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January 1, 2010 at 4:55 am #26313Anonymous
🙂 Hello! I’m Kailyn, 18, live in Wisconsin. I don’t have any kids, nor am I pregnant. I would really love to have a baby, but I can’t financially, and I have no father for one! I’d just like to talk to someone about how I feel, without feeling guilty about it, or criticized. I’ll make another post back on this post if people reply. Telling how I feel. For now, ‘i’ll see you next year!’January 1, 2010 at 10:51 pm #26317Meg11
Hey Kailyn, I want you to know that what you are feeling is normal and it is a good thing to want….I want to make a comparison for you though, if a married man has a secretary at work and she is beautiful and dresses in tight clothes and smells nice it is not wrong for him to notice those things, he should not feel guilty for noticing her scent, her beauty or even the shape of her body, that is something that is just about unavoidable, however if he chooses to act on any feelings brought on my the way she looks, smells, or acts towards him then that would be wrong, you said yourself that you are not financially ready and are not in a relationship, that shows maturity on your part to think of those things and I believe that you are mature enough and responsible enough to hear my opinion, I believe that if you act on the feelings you have and find a guy to get you pregnant that it would be a selfish decision….it would be unfair to all involved, I had two kids from two dads out of wedlock and I have had one child with my husband, there is such a HUGE difference….purposely getting pregnant out of a solid and committed marriage is robbing yourself of the joys and freedoms that you will someday find by doing things the “old fashioned way”…you know that song, first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage….LOL…that is what I got to experience with my husband and it was awesome, I want for you to have that same blessing that I robbed myself of with my first two, they are the ones who carry the consequences, I have some but not like they do….please don’t feel guilty, you shouldn’t, just like a man who notices a beautiful woman and wants his wife to dress that way, but acting on it is something you need to wait on….I am so glad you found the site and I look forward to visiting with you in this New Year!! Love Meg
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