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March 14, 2008 at 1:55 pm #20649xmellypopx
So im 17 and have a baby boy who is almost 8months now, but the thing is i feel really rubbish and lonely, i mean i have no friends,the only person i would class as my friend works weekends and goes to school in the weekdays so i never get to see or talk to her, I knew having a baby would change my life but i didnt expect to feel like this, i love spending lots of time with my son but its always nice to have a break for a couple of hours, i tried talking to my boyfriend about it but he just gets all weird with me, He goes to college and has lots of his own friends and he brings them around the house, i would like to get to know his mates and talk to them but the thing is i cant help but feel jelous and moody at the fact that he can go to college and talk to his mates while i stay at home by myself with no one to talk to, Im going back to college in september by that time my son will be a year old, but that seems years away.
The only person i have to talk to is my boyfriend and its like i never want to be apart from him because hes the only person who is my own age who i can talk to and have a laugh with, but i hate feeling so clingy with him.
I used to be out everyfriday night with my mates etc before my son was born but all i want now is someone i can talk to!
Does anyone else feel like this? or has? .. is just getting all a bit much at the moment 🙁March 16, 2008 at 8:31 am #20664alexanders_mama
I felt the same way when I had my son. It’s just that everyone seems to go out and party, and you don’t.
Why don’t you ask your boyfriend to babysit while you go out somewhere? Even a few hours to yourself. If he’s not doing that, he’s just being inconsiderate. Also, maybe join a playgroup or something in your area, sitting at home just makes you more and more depressed.
Sometimes joining a club or a church also helps, whatever you want to do or are passionate about: somewhere where you could meet new people.
Maybe ask if there’s a party on with one of your boyfriend’s mates and ask your bf to babysit while you go and meet new people maybe? Or try to get in contact with an old friend and go out with her maybe while bf babysits?March 23, 2008 at 7:54 am #20717MichellesAMommy
I also feel the same way.. i mean havin a baby is rewarding but it also kinda sucks in a way.. u give up ur social life and u never sleep. I have a 6 week old boy and I can tell u that I feel like a zombie. I never thought it would be that hard, I have my husband and he helps put some times but I think that breastfeeding is the hardest part, cause its every 2-3 hoursApril 1, 2008 at 12:48 am #20804littllenikki
definately can relate…
i feel SO jealous that me bf can go out wen he likes still its like my life was turned upside down and wrong way roumd wile his just has an xtra person in it.. and then i feel guilty cos i love him..
i only hav a few real friends and wen we meet up or they come vivit i feel like a pity case…like sum1 visitin me in hospital.. im goin bak 2 school soon but im torn between wantin 2 be with éabha and wantin my life bakApril 1, 2008 at 8:27 pm #20824Anonymous
Girls! Don’t be the ones stuck at home all the time! Daddies are just as responsible for your new little ones as you are. Tell them, "hey, I’m going out this weekend so don’t make any plans cause you got the kid". If you breastfeed, pump for a week or two in advance. If the dad isn’t around, then get someone else to babysit. If you don’t feel like you have any friends to go out with then get out there and make some new ones! Everyone needs a break once in a while and it has plenty of mental health benefits too. If mommy (the primary caretaker) gets a good break once in a while then she’s happier and less stressed. Your babies will feel that and you might find they’re less fussy when you come home! If they’re not, at least your better equipped to deal with the situation.April 7, 2008 at 9:13 am #20868seedsofhope
I agree that you need a break. It will do you, your bf and your baby good.
When I was your age with my first child, I was constantly the one to sit at home. ALl of my friends pretty much ditched me. I couldn’t do the things they could anymore. It was no fun. I made friends at school, but no one really understood what it was like.
Fast forward 15 years and it still can be the same at times:woohoo: .
I now have 2 more little boys who are so fun, yet so demanding. If you can, try to find a MOPS group near you. (They’re worldwide). You can even go onto the MOPS.org website. MOPS stands for Mothers of PreSchoolers, but it is for moms of children ages birth to 5 yrs old. They even have a teen mops.
I love this group because all of the women are like me. It’s nice to be able to connect with moms in the same boat.
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