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May 3, 2009 at 2:34 pm #25008sophia roses mummy
im gabby hunter
this might seem abit strange but when i got pregnant before me and ollie(bf) stoped sleeping together and theres no-one i feel i can ask so i thort i could ask the people on standupgirl, sophie my bestfriend doest kno bcoz shes pregnant now and her and her bf have brken up before she knew she was pregnant and now he lives in australia.
anyway il come to the question i hope u dnt mind me asking but can u sleep with your boyfriend if your pregnant i have heard it can harm the baby!:S 🙁 can it?May 7, 2009 at 8:46 am #25038Meg11
Hey Gabby, I think everyone who has ever been pregnant wonders about this! I am so glad that you feel comfortable to talk to us here on Standupgirl. During my first pregnancy I hardly had sex, I was not with the dad anymore and I only had a boyfriend for a short time period. With my second I found out I was pregnant and the dad left me and I decided I was done with sex until I was married. When I got pregnant with my third I was married (I made that commitment and stuck to it!) and I had sex during all 9 months. One thing that I did notice was different with my last pregnancy is that my cervix softened and dilated much earlier than my first two times, the doctor told me that semen can cause this. Sometimes I would get cramps or ligament pains as a result of having sex and towards the end we tried to start labor by having sex, didn’t work. There are pros and cons to sex during pregnancy but you do need to be careful. If you are not in a monogamous committed relationship, preferably marriage, then it can be much more dangerous to have sex when pregnant. When you are pregnant you are sharing your body with your child and if you contract anything like an STD then your child can suffer majorly for it, certain STDs can cause blindness and other birth defects. Having sex can also cause pre term labor. Sometimes after having sex you can spot a little bit and it is really important to watch the amount and pay close attention to any contractions. Honestly if you are not married or feel that there is any possibility of contracting a disease then you would be best to remain abstinent. There is actually a girl on here who quit having sex at 3 months along and her daughter is now about 2 years old or so and her and her boyfriend have still not had sex, she said it has been really good for their relationship and they do not plan on having sex again until marriage!! I hope that you make the best decision for your circumstances and just know that we are all here for you…never be embarrassed to ask anything..Love MegMay 19, 2009 at 12:00 am #25127sophia roses mummy
hi meg thankyou so much for that advice
🙂 xxxxxxMay 20, 2009 at 12:00 am #25138lilmara
yeah you can when i was prego i would but if ur doctor tells you u cant well then no
but i would but when i was 7 months i had sex and my water broke so that same night i had my baby ….May 20, 2009 at 11:34 pm #25147mommyat18
Its perfectly safe to have sex while youre pregnant unless your doc has told you otherwise! I have an awkward feeling tho when i have sex with my boyfriend because when i had my vaginal ultrasound (where they stuck an ultrasound stick thing in my vagina to see the baby) my baby turned & looked right at it!! haha, i know he/she couldnt see what it was but it was like it knew it was there. So i have that feeling that my baby knows theres something near it when im having sex. lol..but its up to you! 😉
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