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- January 2, 2008 at 3:54 am #20062
Well, I just need your advice girls. You see, there’s going to be a children’s Christmas show in January (Orthodox) and I really really want to take Alex to see Santa Claus and watch all the dancing and everything, because he’s two and a half now, but the things that’s holding me back is that his grandmother (the other side) is going to be there, I’m pretty sure, because his youngest auntie is seven or eight I think.
She’s only seen Alex once for a few minutes when he was one and a half, and she acted like a hysterical idiot, jumping up and down like it was the happiest and best thing on earth, even though she’s had plenty of chance to see him, and she hasn’t. She’s obssessed with her social status, I would personally call her a socipath, so if I take Alex there, she will start her little social network of rumours and lies again, and probably come up to me and make out what an awesome grandmother she is, and start being hysterical again trying to show people how good she is, and I’m sure Alex will get pretty freaked, because he doesn’t know who the hell she is. She has many people on her side believing absolute lies about me, I’m pretty sure, and I’m also really sick of people looking at me and talking behind my back — I really want to be part of my community, but I’m not, because there’s too many retards, and everyone wants to be on the good side of the other family anyway, because they own the local Russian shop, and everyone buys their stuff from them (other than me, of course, even if I COULD go there I wouldn’t because I don’t believe I should be forced to pay for any kid’s stuff from there, and anyway, it used to be all free for me before anyway).
I just don’t know how to act if she starts coming up to me and making a fool out of me, especially with all the support on her side; I don’t even know if I should take him there at all! I just want to show him his culture, but I don’t want to have a bad outing where we both come home in tears!
Any advice???January 2, 2008 at 5:00 pm #20066
Look..i would honestly go. Dont let her spoil your family outings and your fun. If she is there, stay clear of her but if she approaches you or you see her coming walk away and at least you can still say you went. would there be a crowd? try to hide amongst it if so.January 3, 2008 at 5:52 am #20075
Little kids tend to be embarassingly honest, so "young miss Auntie" would blow granny’s cover the minute she tried to show off. Could be fun to watch…
Remember, your identity is in no way connected to granny OR anything she can say about you, true of false. You’re Alex’s mom, and you have a responsibility to raise him to appreciate who he is and where he came from.
So go for it and enjoy yourself…and take pictures!January 3, 2008 at 1:08 pm #20078
His grandmother sounds like jess’s grandmother. Exactly. On our last meeting, i ignored her completely, and jess started bawling whenever she looked at her (yay go jess!!!). Worked well for me. Dont pay her any attention, dont look at her, pretend she doesnt exist. Alex has a right to know about his culture, and his grandmother doesnt have a right to ruin that.January 4, 2008 at 3:30 am #20081
I know you say ignore her, but I won’t be able to if she comes up to me and starts doing that stuff. And I can’t exactly hide in the sea of people, because there won’t be a sea of people, there’ll just be a lot of people a lot of whom know each other lol.??:woohoo:January 13, 2008 at 9:04 am #20183
So, has the party happened yet, and if so, did you go, and what happened??January 15, 2008 at 4:19 pm #20206
Weirdest thing happened lol, it got cancelled at the last moment. Like, wow.
So all this stress, and then getting myself mentally ready to be confident and happy….and then it’s cancelled. Oh well, I thought, what’s meant to be is meant to I guess.
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