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- October 7, 2008 at 6:44 am #22573
i made the hardest decision i ever had to. i gave my baby up for adoption and im just so hurt, it feels like theres a piece of me missing. even though it is a semi open adoption i get pictures and updates and i know i will get to see him again one day it still hurts bad. i know i made the right decision because i couldnt raise him on my own and his father left me when he found out i was pregnant. i just wish i could feel better about it which i know i wont. has anyone else given their baby up for adoption? and if so what advice can you give me that will help me get through this grievenceOctober 8, 2008 at 3:14 am #22589
Wow, I am so proud of you! That was the most loving thing you could do in your circumstances!
One of the girls on here, MissMyKidz, has gone through giving her baby up for adoption. You could ask her about her experiences.
I really hope that it gets easier on you! Just know that you did the right thing.
Love and hugs!October 8, 2008 at 3:56 am #22593
I am very sorry for the pain you are going thru. I can’t tell you I know what you are going thru or how to make it better, but I do want to tell you that you are an amazing person. I had an abortion at 16 because primarily that my parents were pushing it and I also thought I would not be able to do raise the baby. I was not the stand up girl that you are, you chose life for that baby and gave a family that would not otherwise had a child that chance. I admire your courage and you are the true meaning of a mother and stand up girl. You stood up and excepted the life you created and did what you felt was best for your child. You should be very proud of yourself. I do wish you peace with your decision. I am here anytime to talk. JessicaOctober 13, 2008 at 12:25 am #22649
I can’t imagine how you must feel and how difficult it must be. (I’m saying that with so much respect.) Is there an adoption agency in your area? Some of them offer post-adoption counseling services and support groups at no charge for – talking (face to face) with other people who have made a similar decision may provide some help.January 13, 2009 at 4:39 pm #23777
hi swty, i just thought i would leave a comment one year ago i had a baby girl and i was 15 years old luckily i had the support all the way through from my boyfriend and my mum. but my dad forsed me to put her up for addoption so i did. and it broke my heart and im never ever going to forgive my self for what i did and it made me cry reading what you put because i know exsactly what it feels like. but i whent to see her 2 weeks ago and i get updats and photo’s of her and iv become friends with my daughters new mummy’s sister who is 19, wich is really good. but it does get better i promise. just keep strong, good luck. thanks gabby xoJanuary 28, 2009 at 9:12 am #23926
I know exactly how you feel. I placed my son in adoption almost 6months ago. I also did a semi-open adoption and the pictures i recieve every month are my life. The best advice I can give you is to give yourself time and talk about it. Let yourself cry when you need to and it’s good to be able to talk about your child and your feelings with someone. However, I feel like the best we can do is find a way to live with the pain because I do ont think it will truly ever go away. I hope things work out for you. If you ever need to talk I’m here.
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