Hi girls. I haven’t been on here in a while, but I just wanted to kind of give a brief update and ask a question of your opinions!
So I am sixteen years old and graduating early next year so I am entering into my senior year this fall. I have a little boy named Caden who is almost a year and a half now who is a huge part of my life. His father lives in another state and is so-so in his life, kind of back and forth, but it doesn’t really affect any of us too much quite yet. Anyways, I have been dating a boy for a couple months now who just graduated and this is my question… (I’m sorry, I’m a story teller. (:)
My boyfriend and I entered into a sexual relationship, and have therefore experienced more problems than had we had waited. I mean I want to do what works for us, but I’m not sure what to do. I care so much about him, and I know he cares about me as well. He is a very closed person and a deep thinker, so it’s hard to get him to open up. The only one I seem to see that around is with my son Caden. I’m still trying to get him to open up to me and be comfortable expressing who he is with me. But at the same time, I wonder if he’s capable of handling this position he’s in. He’s a seventeen year old rowdy country boy who is exactly what I want, but he’s just that. He’s not ready to be a dad. I don’t want him to enter into that position either, but I don’t know if he should be. I’m confused as to how to have our relationship and include Caden or what role he should be playing in his life. It’s very confusing considering that I want to spend time with both of them, and he is so good with him as well. I don’t know what to expect, and neither do my parents whom I have talked to about this.
Thank you girls. I’m sorry this is a bit jumbled. There’s several things on my mind at the moment to work on!
You are going way too easy on him. If hes ready or not doesnt matter. He IS a dad, now he has to deal with it. You seem like a very bright girl, but come on stand your ground. It takes two to tango. If he didnt want a child, he shouldnt of had sex with you. Its time for him to take responsibility for his actions. If he doesnt like it…too bad.
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