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August 13, 2005 at 2:14 pm #9023Anonymous
On February 25th I had an abortion. I was seven and a half weeks pregnant. I guess my question is, am I considered a mother or not. I don’t think I have a right to be called a mother because a real mother would never do that to her child. I’m so sorry.August 17, 2005 at 8:17 am #9058Kit
Sometimes don’t you wish that you had the ability to travel back in time and change things that have happened in the past? – I know there are times that I have felt that way.
Yes, you were technically a mother. However beating yourself up emotionally over the past won’t help. Unfortunately it is impossible for you to go back and undo your abortion. However it sounds like you are still in pain from the experience. Perhaps you should look into Project Rachel or other post abortion counseling which might help you to deal with some of the pain from your experience.
You can learn from this experience. Next time you can make different choices and you can still be a good mother in the future.August 17, 2005 at 5:30 pm #9061Anonymous
Thank you for your reply. I didn’t think that the answer I would get would ease my mind but it did. I know it wouldn’t have been an easy question for me to answer so thanks. I think that was the best answer that is possible for that question. And you’re right I am still very much in pain, I think about it every day and you’re absolutly right (again)…. I do wish I could go back, but no amount of "I’m sorry, please give me another chance" will make what I did go away or be any easier to deal with. Like most I realized too late what I had done. Thanks again.August 18, 2005 at 3:06 am #9068Anonymous
Hey I am 17 years old and I have a 10 month old son and i think being a mother means a lot more then just being pregnant. I think that you truly are a mother when your child is born and your taking care of him/her 24 hrs a day 7 days a week!August 19, 2005 at 5:25 am #9081Kit
I’m glad that you found my reply helpful.
(I don’t know if you are a Christian or believe in God. I do. I believe that God is ultimately very forgiving and loving and that as long as we are truly sorry, that we will be forgiven for our mistakes no matter what they were. I believe that someday you will get to see your child in heaven and I bet they will understand that you were in a tough situation and made a decision that aftereards you wish you could have changed. I bet that he or she will love you. Hopefully someday you will also be able to forgive yourself.)
Well anyways not trying to get too "preachy" there. If you ever need someone to talk to someone who cares I would be glad to listen and try to help if I can.
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