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September 29, 2011 at 6:29 am #28356pumkinjeanie
Hi my name is Jean. I found out I was pregnant. I am currently 18 weeks. I am terrified out of my mind. I knew i was pregnant since i was 8 weeks. I put it off thinking that the test is crazy. I had to go to a emergency room because i passed out, and they told me i am pregnant. I didn’t believe them. For so long i was told i couldn’t get pregnant and i was terified that i was never going to be a mom. I ended up sleeping with a close friend of mine and as stupid as it sounds i made a stupid decision and it was a 1 night stand. Thus I got pregnant. So here I am at 18 weeks. I just got fired from my job, due to job abandament because i have been getting sent home for me being sick to much. I called out a couple times because i couldn’t move outta bed, and i then had to take a medical week off because of 4 blood clots in my lung. I know complicated right? I told the father he is having a baby with me. At first he was ok this sucks but allright have abortion. Personally i don’t do it. My personal beliefs. He kept preasuring me and when i wouldn’t get it done he basically cut me off. I haven’t spoke to him in a couple weeks. I am scared and alone. I don’t know if i can raise and baby anymore. I don’t want to do adoption, but im terrified. I have no income now and its like what am i going to do how am i going to live? I have to move outta my house soon because of pregnancy and no money. I don’t know where to go. I am basically freaking out. Everyone is telling me you need to do adoption, or abortion. You can’t raise a baby. They say Single mom’s don’t make it. I wanna scream the top of my lungs saying leave me alone.September 29, 2011 at 11:26 am #28357Meg11
Hey there Jean….My name is Meg and I wanted to pop in and encourage you…You ARE doing the right thing….I know this is hard and scary but I have been in your shoes with TWO kids on my own…I was pregnant with my second son when my life turned into a country song…I lost my job, my car, my friends and the father didn’t call me for 5 months…I never skipped a meal and I never lacked a roof over my head and I promise that you will lack nothing that you have need of….I want you to call this number, 1-800-395-HELP, they will direct you to the closest Pregnancy Resource Center to you where you can get FREE and CONFIDENTIAL help…they can point you in the direction of any and all local resources that can help, whether a maternity home, housing assistance or maybe they know of another girl in your same shoes that you can rent a room with…My husband and I have an empty room in our home, we offered it to a pregnant girl just last month, someone else stepped in and gave her a place closer to where her bf was staying so she never took us up on the offer, I promise you that there is someone out there just waiting to reach out and help you! The Pregnancy Resource Center is a great place to share the needs that you have….I was a single mom for 4 1/2 years and I didn’t simply make it, I LIVED JOYFULLY….I always had what I needed right when I needed it, sometimes not until the very last moment but it kept me on my toes and it kept me praying! There is WIC, Food Stamps, Housing, Grants, help with the Electric Bill and Phone Bill and Medical, etc….Go to your local PRC and also look up Adult and Family Services in your phone book….they can set up a meeting to help you with crisis assistance….This I can tell you 100% though, You will NEVER regret your baby…No sacrifice will ever cast a shadow on your love for this baby, You will make it, I promise! I am here ANYTIME you need to talk to someone who has been that and made it….Love Meg, firstname.lastname@example.orgOctober 6, 2011 at 4:13 am #28366momma_smith3
Hi jean 🙂
My name is Stephanie, I want to stop in and say YOU CAN DO IT! I know your scared, feel like you can’t do it, and afraid.. because I have been there! Have you gone and talked to someone in the foodstamps,wic, welfare, any of them can point you in the right direction to help you get support for you and your baby. You made the right choice hun. I know it didn’t seem like it right now but the day you are holding your little one in your arms you will feel a love no one can explain to you! Everything u do from now untill then may seem hard, impossible, and overwhelming but when that day comes you will be SO proud of yourself and you will look at your baby and be so greatfull that you did everything you could and desided to keep him/her. Do you have support from your family? I know the state will help you. With My first I had to get on foodstamps, welfare, and wic, you can also get housing assistance. yes I felt horrible for using state aid but I am so glad I did. My son is now 4 and I don’t regret Nything I did. Keep your head up and keep looking. Talk to everyone you know, and even people you don’t know you CAN do this! if you need anything just like meg said you can email me anytime!
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