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December 6, 2012 at 8:35 pm #28743Little_Lovely
hey guys just need abit of advice. My daughter doesnt see her dad because he left us when she was aweek old, however hes only seen her twice, one time in hospital and then a week later about 4 hours in total.
However olivias first words ‘dad’ and ‘dada’.. i feel let down in a way i no its probably easier to say for them but makes mme feel awkwardDecember 9, 2012 at 8:15 am #28744renee
That’s so fun that she’s started talking! Oh, I bet she’s a cutie! But yes, that would be tough to go through 🙁December 9, 2012 at 7:44 pm #28747Meg11
Hey there….I know how frustrating that can be…My oldest daughter said dad first as well…he was around but very abusive to me and neglectful to her….He was barely around and when he was he never carried his responsibility as a dad…it hurt….Then with my son (different father) I figured he would say mom first, I was all he had…NOPE, He said BOOK…wow…stinker! With my youngest daughter (yet one more father, yet the man who married me before I ever went to bed with him <3 ) she said dad first as well....the vast majority of babies say dad first, whether dad is around, whether they have seen him or spent time with him or not....It is a word that is spoken directly or indirectly, overheard when mommy talks to her friends etc....Kids are very smart and really receptive...if you are struggling and having a hard time, just because she is a baby, does not mean she will not pick up on your conversation...if you are talking about him or saying, her dad, to people, she may not understand the details but she will know...I have learned this the hard way many times....Just don't feel bad or awkward, just know it is normal to say dad first, Keep your chin up and keep being the good mommy you are to your sweet little girl....I spent 4 1/2 years as a single mom, obviously a bumpy road at first....I made it, learned SO much, am now stronger than I would have ever imagined, my kids love me and they NEVER quit saying, Mom? mom? MOM?...hahaha... Love to you and enjoy this time with her, it goes fast, this is the most impressionable time in her life...read to her, snuggle her, tell her she is beautiful and special, she will remember the love you pour into her in this time stronger than the words you tell her later <3 Meg
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