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April 9, 2007 at 6:57 am #16699ashmo
OF THESE YOUNG GIRLS TRYING TO GET PREGNANT ON PURPOSE?! DO U NOT KNOW WHAT U ARE GIVING UP?? HAVING A BABY COMPLICATES UR RELATIONSHIP AND A BABY NEVER HAS NOR EVER WILL KEEP A GUY. U ARE JUST MAKING UR LIFE HARDER FOR URSELF. I LOVE MY DAUGHTER BUT I MISS GOING OUT AND STUFF. SO HOW DO U THINK U GIRLS WHO ARE 13 14 15 WILL FEEL WHEN I MISS THESE THINGS AT ALMOST 19 YEARS OLD?? THATS ALL IM GONNA SAY ABOUT THAT BECUZ I KNOW NONE OF U WILL EVER LISTEN TO ANY ADVICE FROM SOMEONE WHO KNOWS. UR BOUND N DETERMINED TO MAKE THINGS MORE DIFFICULT FOR URSELVES. YA BABIES ARE CUTE BUT THEY ARE ALOT OF WORK. AND DONT FORGET THAT THEY ARENT BABIES FOR VERY LONG!!
ALSO- IAM SO TIRED OF GIRLS ON HERE PRETENDING TO BE PREGGO OR TRYING TO GET ATTENTION. ALL OF U FAKES ARE USING A GOOD AND HELPFUL SUPPORT NETWORK FOR THE WRONG REASONS AND U ARE ABUSING IT!!
DOES ANYONE FEEL ME ON THIS? LOLApril 11, 2007 at 4:10 am #16731Meg11
I am very tired of FAKES…I can spot them a mile away…..this site should be a safety net for those who are hurt and confused and for those who REALLY need the encouragement….STAND UP GIRL that is the name of the site…..remember that when you dont listen to the advice you are asking for…so many girls say they need help and they dont know what to do….well when you are given counsel you get offended and you have a bad attitude and you insist on doing it your own way…STAND UP GIRL quit sleeping around, quit partying, quit letting some guy cheat on you or beat you, start listening to your parents, quit lying, quit trying to be someone else, quit taking time from people who care for those that hurt if you are not going to listen, STAND UP GIRL that is th ename of this site and if you dont want to stand up then why are you here…..I know that it takes time to change and adjust when you have kids…I am not talking to those who are in a touch season and are in the process I am talking to those who always complain and who never listen….I am ready to start seeing proof…if you are pregnant put up your ultrasounds and show your face with your belly, My heart breaks for those who struggle but it angers me that so many yourng girls claim to be or are trying to be pregnant……I come on this site to reach out to those in need not to entertain the boredom of rebelious little girls,,,,,,,MegApril 11, 2007 at 7:13 am #16733Mommieofchris
Okay, i agree that some people fake it for attention.. but they dont really hurt anyone.. but yes it is wrong..
but when it comes to having a child at a young age purposly.. maybe you look at it as robbing you of doing things you wanted too.. but for me.. it was the best change i could ever have! i still do things.. and i got pregnant at 14.. and now almost 17… yeah its hard but its exactly what i wanted! so yeah alot of people have kids and realize what its really about.. and that its not what they expected.. but maybe for some girls thats all they need.. you being a young parent should know it dosnt trash your life… maybe not being able to do everything you want is what keeps you a good person (NOT nessisarilly) but think about it.. no child.. maybe you’d be in jail for something stupid you did.. my son is the best thing ever.. and if he had come a year later, i dont know what i would have done.. if a young girl wants to get pregnant.. i know it will be hard for them.. and they will suffer some sort of hardship.. but i would suport them from the start to the end! maybe not the best option for them.. but its their choice, thier body, and afterwards, it is their responsiblity.. and i beleive young girls have every right to have a child prepared or not, cause either they give a family a child they dreamed of.. or they get a reality check and become a mother.. not sure if i made my point.. but i dont agree much at all with you. but i can see your point!April 11, 2007 at 5:23 pm #16746KylieAUS
Im 31 1/2 weeks pregnant and absolutely terrified. Its a huge responsibility. I wish i had not become pregnant again. To some – Having a baby might sound good but when you are faced with the reality of parenthood, its terrifying. All i can say is make sure you are prepared and that its what you really want. If you do become pregnant, my best wishes for you.April 12, 2007 at 3:20 am #16767Stephie.b
yh i agree with the anoyin fakes. . . . .go ashmo!!!!! lol, luff luff xxxxApril 12, 2007 at 9:34 am #16777Marie
I couldn’t agree more with what most of you have said. I mainly lurk around here but I run a site for young parents (oneyoungparent.com) and there are fakes and wanna-bes everywhere. Be a kid, stop trying to get attention. It does hurt people when you fake because people get attached to a person (even online) and betrayal is very hurtful. As for purposely getting pregnant… all that I have to say is WAIT! Whoever said that if a 14 year old wants to get pregnant let her, I have to question where your advice is coming from? It isn’t fair to that girl’s child, to her family, to her boyfriend. Trying to get pregnant as a teenager is self-destructive behaviour, and is a sign of an emotional disturbance or imbalance. I refuse to support a will to get pregnant before a person can support that child emotionally, financially, and spiritually. A child is more than a baby. God entrusts us with his children to raise them and teach them. If we haven’t learned all that we need, how are we to teach these children? I had my first child at 16. I know that it is hard and rewarding. I would not have chosen it. I find it disturbing that a teen/preteen can plan a pregnancy and have no guilt that the child created goes without, and that they have to rely on either family or welfare just for basic food and shelter. And the part that I find the most appalling is that many who are trying to become pregnant refuse to even talk to their doctors about their bodies, or to see the doctor when the pregnancy occurs.
Stand up girl is a website for those pregnant and in tough situations to stand up for what they believe in and receive support in their decisions. Not a place to discuss TTC at 13, or to come play pretend. It is unfortunate that this site has been around for so many years, (I began reading Dear Becky, before my oldest son was a twinkle in my eye), and sadly it has been reduced to a haven for fakers and wanna-be’s.April 25, 2007 at 9:25 am #17074ashmo
i completely agree. ttc at a young age is completely selfish. u may think ur ready, but hindsight is 20/20. i thought how mature i was at 14, and now im about to be 19 and realize i didnt know anything about anything! its selfish to purposely put ur child into a position where there may or might not be a father figure around, where u may be irresponsible and not watch them well, when u havent finished school and work a minimum wage job. u shud want the WORLD for ur kids. and if possible, WAIT until u have the world to offer them. ya they r cute but alot of work. and theres so much more to being a mom then changing diapers and feeding them. u need to nurture them, read books to them, play with them outside, rock them to sleep, sing to them, talk to them, interact with them. .and im sorry but i find it pretty hard to believe that extremely young girls have the desire and the emotional maturity to do all of these things. i wish i wudve been more careful just becuz im lacking in the patience department, i dont yell at her , but sometimes i want to. if i had waited for my husband to come back from iraq, he wouldve been here for my whole pregnancy, and seeing her grow up. shes 3 mos her dad has seen her for 5 days here and there. hes going to iraq for 18 mos, and when he returns my infant wont be an infant anymore . she will be 2 years old and that kills me. part of being young is being selfish, but please when it comes to another human being , dont be. dont be in a rush to grow up. enjoy every night out and being able to come and go as you please. becuz wen u are a parent it stops, ur world revolves around that little boy or girl. anf babies dont ask to be born, so make sure ur ready with a stable environment for ur kids to thrive in before u make the commitment to have one.April 28, 2007 at 2:07 am #17116kez_mummy_2_skye
Well said Ashmo!
At 13/14 i was still playing with barbies not thinking of having babies…Sure i absolutely loved them and knew from the start i wanted to a young mum but wow…noway at 14..
I have seen a few fakes around so i just know not to give them any advice, they are only here to seek attention so don’t give it to them.April 28, 2007 at 6:51 am #17120krystelandgabe
I think that yes it is sad that these girls want to have babies at 13 14 and 15, but you have to look at it from this point of view, some one the things that you say to these girls isnt really nesissary. i was 15 when i got pregnant with my first child, and i know how hard it was, but i did it, and my child is fine, i am fine. I didnt do it on purpose, but it happened. i think that saying that you cant handle a baby is just wrong. It depends on the person, just becuase you were immature at 13 14 and 15, doesnt mean that someone else is. I know that i wasnt the best person, but when i got pregnant, i got kicked out, so i had to step up and be mature. And being mature comes with the territory. I dont condone in havent a baby at 13 14 or even 15, but sometimes it happens. I know that if my daughter…( shes only 5 months… theres a little humor in that) wants to have a baby when she is that age, i will know, because i will talk to my children. And i think that wanting to have a baby that young is a failure on the parents part. The parents didnt give their child what they needed in order to satisfy them. And they obviously arent doing so now. I know that my parents didnt give me the love that i was looking for, and that is why i had a baby, i went looking for the love somewhere else. As for the Fake people on here. yes i realize that there are fake people, and that is sad that you have nothing better to do than get on an internet site and pretend to be what you arnt. I know that you can find another way to get attention. But you cant always judge a person and say that they are faking it. You dont really know for sure that a person is faking it unless they admit to it. I think that some people need to watch what they say in here because some of the things that are said are hurtful to those that you arent thinking that you are hurting. And i wanted to say in regards to the fake people, Be loved for you are, not for who your not, becuase in the end, if you are love for what you are not, you arent really loved at all….
KrystelMay 3, 2007 at 7:01 pm #17173persianprincess
I agree with ashmo, the problem is only the fact that had someone reminded you what you are retelling everyone today, you probably would not have listened. Girls at 13, 14, 15 or however young or old who WANT to have a baby on purpose, believe in one thing. Themselves. Not that confiedence is wrong, but being overly confident to the point to think that at such an age one could actually handle a baby, a relationship with the father, and obviously a relationship with their own parents is way too much. They just don’t understand and nothing you or I say can make them change their mind. I have posted my story, my hurt and all my emotions many times, when I felt I was ready to explode, in the meantime hoping to teach young girls a lesson about how life can turn ugly in a split second and how things happen that are out of your control, and you will have no way out of being a parent, EVER. As for the fakes, I really don’t know, and don’t care to be honest. If someone is willing to put so much effort into making a lie like this to get attention, they must desperately need it.
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