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July 27, 2009 at 11:46 pm #25536bbyalexander07
I’m 16 and my boyfriend and I had our first real big fight about a week and a half ago, and of course made up, a lot… a week straight about 7 rounds a night, and no condoms. Now I’m waking up at 3 a.m. and again at 5 a.m. every morning and am hungry, dizzy, or my lower back is killing me. My boyfriend is going to freak out if i’m pregnant. Its something we’ve talked about and he says no way right now, and has made it very clear i would get an abortion, which in my opinion is not the kinda person i am. my parents had me young too and they did it for me so id do it. the only two people that know are my cousin and his sister. i just dunno what to do. i dont have money to go take a test but im almost positive i am pregnant. i just need to know what i can or should do. id rather tell my boyfriend before i tell my parents or anyone else.July 28, 2009 at 6:00 pm #25541GangY
Well first of all,about your boyfriend,if he’s saying NO to a baby,then you should ask him what he’s thinking,sex means possibility of a baby. He had also sex without the condom,and well…that leads to a baby.
Maybe you should clear that with him.
I think you should go to the docs so that hell make a test,so you’ll know for sure.
I’m talking out of my own experience,abortion is NOT an easy way Out..
I think you are grown enough to stand up for your baby!
And since I guess your parents will be a support system of you if you are pregnant,and probably will support YOUR decision you should tell them first..and if not,tell them after you’ll tell your BF,no matther what he says.
Keep in touch,
Love,monikaJuly 28, 2009 at 7:57 pm #25542Anonymous
Having unprotected sex is ALWAYS going to give you a chance of getting pregnant. For ten months straight I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend and didn’t get pregnant, but now I have a six month old. It is possible that you aren’t, but it seems very likely that you could be pregnant.
Your boyfriend needs to realize that if he wants to have sex with you, then he needs to be prepared that you may in fact get pregnant. This isn’t just you. It was a 50/50 choice that both of you made which led to this. So you BOTH should stand up and take responsibility.
If your boyfriend chooses not to be involved, then LET HIM LEAVE. He doesn’t love you, anyways. If he does then he’ll support you no matter what! It may just take him some time to come around to the idea of being a daddy and he’ll just realize it on his own eventually. But if he doesn’t… then be strong and take control of the situation!
This may be his baby… but it is also YOUR body. He isn’t the one who will have to live with the decision of an abortion, it’s you. He does have a right to know, so you do need to talk to him about what’s going on but make sure you’re going to be strong enough against an abortion. Remember, adoption is always an option, and a much better one than an abortion.
Abortion is very un-healthy for most women. You should learn what you are going to do to your body during the process. Go research it! I do know that from girls on this site like GangY, abortion is a very painful, regretful experience that no one should have to go through.
Wait until you’ve missed your period and you can try a home test just to check, but a doctor’s test is always the most reliable. Whatever the result, I hope you really learn from this and be safer next time. Good luck!
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