So I had an abortion about a month ago and I now regret it everyday and I want to be pregnant again, and I know I can handle it this time…I didnt even think about it last time before doing it, and now I want to try again in a few months, is that wrong of me?? What should I do? And I am in a serious relationship where the guy wants this too…..
I don’t know what to say, in all honesty. I am so sorry for your loss. I am not sure if getting pregnant again will cure your pain. I don’t want to tell you not to get pregnant, because having a baby is the most wonderful thing that can ever happen to you. It seems, though, that you are trying to replace something that can never be replaced, and you’ll realize that after you have you have another child and you don’t feel better about the abortion. I can’t imagine what torture it will be for you…to not know…and to know at the same time.
Having a baby is a wonderful thing. My daughter is my strength. I love her more than anything in this world, and she really is my everything. I hope that you can feel the same happiness that I’ve had in having a child.
I am not judging u for what u did, what u now feel. I just think maybe this sincere longing for a baby, rite after an abortion, could maybe be part of the post traumatic stages that u may be experiencing at this point. Id say, wait a while and dont totally let go of the thought yet, but who knows, maybe you wont feel for another baby, maybe in say, the next 2 – 3 months.
Its only natural to have that intense longing after something that you have recently lost.
I know exactly how you feel…I feel the same way. I had an abortion a year ago and i regret it with all my heart and now all that I want to do is have another baby. But I know that If I just give myself a few more years to finish up iniversity and get a good job I will be able to give my baby a much better life. Just hang in there for a few more years.