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September 25, 2006 at 8:23 am #11936Morbis
Hello, I’m 19 and really need some one to talk to who has been though/ going though this. So here’s my story and maybe some one out there can help.
I’m scheduled to ship out for the Air Force in December; my family is counting on it. Yet since I’m very sure I’m going to be having a baby, I won’t be shipping out after all. I’m living with my mom who is planning on moving out of state when I ship out and sell the house. I can’t go live with my dad because there really isn’t any room. And my boyfriend, who is living with his parents, house is also too small. I can’t get a job any where hard as I try, but he is working, making pretty good money. I’m very scared about all this and have no idea what to do. I know that I’m keeping him/her because the only time I would even consider an abortion would be if both the baby and my life would be in danger. Also I just can’t see my self giving him/her up for adoption. I haven’t told my family yet because I’m terrified of what they will say and how they will act. Because not only do I have to tell them I’m going to have a baby, I also have to tell them that I wont be shipping out after all.
I haven’t had a pregnancy test yet because its still too early. But I’m showing all the signs. My moms out of town looking for a new house right now so I couldn’t talk to her even if I had told her already.
I could really use a friend right now.
Also any ideas on how to tell my parents so they don’t freak out? Its my dad I’m more worried about. Please help. I’m so lost and confused right now.September 29, 2006 at 2:33 am #12002Anonymous
I was 15 when I found out that I fwas going to have a baby. I could not work but the babys dad did. We saved up all the money we could and got our own place. It was hard but we made it work. Now as for telling your parents my mom thought that i was because I was so sick and my dad that was hard I am a daddys girl. When I told him He said that he was dissaponted in me and was sad that I was going to miss out on my teenage years. Then he told me that I was not a little girl anymore and now it was time for me to grow up. I did not talk to him for 3 months after that. It hurt me the most to know that I had dissaponted him. But after my son was born I asked him if he was still Dissapointed in me and he said no I am proud of you and I asked for what. He told me" You are only 16 years old and you have a wonderfully and healthy baby who loves as much as I do. My father and I are closer then ever. He also had 4 girls so he like having a grandson.October 31, 2006 at 4:29 am #12696Anonymous
honey you should tell your family right away so that all of you can figure out the best way to deal with this. they may not be happy at first, but they will be there for you regaurdless. because that’s what families are about. whatever happens stay strong for your baby and keep praying and you will make it just fine. my thoughts and prayers go out to you.
gina lynnOctober 31, 2006 at 7:40 am #12701krystelandgabe
I know that this is going to sound extremly hard, but you need to tell your mom, you need to talk to her about it, you just need to get it out of your system. If you dont want to tell her face to face, then write her a note and tell her that you will talk to her about it later and spend the night at a friends house for the night. but you need to tell her!October 31, 2006 at 10:29 am #12706persianprincess
I am in the exact same situation with some minor differences. I’m in university studying and doing my dream. I come from a very strict family who could just not understand or grasp the idea of their 19 year old having a child without marriage. They have no problem with abortion, however and if I choose to tell them, I would have to go to the clinic, not because of force, because of guilt and disappointment. They are currently selling their house to move too, and they wanna move closer to my school, so I dont have to travel so much everyday. My mom has always been there for me, but my dad is the kinda dad all kids are scared of, you know. So my plan? I’m 19. I can get a job if I need it, and my relationship is stable enough, and so… I’m going to move out and not let my family find out, for a long while atleast. You have to consider your situation. I don’t recommend holding off on telling your parents to be honest, if you know that there’s going to be support. Let them buy their house, because you are choosing to live your own life, and they have the right to live theirs and move as they wish. Your boyfriend is also 50% responsible, so don’t think this is all on you, try to ask him for help. There is help out there if you need it, but if you can’t ship out, try and get a job. You can get maternity leave, and that is a big bonus. I’m sure you’ll figure something out, just be strong and have confidence, and stop worrying about 2 months down the road. Think about today and make the best of it. Good luck hang in there and make sure that you are pregnant before you start freaking out 😛 🙂
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