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November 7, 2006 at 4:03 am #12841steph_mason
hi my name is steph i am 17 and nearlly 20 weeks pregnant and i think my bf is cheating it dont help that we dont live together he is 22 and he winds me up about girls all the time i no he shouldnt but thats him i am soo depressed because this is the man that i have got pregnant by. he can be soo immature some times aswell. i dont see him everyday not even once a week somtimes whitch does make me wonder 🙁 he is my first love as well whitch doesnt help. please leave advice if you want xxx:unsure:November 7, 2006 at 4:46 am #12843haley
girly your situation doesnt sound good…well talk to him and o course he wil probably lie but if you have to take a break i feel bad for saying that but maybe it might be good to do at the momentNovember 7, 2006 at 8:37 am #12846kristy_1990
hey sounds like you are in a bad sitution maybe you and him should get together and just talk things out and tell him how you really feel and the thinks that you think he may be doing and maybe then he will realize how much you really love him if you need to talk i will be here to listen
*~*KristyNovember 7, 2006 at 12:56 pm #12849mommytoele
I am sorry to hear about this (Bad) situation. How are you doing and handling this? I think you should "get out" though I know it’s hard, as you’re pregnant.
Need anything, just give me a message.
NickiNovember 7, 2006 at 5:05 pm #12863lissy012207
I’m 17 and 29 weeks prego and my boyfriend is 22 also. He doesnt hang out w/ girls unless im with him and i dont hang out w/ guys when hes not with me so i know hes not cheatin.. ANYWAY, i would talk to him. Be flat out and be like "dude are you seein other women?" thats what i would do. Explain to him that you are carrying HIS kid and he needs to be faithful to you.. especially for the babys sake.November 8, 2006 at 2:37 am #12878Anonymous
I just want to insert a word of widom for you hon. What your boyfriend does to you is not love. I hope you’ve had the true love of a parent in your life – or someone – but love ISN’T EVER trying to make your partner, or friend, or whoever feel bad. That is control – and it is VERY different from LOVE. Love is not a struggel, andit is not painful. Is this the man that you want setting an example for your future child? I know it’s already too late but please, you can minimize the damage. Either get away from him or consider putting your baby up for adoption. Sewriously – think about the love you will have for this baby and think about the man you are providing for a father and what the conswequences for that will be.
(hugs).’November 20, 2006 at 1:02 pm #13277Anonymous
OK FOR ONE iF HE iS 22 & iMMATURE ! SWEETiE YOU DO NOT NEED HiM . iT DOES NOT MATTER iF HE iS YOUR FiRST LOVE OR NOT . HE HAS A BABY ON THE WAY AND HE NEEDS TO MAN UP . iF HE CONTiNUES TO PUT U THRU EMOTiONAL STRESS HE’S HURTiNG THE BABY AS WELL .
Post edited by: acas, at: 2006/11/21 13:03November 22, 2006 at 8:03 am #13330Anonymous
I had this same similar thing happen to me. I confronted him about it over and over and he finally admitted to cheating on me twice while i was pregnant with his twin boys! I was stupid and listened when he said sorry and he wouldnt do it again. He was my first love as well, and had even given me a promise ring, engagment ring and asked me to marry him. Anyway long story short We placed the twins for adoption and I got pregnant again (by him) I have now had that baby and only talked to him twice in the last 9 months. (that baby is now almost 3 months) With my experience., the second pregnacy without him around was much easier. I mean ya I missed him but I didn’t have him telling me not to place, or to get an abortion, I didn’t have to sit and wonder if he was cheating (he lived about an hour away and with school we didnt see each other much either) anyway if you feel you can, i would ask him for space, and use your family and close friends and us as a support group. If you don’t want todo that try confronting him and tell him exactly why you have that feeling. Then do what your gut tells you to.November 23, 2006 at 2:52 pm #13363Shana
If he’s cheating then he’s not the type of man you want around your child. If you have a boy then he’ll grow to either hate his father OR be like him and treat women badly and if you have a girl then she’ll think its OK for men to treat her that way. I know its hard but you have to think and realise what kind of person you want being a role model for your child..If he’s a cheat he ai’t worth anything but your pity. Kick him to the curb and good ridence (easier said then done I know)
Best of luck to you lady
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