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- May 7, 2005 at 1:44 pm #7692
Im new here so I will start off by saying hello to everyone. *waves*
So..my situation. I am seventeen, and still am not completly regular with my period. My boyfriend and father think I am pregnant, but I didnt untill I did some reserch, and I was wondering if anyone could help give me a better idea on the possibility if I might be or not. I will get a test eventually, however I know its not always accurate in the beginning so I dont want to get an answer that might change later on. My period is usually around the 28th of each month, but im sometimes very early or late, and I am a recently recoverd addict, which has caused alot of damage to my repoductive system, and has caused me in the past to sometimes miss my menstrul cycle completly. So the missed period is not really a huge factor to me… But. I have been experincing extream high tempratures at odd times that make me feel like im burning up even though I dont feel to hot to other people, rapid mood swings, easy irratability, frequent urination, slight constipation, and fatigue. I thought that these were all symptoms of withdrawl, however after looking it up on the internet saw that they were infact sings of early pregnancy. I dont know how much I should worry though because they are also withdrawl symptoms.
My other problem is my boyfriend. He is extreamly supportive of me, takes very good care of me, and all that. We just got our first house together, and have been happily living together for some time now. However he is extreamly worried that I am pregnant because his mother thinks teen mothers are stupid and would disown him if he got me pregnant, and he isnt ready to take care of a child at his age. We have disscused the possibilities of what would happen, and while he would stand by me whatever I decided (to keep the child) he wants me to get an abortion if I am pregnant because he couldnt handle the responsibilities emotionaly or finanicaly of having a child.
so even if I was I dont know if I could tell him…
Im feeling a little lost in what to do and hope someone can give me an answer.May 9, 2005 at 10:20 am #7724
well, theres always the possibility of being pregnant. so i cant exactly say you are or arent. Because Im too not sure if im pregnant or not. But with your boyfriend issue, I think if your truly want this child, then keep it, regardless of what he wants. and yes, you should tell him if you turn out to be pregnant. He would hate you if you didnt let him no. I dont think anyone should have an abortion. I mean, this child will mean the world to you. and hey i say things happen for a reason and maybe your ment to have this child. abortion will just result in regretting everything. Do what you want, your boy friend should support you. If not, at least youll have this beautiful baby boy or girl. itll be worth it in the end.May 10, 2005 at 10:44 am #7745
I understand completely what you are going through right now, I went through the same thing last spring. I don’t want to tell you what to do, but if you are pregnant, I would like to give you some advice and prevent you and other girls from making the same mistake I made by getting an abortion. It has been a year and I still feel as much regret today as I did the day of the abortion. Really think about what YOU want to do, don’t be influenced by your boyfriend or parents (and I understand this can go either way, you wanting to keep it ot you wanting an abortion). But all I am trying to say is make sure it is your decision alone and be sure you understand that an abortion does not make everything better. While one problem may be solved, you will still will have to deal with mental and emotional stress from the process itself as well as suffering from feelings of guilt, regret, shame and even depression. Although some women may not experience this, it has most definately changed my life forever and I am sure there are many others who have been through an abortion and feel the same way as me. So please, really think about it and make sure it is what YOU want to do and you understand that once you have that abortion, your baby will be gone and there is no way you can get it back. If you have any questions or need someone to talk to, don’t hesitate to drop me an e-mail 🙂
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