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March 21, 2007 at 9:53 am #16012meyerz12191
Im 16 years old and 3 months and 13 days pregnant. I live with my grandparents and I told them about 2 months ago. They went bilestic but they are becoming calmer now. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half and he is gettiing excited and wants to be here for me and the baby. But my grandma will not let us see eachother. She said there will be a right time but that time is not now. Its been two months and I still cant see him and it sucks so bad because this is when I need him the most. I just dont know what to do. She acts like she doesnt want him or his family to be in this babys life. What should I do? :dry:March 21, 2007 at 11:27 am #16017roxannes_legacy
Wow, that has to be so hard, honey. Especially being only 3 months along. Have his parents tried talking with your grandparents? Has your b/f came and sat and talked with them? If that has happened or is not a good idea to happen right now, I would like to encourage you to listen to them, but maybe you, yourself, sit down with them and have a real serious talk with them. Hear what they have to say and their reasoning, and by doing this, they may hear what you have to say and your reasoning also.March 22, 2007 at 6:32 am #16061goodluckyall
I’m not assuming anything in particular about why you live with your grandparents, but if you use that example to remind your grandma how your baby needs both its parents, that might help. Remind her that he and his parents and family will be that many more folks to love and help raise your baby and how blessed the baby will be to have a larger family. It will also ease your grandparents’ burden to some degree to have that support financially and emotionally since they’ll be taking care of you and your baby now. If it’s an issue where they feel he took advantage of you or did something wrong, he needs to come to them directly, "stand up," and tell them he wants to take responsibility. Good luck!March 22, 2007 at 9:01 am #16067Meg11
I agree with what has already been stated…my question is are they asking you two to take time apart because your not married and not ready to be married???? They might want to know that he will committ to you before they "release" you to be with him. If that is the reason why this is happening then no matter how hard it is it will be worth it. If he is not willing to marry you and able to provide for you then your grandparents are trying to prevent his from dissapointing you and leading you further astray. I hop eth ebest for you and I will be praying that you will have the right words to share your heart 🙂 MegMarch 22, 2007 at 11:58 pm #16093Suzy_n_Chris
What are they afraid of, that you’ll get pregnant again?!?!?!?! The "damage" is already done. As a father he has to have a right to atleast see you at the prenatal appointments. He will deffinatly have rights once that baby is out, but there is NO good reason he shouldn’t be able to see you. Did you ever flat out ask your Grandparents exactly WHY you can’t see him? Tell them how strongly you feel about this. You need to sit down and have a chat, maybe with all of you.March 23, 2007 at 5:48 pm #16148sibzy
YOU NEED TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR BABY!!
THIS IS YOUR BABY AND YOUR CHOICE AND YOUR FUTURE!!
TELL YOUR GRANDMOTHER ITS YOUR BABY NOT HERS!!
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