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August 8, 2007 at 3:04 am #18594lostheart87
MY PARENTS LEFT ME ON MY OWN AN I CAN HAVE A BABY ON MY OWN MY BF WELL NOW EX IS N JAIL I REALLY DONT HAVE NAY WHERE 2 GO I DONT REALLY WANT AN ABORTION BUT I CANT TAKE CARE OF THE BABY NOW I HAVE MEDI-CAL DO ANY 1 KNOW WHERE I CAN USE IT FOR ABORTION @ 18 WEEKS IN CALIFORNIA? PLS HELP I HAVE NO 1 2 TALK 2:unsure:August 8, 2007 at 6:32 am #18600queenB
I have no idea what the laws are regarding Medi-Cal, but most of the time there is no government assistance for abortion, but there is government assistance if you decided to parent your child or make an adoption plan.
You said that you don’t want to have an abortion. I think that is great, and if you don’t want it, there is no reason that you should. Remember, abortion is a permanent decision and whatever you do now will affect you for the rest of your life.
Have you considered becoming a mother? You said your life has not been easy, and it certainly has not been, but look at everything you have made it through. You have a lot more life experience than most. Why quit now? Why throw in the towel? I think if you decide to parent you can put all your good life experience to use. I really feel like you can do this. You are equipped to be an excellent mother to your child. Maybe others around you are telling you that you can’t, but that is not true. Just from your post I can tell that you have it together and you have a good head on your shoulders. Even though the situation around you may be crumbling, you are strong and steadfast. I really believe in you.
Let me refer you to a website that can help you locate a pregnancy resource center that can assist you and your pregnancy needs for no cost. Go to optionline.org and click on the red box that says “find a center”. Type in your zip code and a list of pregnancy resource centers will appear. Call the center and tell them about your situation. Just say that you need financial assistance and they will know where to take it from there.
No worries. You are going to be just fine. I’m so glad you found the site. If you want to talk some more, just write me back.August 8, 2007 at 4:00 pm #18602Meg11
Hey there My name is Meagan and I came across your post and i wanted to take a moment to share with you what I have been through….I am 25 now but when I was 19 I found out I was pregnant…I was terrified and the dad wanted me to get an abortion…after alot of thinking I decided that abortion was not an option for me and I am sooooo glad I made the choice to give my daughter life…it has not been easy..when I was 3 1/2 months pregnant my mo killed herself and I found her body…so I know what it is like to not have the support of your parents…different circumstances but still no supportive parents is tough whether it by death or choice….I ended up back with her dad and lived in an abusive relationship for over a year….when that ended he left with everything down to the dish soap and laundry soap and shampoo, I had no job, no milk or other groceries, and he gave me 20 dollars….I couldn’t even but the supplies that he had taken with that much less diapers and stuff…That was the day I became a Stand Up Girl…I Stood Up when I felt like sitting down…I found a job within a few days and I struggled and fought to pay bills and be a mom….but…I did have so many recourses available and I am in a very small town…there has to be somewhere in California that can provide assistance to you….there is WIC (check at the heath department) they will give you free milk, cheese, eggs, juice and peanut butter, and after the baby is born they give you free formula if you don’t breastfeed and if you do breastfeed they give you extra of everything and carrots, tuna, and beans….you can get food stamps, they go by your income and if you don’t have any then you will get the max amount, you can receive cash assistance or emergency help…sometimes if you need new clothes for work they will give you vouchers to get them and they will give you hygiene vouchers so you can get toothpaste and shampoo, they can help find child care and pay all but the co pay which is very low as a single mom….have you checked with the Salvation Army for shelter for now??? Womens crisis center??? One time I ran out of gas and I got gas vouchers from a womens crisis center…they also have maternity homes where I believe you can stay up until the baby is a year…in that time you will have saved enough money to get on your feet….single moms are also eligable for alot more grants for school and stuff than other people…this baby just might be your way out of the hard life you have lived….you are standing at a fork in the road…you can choose to get an abortion and still have unsupportive parents and an ex in jail and no where to go, or you can Stand Up find your resources in the area and give this baby a better life than you have had…I know that you can do this….like queenB said…there is not alot of help out there for girls considering abortion but there is truckloads of help out there for Stand Up Girls like yourself….the state will help you find a job and train you because you are pregnant, they don’t do that for girls who aborted their babies, they will give you medical for appointments, but they don’t pay for abortions….WIC stands for Women Infants Children….they don’t give free dairy products to women that don’t have kids or who are not pregnant….I have had two kids, out of marriage and raised them on my own until last November when I got married….That is 2 hospital births, all the appointments that come along with pregnancy, at least 8-10 emergency room visits during both pregnancies combined, a broken foot which gave me 1 emergency visit and several appointments, my daughter had a broken collar bone which gave me 2 hospital visits and several x-rays and other appointments, my son was admitted at 17 days old and had a 3 day stay in the hospital and follow ups for that, sick kids emergency visits, son drank nail polish emergency visit…I could go on and on and on with all of the medical bills that I never had to pay a dime for…..I have never had to pay 1 cent for ANY of the bills that have come from having kids….also because of the fact that I was a struggling single mom my broken foot and oh yea my wisdom teeth never cost me a thing….I am not here "selling" you on state medical or "state and local freebies", I am not bragging about "living off the system" I am not condoning or encouraging pregnancy before marriage, but….I am here to tell you that there is a reason that you have this new life inside your body….and that there are more good things that come from keeping this baby than bad and there are more bad things that come from abortion than good….if you find the money for an abortion and something goes wrong you will be stuck with that heartache and the medical bills, but if you keep this baby you will find new meaning to your life, you will get the chance to be to this child what your parents were not to you, and you will have a state system to help you through the medical bills and they will set you up with whatever they can to get you on your feet…this baby is the key to a fresh start for you in life….life does not end at teen or unplanned pregnancy…but the meaning of life and the motivation to live it well begin there…trust me…single mom of 4 1/2 years who is no longer on state assistance and who had no family or paternal support through pregnancy or to this day….I now have a 5 yr old girl who was almost aborted, she is very loved and she has taught me how to love and to be loved…don’t let this chance that you have for the same things be surgically removed from your body…You are a Stand Up Girl…Stand Up and take what is yours….Life Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness…and let the state and maybe even a local non denominational church help you to take the steps needed to get back on your feet….show those who gave up on you that you can do this…don’t give them a reason to look down on you…rather give them a reason to look up and see how strong the storms of life have made you….I am here anytime you need to talk…firstname.lastname@example.org….I have been through so much and I understand your fears…trust me….but if I have made it so can you…..Love Meg
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