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October 1, 2008 at 6:33 am #22435insubordinateximpx09
Okay, here’s what happened:
I finally broke down and told my mom that I wanted to get pregnant again. She was being all sweet about it and telling me that it’s just my body and that it’s a bad time and everything. Perfectly understandable. Then my mom goes off about “how could you possibly want another baby when you can’t even take care of the one you have?”
I was extremely hurt by this. My mom takes Aiden a lot when we are at her house, but I thought she did it because she enjoyed having him and taking care of him. Apparently though, she just took him because she thought me and Tommy were doing a horrible job taking care of him.
I don’t know what to do now. I can’t even look at my mom anymore, especially since prior to this she was telling me how I was doing a good job taking care of Aiden and going to school and all that. I’ve decided that I’m going to go move into my boyfriend’s house for a while, even though we are technically living at my house. I have no idea what to do about this anymore. She’s been making snide comments off to the side to her friend that I could just ignore, but I can’t ignore this.
Can anyone give me some advice on how to handle this? Please. I could really use it.October 2, 2008 at 3:17 am #22459Anonymous
Aw, it’s too bad that your Mom said that to you! 🙁
Maybe if you got married and went to live with your boyfriend/husband it would be better? I dunno.
But I really hope that everything works out for you!
Hugs!October 2, 2008 at 3:59 pm #22482Lauren_2008
I’m sorry your mother feels that way. I know how you feel though. I have a 15 month old and a 6 week old now. When I got pregnant for the second time, my daughter was only 5 months old. My mother was angrier at this pregnancy as she felt I would not be able to cope. She looked after Aubrey a bit at this stage but it made me feel like she was only babysitting her as she felt I was struggling. This made me more determined to have my second baby. Nate is 6 weeks old now and my mum helps look after my kids still but I made it clear to her that I can cope without her. Having 2 babies close in age is really hard though so if your thinking about it, make sure you think it through properly.October 2, 2008 at 11:07 pm #22487jessey223
I think you should talk to your mom. She probably did not mean it the way it came out. She may have just meant it as with your son you need some help because of school and all. Thats not a bad thing if your mom is watching him she is helping you. I know what is like to have a mom that makes comments or does not know how to present a concern so that’s what I am equating this to. Sit her down and talk to her about what she said. And as much as you don’t want to hear this, she is right. You should wait to have another baby. Best of luck. JessicaOctober 30, 2008 at 7:05 am #22913sunnyislandgirl
The question I would like to ask u is can u really handle another baby? Before having another baby u need to be more stable maybe u and ur bf should work on getting ur own place. I am sure ur mother does not have a problem taking care of little Aiden every now and then.October 31, 2008 at 1:25 am #22928Anonymous
Wow… Maybe you should just talk to her. I don’t think she’d really mean that. She may just be stressed out. Try considering what she’s going through?
On the other hand, maybe it’s a sign that you do need to step up and go live elsewhere, like you’re boyfriend’s house. I’m sure that you’re a great mom and just stressed out at times. She needs to support you and help you learn. No one does everything right the first time!
As for another baby, I wouldn’t consider that. She is right that it’s your hormones and emotions going crazy again. I would wait until you and your boyfriend are married, live together, have stable careers, etc.
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