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August 28, 2008 at 12:52 am #22016Parker_r_14
Hello My name is Parker and I am forteen. Two mths ago I was raped by my older brother s freind. I haven’t had my period and can’t stop throwing up. I took a home preg test and it said postitve. Nobody nows about the rape. I dont know what to do. I keep cutting my wrsts but nothing helps. I don’t want this baby. I HATE IT. If you could give me any advice possible please do so.August 28, 2008 at 5:30 am #22023Meg11
Hey Parker, My name is Meg and I help out on the site. I am so sorry to hear of your situation but you need to remember that this is not your fault. Please stop hurting yourself by cutting your wrists, it will only hurt you in the end and it will not change your situation, at least not in a good way. First you need to tell your mom or a woman closest to you that you think would be helpful to you. Also here is a number to a place called Optionline, 1-800-395-HELP, they can give you the number and location to the closest Pregnancy Resource Center to you where you can receive FREE and CONFIDENTIAL help. Here also is a link to a wonderful website that focuses on adoption, http://loveschoice.com/ ,you didn’t ask to have sex or to get pregnant but still, take a deep breath and realize that the baby didn’t ask for this either, you might be a really good candidate for adoption. You can still Stand Up even in your circumstances. Please don’t hurt yourself any further by getting an abortion, you can have victory over the horrible things that have happened to you and it needs to start by Standing Up for the life of this baby and by confiding in your mom or another woman who can help you take the practical steps towards healing. Counseling would be a good thing as well with the hardships you are facing, you can get FREE counseling at the Pregnancy Resource Center. I hope this helps a little, I do not want you to hurt yourself anymore so please stop cutting yourself….I am here to talk..Love Meg firstname.lastname@example.orgAugust 29, 2008 at 12:15 am #22025hope1day
How are you today, hun?August 29, 2008 at 1:35 am #22026Anonymous
Wow, sounds like a really rough situation. 🙁 Please listen to what Meg said… if you do it will really help!
I will be praying for you.
Hugs!August 29, 2008 at 4:37 am #22030jessey223
I am very sorry for all that you are going thru right now. I too think you should talk to the closes women to you. THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT, YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. Cutting is only going to complicate the situation more. Talk to someone who ever you feel close too and call the hotline numbers that Meg gave you. I know it doesn’t seem like it now this will pass I promise. I am here to talk anytime, your not alone we are all here to help.August 30, 2008 at 1:48 am #22040Parker_r_14
I have stopped the cutting and told my mom there is a even more of a problem. I went to a appt. today and found out I am pregnant with twins. My mom and docter sayed to just terminate it and everything will go back to normal…Will I just be able to forget everything…Their heartbeats and I kinda love them…I know I must be crazy~! I just don’t know what to do! The docter said ifAugust 30, 2008 at 2:57 am #22042hope1day
Well, you have got to see them, and you know they are alive, and I promise that “things won’t just go back to normal” if you treminate. You heard their heartbeats, and you’re not crazy. Your’re just a young lady that has just learned she is pregnant with twins! You are at a site where you will find love, support, and will make true friends that will be there for you. I just can’t help but congratulate you! You CAN do this. I really hope you will email me and let me know how you are doing.
With love, ChristyAugust 30, 2008 at 8:23 am #22045Dragonfly7
Baby girl… my heart goes out to you.
PLEASE know that this is for a purpose. I know it can’t feel like it to you right now, but your beautiful babies were hand-made by God Himself, each lovingly designed by Him. There are SO MANY options for you!!!
If you are unable to keep your babies yourself, there are infant adoption programs out there. You can google Infant Adoption Training Initiative for more info on what exactly that involves. Should you decide to give the gift of babies to a family who desperately wants them, you have the choice of whether to have an open (where you get to be in contact with your kids as they grow up), closed (where you never see or hear from them), or in-between adoption.
There are so many people like me out here who will do anything and everything possible to help you – even letting you live with them if necessary!
If you have a Bible, (or if you go to a bookstore or library and look in theirs) look up Psalm 139… (it’s right near the middle of the Bible) It tells just how much God loves your precious babies – AND YOU!!! Part of it reads:
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,
16 your eyes saw my unformed body.
All the days ordained for me
were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
Read it twice, once thinking of your twins, once thinking of you.
You are dearly loved! Not only by God, but also by me and the other girls on this site.
PLEASE know that this is NOT a punishment. It is NOT your fault. YOU are INNOCENT… and so are your precious babies. If you can’t find the support you need from your Mom and your doctor, ask another woman to be a mentor for you, and find a different doctor if you have to.
We love and support you!!! *hug*
<3 Dragonfly7August 30, 2008 at 12:31 pm #22047Lovely7
Wow girl. This is rough stuff. And it happens. And for some reason it happened to you. Think about that. It happened to YOU. Not your mother, not your doctor, not your friends or family. So while I’m sire they want to help, maybe its not the best thing. You can live with rape just barely. And it will take time to get through this. But an abortion on top of that is even more. I mean adoption or other options are available. I agree with what everyone is saying here. Think of you and whats best for those babies. Pray. God is listening even if it doesnt feel like it. And remember it is not your fault. That is the most important thing. Why did this happen? I dont know, but I believe with my entire being that everything happens for a reason. Someday you will be able to help someone. This website is called stand up girl. Well what can I say? STAND UP GIRL. Do what YOU feel is right. God Bless <3August 31, 2008 at 4:48 am #22054Anonymous
PLEASE choose to give life to your unborn babies! I promise you that you’ll never regret the choice. Those little babies are special and innocent of all things bad. You should not murder a baby who had no choice or say in anything happening. Don’t deny that you love your children, because I can tell that you do, and I’m positive that these girls on the site do.
We’re all here because we’re in a similiar situation. Mostly it’s because we made the choice, but either way, we have a living human being or beings inside of us. A growing, loving child/ren who need their mother to stand up and say what they can’t.August 31, 2008 at 6:08 pm #22069kez_mummy_2_skye
sounds like you’re motherly instincts are kicking in.
The babies didnt deserve this, they deserve a life. If you dont want to give it to them then think about someody else.September 7, 2008 at 9:44 am #22153kaybabyy
:dry: Hey sweetie:) I’m Keira, i’m 14 and i don’t know much about this stuff,but i know it’s not your fault. Stay strong and you will be in my prayers. God bless.September 9, 2008 at 3:48 am #22160Child_of_God
Hey Beautiful! I’m sorry you have had to go through all this. It’s a tough situation, and I’m glad you stopped cutting and told your mom. I will be praying for you to make the right decision for you and those babies, they are a gift from God, something beautiful to remind you that you are loved even if it is the result of something so messed up. I was raped by a boyfriend at 15 and it messed with my mind for a long time. You heard those heartbeats and fell in love…its a natural thing to do. If you can’t keep them yourself please give them up for adoption, there is someone out there praying to God for the chance to be a parent and they would care for your little ones and love them. Life will never be the same if you terminate this pregnancy, it will be a long hard road. I worry because you were cutting, and fear that you will do worse with the guilt of terminating the pregnancy. Please call the numbers you were given and seek out some counselling. And Please PLEASE feel free to contact me if you just need an ear..October 3, 2008 at 3:58 am #22500littlemom16
did you keep the babies?
abortion is wrong.
if you really arent ready let someone adopt them. they will be lovedOctober 22, 2008 at 2:50 am #22760i.FiGHt.fOR.lOVE.
omg girl. im so sorry. i just turned fifteen, so i was just 14. i cant image…:( i dont know exactly how to help. but if you EVER need ANYTHING or just to talk- let me know. im here for youu.
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