had an abortion coz i wasnt strong enogh to have my parents dissapointed in me. your mum is going to find out sooner or later, you never know she might surprise you. gud luck you have made it this far you will be a awsme mum and that will make your mum proud.October 25, 2006 at 12:45 am #12505Anonymous
No, I am being cowardly, I haven’t actually given her the letter yet, much less talked to her. I know I need to very soon so I can get a doc appt.I was thinking tho, which way is better? Should I just talk to her and forget the letter?October 25, 2006 at 2:35 am #12507krystelandgabe
I felt the same way when i had to tell my mom that i was pregnant, my son is now 17 months old and he lives with my fiance and i and even though he is not the dad there is more than enough love for him, but that is not the point the point is, you and mom will make it through this hardship, there is so much that you have take into consideration, and there is so much that she has to take into account. Yes, you got pregnant, but she is your mother and she loves you. You may be young but think about this, i was 15 when i was pregnant with my son Konor, and now i am 17 and i am pregnant with yet another child. I am now 4 1/2 months pregnant with another child and i am in shool, i have no job, my fiance has a job and its hard with one child, let alone two children. But you have to think of the baby before you make any final decisions. Is the baby going to get everything that it needs to survive? Are you going to emotionally stable, it is very emotionally hard when you have a child. But i think that writing your mom a letter was a good first step, but now you need to talk to her!October 25, 2006 at 8:16 am #12519dillon12
yea i think you should just talk to her, take the letter along and read it to her if thats easer so you dont 4get what to say czo the lettr is gud, i totaly understand u wanting to put it off. gud luck, keep in tochOctober 28, 2006 at 3:50 pm #12619kez_mummy_2_skye
Awww that was soo sad it melted my heart!
You sound very mature for your age. I hope your mum is supportive of your descion. Good luck on your pregnancyOctober 29, 2006 at 3:34 pm #12660bweber
i didn’t like the way i told me dad because i wanted to tell him in person…i was just really scared….so i did what felt easy…..i think that you should try to sit you mom down and tell her, but take that letter with you and if you get scared hand it to her and tell her to meet you in your room when she’s finished reading it………..just try to be brave…..it usually doesn’t turn out as bad as we all imagine…….
*hopes and wishes for the best*
brenNovember 3, 2006 at 6:49 am #12775Anonymous
How long until it is unsafe to hide it anymore?November 4, 2006 at 3:10 am #12794angroc1987
I think it is a good way to say it. But i also think you should talk to your mom in person. No matter how angry she gets, she’s still going to love you. I wish you the best! Good luck!
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