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February 24, 2011 at 1:16 am #28025jacqueline622
I found out I was pregnant two weeks ago and since then, my life has been nothing but a roller coaster ride. The father of the baby is my ex bf. We have been on and off for six years and are still trying to work on getting back together. I love him very much but we still have alot of growing to do as well as working on our relationship. We did alot of things in the past that we both cant get over so it has been a constant struggle. However, through it all, I know he is the one I want to be with.
Anyways, when I found out i was pregnant I told him right away and he was filled with anger and said many hurtful and crazy things. Things that I never thought he could even think. He has very strong feelings that I should get an abortion. Pretty much there are no if’s and’s or but’s in his eyes. We need to get this taken care of and thats the end of it. Financially, neither of us can afford a child. An again our relationship isnt the best which can also be very unhealthy for a child. However, since I found out I was pregnant the thought of abortion never crossed my mind. Although I am not ready for a child in anyway. I dont agree with abortion and feel that I will regret it for the rest of my life. But he thinks thats the only way out. He wont listen to anything I have to say and continues to grow angrier and angrier when I try to talk about both options.
I want to have this child, I know that someway or somehow I can make it work, possibly we can make it work. But I am just so scared of losing this guy who I have spent the last six years working to be with. I know we both care about each other and someday we can have the relationship we dream of, but I think if a baby is brought into the picture we will never get that chance.
There is also the chance that if i keep the baby he will come around, but idk if I can base a decision on a maybe or if. I’m having a really hard time making this decision and I dont know where else to turn to. I feel that i have two choices. Get the abortion and give me and mike a chance, or keep the baby and lose mike forever. Any input would be so much appreciated.February 24, 2011 at 5:07 pm #28031Anonymous
first, im sorry your bf has been treating you this way! its not right.Getting an abortion just to make him happy is not the way it should be, and by no means should you have to go against what you believe to make him happy! you will find another guy that will treat you right in time!!Take a Stand and say no to abortion! keep your baby 🙂 your baby did nothing wrong, and now its your job to keep yourself healthy and happy so your baby can grow and become beautiful 🙂 dont worry about him right now !! you never know, once he sees your babies face he might actually thank you for not getting the abortion! my husband(bf at the time) was very stand offish about having a baby.. but as soon as he held her his whole world changed and he was soooo grateful to have her in the world 🙂 so dont you worry and get stressed about it !! 🙂 things will work out how they need to be , whether its with Mike or not 🙂February 25, 2011 at 10:13 am #28033Ham4Jesus
You have to realize we base most our decisions in life on feelings and emotions, rather than the facts and faith. I want to encourage you to go through with having the baby. There’s always adoption as a choice but don’t go for the abortion, because I’ve been there. Don’t let circumstances control your life either. You need to rely and trust on God with this situation that he will carry you and your baby through and that nothing is impossible with God. You need to ask your boyfriend and yourself this, what are we aborting here? And if it’s from a human being then, it’s a human being. Nothing compares in this world too loosing your own baby because you had control over this innocent being and destroyed it’s right to live and that you must live with that for the rest of your life. Yeah, I’ve been forgiven and able to be open about my abortion but a part of me is gone that I can never get back. Even for years I couldn’t stand to look at babies, hear them, see a picture, hear or see the word abortion because it haunted me so much. I just ask you make the best decision you’ll ever make and that would be give life no matter what anyone tells you. Be strong, stand up and fight for you know that having the baby is right! You can do it! Much love…
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