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July 29, 2011 at 5:39 pm #28295stephanie20x
Been with my boyfriend for 6 months, i know its not long but we moved in together after 3 months and it all went downhill from there, found out he was rubbish with money (would spend it on himself and not on bills etc)
I was on the rod, found out i was pregnant last saturday, been arguing with the boyfriend non stop since before then, finally decided enough was enough this monday and went back to my mums.
Now i don’t know whether i want this baby because i dont want to be on my own with it, i dont think i can support it by myself and i dont know if he’ll help or continue spending his money on himself.
Went to see him yesterday and he said he doesn’t want to split up with me, he just wants us to go home to our parents and see each other like we used to when it was good. I want that too but he also wants the baby whereas i don’t because I think if we have it we’ll have to move in together again and I think we’ll start arguing again.
I don’t want this baby, I just want me and my boyfriend to go back to how we was before we moved in together but he wants the baby and when its born we’ll try moving in together again.
Any suggestions on what we should do?
Thanks. 🙂July 29, 2011 at 7:06 pm #28296Anonymous
I dont think terminating your baby will help things go back to normal. Your baby already has a heart beat, and could be forming finger nails already depending on how far along you are :)! There are tons of resources available to help you raise and support your child :)!There might be a pregnancy resource center in your area that can help you! they will give you an ultra sound, let you hear the heart beat of your baby! 🙂 cant beat that. its a life YOU get to carry and care for! 🙂 amazing feeling.However if you absolutely feel you cannot take care of the baby, there is always adoption! There are plenty of couples that can not concieve and would be honored to care for your baby 🙂 you can even have an open adoption is you like :)! call the option line 1800 395 HELP or the HELP LINE 1866 942 6466. Free and confidential :). let me know what you decide to do and if you have any more questions i can help you with! 🙂
Teka <3July 29, 2011 at 7:36 pm #28297Ashleii
I agree, I do not think you should get an abortion. I am against those, but I am in a pretty tight situation too. I have been with my boyfriend for alomst 9 months, and I will be turning 15 soon. I haven’t told anyone yet, only my boyfriend and I know.
I think you should keep your baby, becuase if you got an abortion.. Once it’s done, there is no turning back. Most mothers reret when they get them. I know some are forced to, butyou have a choice. I am sure your parents and friends will help you out as much as they can.
Also, I think it’s a good idea you both move back in with your parents, and just go see eachother when it’s best. Maybe you two need a break from eachother, so seeing eachother every so often will let your relationship heal.
Talk to your boyfriend about his money spending issues too. Get hi mto relize if you guys are going to keep the baby, you guys are going to need everything you guys can get, and that means he’s going to have to manage his money.
If you ever need someone to talk to, message me I will listen.
Please update us on what you decide to do.
Good luck <3 !!
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