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May 13, 2009 at 11:10 pm #25095bernardette.x
well quite a few of you know my story now and i need a little bit of help.
i am really close with my nan and always have been, she lives in wales so we dont get to see eachother alot but we speak on the phone twice a week (phone calls going up to 3 hours)- we tell eachother everything! well except i havent told her one thing; my story.
my mum told me not to tell anyone- so i havent excpet you girls. everytime i speak to her i want to pour my heart out and tell her but everytime i get to, but i stop myself.
do you reckon i should tell her?
and how do you reckon i should?
i want to talk to someone about it- someone i am close to. my nan!!
please help girls!!
thank you 🙂 xxxMay 14, 2009 at 2:13 am #25099christina88
YOUR NOT GOING TO BE ABLE TO REALLY FORGIVE URSELF EVEN THOUGH IT IS NOT UR FAULT 100% UNTILL U TALK TO THE PERSON U LOVE AND TRUST THE MOST ABOUT IT AND WHEN U DO U WILL FEEL SO SO MUCH BETTERMay 14, 2009 at 1:44 pm #25103nadza
hey, i really think that if u tell her n tawk to her it will do u a WORLD of good, talking about it to sum1 who wont judge u n loves u is a vital step in the healing process, ur mum really has no say in who u decide to tell, coz it was ur baby,its ur pain, its ur life thats affected, not hers, n i think if u trust n luv ur nan n u know she isnt gonna judge u then go for it, u need alot of support from those who love u…. i have no idea how u shud break it tho… good luck n i wish u all the best, take care of urself
xoxoxMay 15, 2009 at 6:11 pm #25106walkert
heyy sweetie.! i know your story so i know what you are going through. and to be honost with you, i know it will be hard for you to tell your nan, but you two are really close. and i think that you should tell her, and tell her how you feel about it. dont leave anything out. if you go along with telling her i think it will make things easier in your life. because right now you are just keeping a secret from someone that means so much to you. and im sure that just keeping a secret from her is eating you alive. so i really think you should tell her. it will make you feel so much better.
just start the conversation about what you went through. just be like “I want to talk about something that is really bothering me.” and im sure that she will listen. you have the strength. i know you can do it!
let us know how everything goes.
xoxoMay 15, 2009 at 8:22 pm #25107mommyat18
You know, you call it YOUR story for a reason. Its not your mothers to tell, nor your mothers to hide. If you feel that you will feel better after you tell your nan, then tell her. Be strong.May 18, 2009 at 10:52 pm #25126bernardette.x
i was thinking i could write her a letter, coz then i dont have to go through the whole thing as i know i will cry!
what do you think. she has gone away for a week so i could write it and send it when she gets back.
xxMay 20, 2009 at 11:35 pm #25148mommyat18
i think thats a really good idea. if you send her a letter she also has some time to let it sink in..where as if you tell her over the phone..she may not know exactly the right thing to say to you.
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