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April 19, 2006 at 5:46 pm #10860Anonymous
For a few weeks now, I have not been feeling like myself. Constantly feeling ill, sore breasts, lethargic…typical signs I know! My boyfriend was quite convinced that I was pregnant and I refused to believe it… until I took the test. And sure enough, I am pregnant. About 6 weeks to be exact! But my problem is that I am only 17, and have for years been very against the idea of pregnancy. I have always had the idea that I would get a great job, great house and concentrate on my career before considering a family. My boyfriend is 25, and although he is alot older, I have known him for a while, and things are so perfect between us, that we have discussed marriage and children in the future. However, he is at the age where he would be ready to have children, and has in the past been with a pregnant girlfriend, who said she would have the baby, then had an abortion behind his back, which really hurt him. And now that I am pregnant, I think he might be seeing this as an opportunity for us to cement our love.
But my real problem lies here: He knows that I am very against the idea of having a baby, and assumes I am just going to have an abortion and forget about it. So when I ask him what he thinks our options are, he simply says that we can get an abortion, despite the fact that I can see in his eyes he wants to consider having the child.
And to be honest, I thought it would be that easy as well! But in the few days I have known the truth, my perspective on the matter has completely changed, I feel like a real woman! And friend of mine who had her baby at 19 is encouraging me to go for it and have the baby; she thinks I will be a fantastic mother. But I am so confused! I really want to consider my options, but don’t know what to say to my boyfriend. Me considering having the baby would be the last thing on his mind!
Any advice for a very confused girl?April 20, 2006 at 9:00 pm #10876Anonymous
Hiya hun, i know exactly how u feel, i always thought that i wanted to have a career before having children, but i guess it just wasnt meant to be. If you are seriously considering havng the baby, the best ting u can do is to talk to your bf and sort things out asap. do your parents know yet? cuz as long as you have a lot of support behind you, i cannot see why you shouldnt have your baby if thats what u really want. I’m 18 n in the exact situation as u, although my bf doesnt quite know yet…although i think he does deep down lol. just tell yours that you’re considering having the baby, and i’m sure he’ll be fine – especially if his ex having an abortion hurt him that much. I really hope everything works out for you, i’m here if you wana talk about it anytime – its always nice to be able to talk to people who know what you are going through.
Jess x x x xApril 23, 2006 at 3:30 pm #10915rikanloka4u2nv
my sister used to be the same way, straight a’s and b’s student and she ended up pregnant at 15 and had my niece at 16! She was really scared and didnt know what to do!Anyways im pregnant now and i have been with my bf for 2 years,and no matter what, i would never have an abortion not even if he asked me to, i would talk to him about it and if he doesnt understand i would leave him, a person is a person no matter how small!
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