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January 26, 2007 at 7:49 am #14748SweetTea
My name is Rachel and I’m part of the StandUpGirl team.
I’m 20 years old, and I have a daughter who is 3. I had her when I was 16, and got my GED then and started college right away.
I always planned on going to medical school and becoming a medical doctor. It was what I knew all of my life that I wanted to do. When I got pregnant, I couldn’t figure out how to fit that into my dreams. I couldn’t see how it would work out… but everything has worked out, and it has all ended up so much better than I could have imagined. My life has changed so much, and I have been so blessed.
I ended up changing my plans some because I found a different program that I’d rather do (getting my Ph.D. instead), and I can still do that. Just because you get pregnant and become a mother, does not mean that you can’t have a successful future! There are so many women today that have amazing careers and make such a difference every day who go home to their children at night and continue their amazing career as a mother. There can be two parts to it!
I won’t have my undergraduate work completed in 4 years like a lot of people do, but in 5 years instead. I’ve gone to school full time, but have taken off in the summers and managed my schedule around my job also. It’s important to me to spend time with my daughter in the evenings and on weekends as much as I can. I know that I’m working hard to get my degree, and then to go on to graduate school. And then I’ll continue working hard. It just may take a little bit longer. My greatest motivation to write killer essays and to do a good job on tests is knowing that in the end I will be able to provide for my daughter.
I know it may seem now like getting pregnant has ruined things for you, or like you can’t achieve your goals now, or like you’ve let your family down. But I promise you that if you hang in there and keep working hard, even if you have to alter your plans a little bit, you won’t let your baby down. Your family might be counting on you, but your baby is counting on you too.
Email me if you ever want to talk, Rachel@StandUpGirl.com
Hang in there, things will get better!
*Hugs*January 28, 2007 at 7:18 am #14789mommytoele
Very nice article.
Choosing to stay in school, have a child, or do both- is so tough… I remember having to choose… Thankfully, with my family’s help and support- I am graduting from high school this year. Though, I should’ve graduated last year (2006), I am SO happy to grdaute this year. I am going to start college this summer, July- I am going to get my degree and get a job someday, both for my daughter and myself. I really appreciated this article,.. what a great job!
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