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  • #17668
    Avatarjellyfish_rool

    my boyfriend & i had unprotected sex 2 days ago.. on the 4th, but he
    "pulled-out" i’m not on birth control, and i’m really scared. i can’t
    afford to go to a clinic, much less have a way of getting to one. i’m
    only 15, and i don’t know what to do. i’m scared to ask my mom, or talk
    to any of my friends, i have no one to talk to. i just..don’t know
    what i should do. i thought it was pregnant awhile ago, but i didn’t think
    it was that possible cause we were just messing around, &&that was..the
    monday after 4/20, my period came really late, and it was really
    irregular, there was barley any blood at all. it ended on like.. last
    saturday, then i had sex on monday.

    i know a place where i can buy some pills…but i’m not sure if i
    should.

    my family would hate me if i had a baby…&i can’t afford to have an
    abortion.

    my boyfriend said that he’s had sex a lot of times without protection,
    and he’s always pulled out, and never got a girl pregnant. &that was
    the first time i’ve had sex with him. but..i’m not sure, cause i know you
    can get pregnant even if he did….

    ahh i don’t know..what to do:[

    someone please help:[
    soon!!:[

    #17675
    AvatarMeg11

    Hi there…I am Meagan with Stand Up Girl…I read this post and it just broke my heart. I am so sorry that you feel like you have no one to turn to and I am so glad that you came here for help. I wanted to first let you know to please not take any "pills" to make sure you are not pregnant, I have heard many stories about girls getting very ill and even dying from those pills. I was offered the morning after pill a couple of years ago and had I taken them I would have killed my son. He is now 2 1/2 and he has changed my life so much. I don’t know where you live but I know that most places have a local Pregnancy Resource Center. They are free and confidential. You can go there and take a free test. If you find the number in the phone book maybe they could possibly arrange for transportation…you never know???? I couldn’t think of a better place to go to find out the most important thing in your life. If you are pregnant they are well trained and educated in how to counsel you and they will take the time to love on you and make sure you are ok before you leave….most of them now have ultrasounds so you can even see your baby the same day. If you are not pregnant then you will have the peace of mind and the stress relieved with no payment due and your parents wont find out. My concern for you is this boyfriend. How many girls has he slept with with out protection??? Honey…you deserve WAY BETTER than that. Don’t give your precious body to some guy who is not respectful enough to treat you like a lady. It took me a long time and many heartbreaks and even 2 kids to learn that lesson…I would hate to see you go through the same thing. If you turn out to be pregnant I am sure your parents will be dissapointed or even hurt…they might feel like they failed at raising you properly…just be prepared to feel the heat a little bit. They love you and they want the best for you. No matter what anyone else tells you to do even if they threaten to take things away or throw you out….if you end up being pregnant…Please don’t consider abortion!!!! My daughters dad wanted me to get one and I almost did. She is my princess, my angel, and she never fails to bring a smile to my face. I had to do it alone and I went through many difficulties but I had her to help me through and I will never regret keeping her. Even the thought that I considered killing her still haunts me….when I look at her sleeping and watch her breathe I have to live with the fact that I almost prevented her from ever taking a single breath. I would encourage you to find a Pregnancy Resource Center ASAP, research and educate yourself about what abortion REALLY is and what it will do to your emotions and body for life (truthnet.org) and finally, tell the boyfriend, "No more sex, if you love me then you will wait" I hope you let us all know how this turns out and remember that if you are pregnant we are here for you and we will be by your side even if no one else is.Be a Stand Up Girl, you wont regret it…Lots of Love….Meagan

    #17676
    Avatareuro_girl_frm_aus

    hi, Im Daniella and im 17. I lost my virginity to the same guy i’m with now and hav not been with another guy. I would not be having unprotected sex with him if he had unprotected sex with other girls before me. I’m not trying to be mean and im not trying to scare you but how do u know he doesnt have any diseases? He obviously doesnt have respect for young women to sit there and brag about having unprotected sex with so many girls.You can get pregnant the first time you have you sex it just depends if your egg is down there waiting. The pull out method is not a contreception!!! When a guy is becoming aroused inside of you he mite ejeculate during sex, this is called pre cum…You can go to the doctors and take a blood test to see if u r pregnant or u can buy a home pregnancy test.Im not sure where in the world you are but im in australia and a preg test starts at around $10.00…If you are just talk talk to your parenta or ask them to go to the doctors with you and get the doctor to help you explain it to them…Your parents mite be angry but they wont hate you there your child and will always love you. Personally i wudnt hav an abortion unless it was rape.The way i see it is if i dont use protection its my fault not the babys.Like you’ve said, you dont have enough money for an abortion so how wud you hav enough money to raise a baby? maybe your parents would help you or you can find help somewhere else.If you know you cnat look after the baby rather than aborting it, have it and giv it up for adoption.There are so many ppl out there that cant hav children or jus want to help children to have a life..they will look after your baby and give it everything it needs..i hope everything goes good and you find out.if you are i hope you parents understand and help you out ok.please dont have an abortion, its a regretful thing and you will never forget it..let me know how things go…daniella

    #17682
    AvatarSweetTea

    Hey!
    My name is Rachel. I just read your post here, I’m sorry you’re going through this. I know how tough it is, believe me! I found out I was pregnant when I was 16. When I found out, I felt like I had let everyone down.

    My dad was upset at me, and my mom was pretty shocked, but they handled it so much better than I expected.

    I did a lot of research on my options, and in the end, I decided that I couldn’t have an abortion and feel right about it. One of my friends in high school got really, really sick and had to be hospitalized after taking a set of pills that was supposed to get rid of her pregnancy. It really scared us all.

    My life isn’t always easy, but whose life is? I am trying my hardest to make the best of my situation and be the best mom that I can be for my daughter. I am 20 years old now, and my daughter is almost 4. I am in college and have a job, and I’m a mom too! It’s a lot of work, but let me tell you, I would do it all again a hundred times without thinking twice about it. That’s because my daughter is worth it; she deserves that chance.

    I know that things seem impossible right now, but it isn’t.

    Go to this website: http://www.optionline.org
    (or you can call 1-800-395-HELP)
    On the right, click on "Find a Center"
    Type in your ZIP code and it will show you where a FREE an CONFIDENTIAL pregnancy center is in your area. If you can get someone to take you here, they will give you a FREE pregnancy test, and they can help you find services in your area. They are also confidential, they cannot tell your parents anything, or anyone else. It is totally confidential.

    Don’t hesitate to email me if you ever need to talk. I’m here for you, and I believe in you. Rachel@StandUpGirl.com

    Hang in there, ok??

    *Hugs*

    Love,
    Rachel

    #17689
    AvatarMrsTWalsh

    I agree with the two ladies before me. I also think that you should make your boyfriend respect you as well as respect yourself by having him use protection. If he has had unprotected sex "lots of times" that should make you nervous for a few different reasons. Just be careful, at the end of the day the guy only has to be as responsible as he chooses to be and a baby could end up being your sole responsibility so please stand up and take control of your relationship, especially where sex is involved.

    #17693
    AvatarSweetTea

    Yes, I think you should find out if you are pregnant. Wait until you have a missed period, or right around that time and take a pregnancy test. You can use the information I posted before to get a free pregnancy test.

    *Hugs*

    #17694
    Avatarmenendr2

    Im so sorry you are going thru the same experience as i did.My ex also did pull out and bragged about not getting prego any1 before me..I think I was meant to be the 1st.6 days after my missing period due date i found out and still makes me shiver!!I suffered a lot becoz of it and he dumped me soon after.I decided I would continue without him and woul forbid him from getting in touch with me or baby.I know the way you feel, but i also recommend you to tell any1..i think parents know a lot more than we think we know…believe me.Turn to them, and if necessary cry to them.

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