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June 27, 2009 at 10:52 pm #25393GeneralSmut
Im 18 years old, im a pre-professional dancer and im pregnant and i really really dont know what to do. im meant to be going to a really good dance school in september and if i keep the baby i will have to give it all up, im just so confused. please help.June 27, 2009 at 11:52 pm #25394Meg11
Oh honey, I am so sorry that you are in this dilemma, no one should ever have to chose between their own flesh and blood and a profession…I know you are in a tough place and I can feel the fear and confusion and pull radiating from your post, My dream was always to be a dancer, ballet, I was in ballet for several years and I won so many awards and then one year, I was 12, my dad could no longer afford to keep me in dance, that was the year that I started rebelling, dance kept me focused on my future and taught me self respect for my body but when I was no longer in ballet I just threw it all out and gave up….I lost my virginity at 13 just several months after I had to stop dancing and I only went down hill after that….I ended up pregnant at 19 and I was into heavy partying and drugs and the dad wanted me to get an abortion, I almost did and I am sooooo glad I didn’t, sometimes when no one is home or when the kids want to listen to music I will do some ballet moves and they love dancing around with me, it is so fun, I never made it to the Boshoi theater in Russia, my ultimate goal but I look back and nothing compares to the accomplishment I have in being a mommy, I didn’t plan my first two kids and I went through a rough season of being a single mom, I will not lie, it was hard and there were many times that I was unsure if I would keep my house or have water and electricity due to lack of income, I was prepared to cook outside over a fire if I had to…seriously I was taking steps towards being able to survive in my house with no water or electricity and I had a friend offer me their camping toilet…LOL…I am thankful that it never had to come to that but it came scarily close…I know that if you abort your child that you will live with regret for the rest of your life, just the grief and pain and depression that it can and will bring can ruin your dance career and or make you bitter and resentful towards yourself and dance for being “more important” than your child….Trust me on this one, nothing compares to holding your new born baby in your arms, watching them grow and learn, hearing their giggles and first words, feeling their pain when they fall down and scrape their knees, the memories they make in your heart….nothing compares to it, there is a chance that you will be able to carry your child to term and then continue in dance, it is worth the what ifs and unknowns to give your baby life….do not rob yourself of true joy and happiness, please give it some serious thought and please do not do anything until you have taken some time to really weigh the costs and research abortion and the effects, please email my friend Lisa, she knows first hand what it is like to live with regret… email@example.com ,I am here and I really hope that you will respond and keep in touch no matter what you decide…but please know that there is a reason that this little heart beats within your body, just like Bob Ross says, there are no mistakes, only happy accidents!! It is not a mistake that you are pregnant, this is an opportunity some women crave and hope for, you have this gift, regardless of your circumstances, carry this gift wisely!! Love Meg, firstname.lastname@example.orgJuly 1, 2009 at 11:53 pm #25413Meg11
Hey there, I have been thinking about you and wondering if you have made any kind of a decision yet…July 27, 2009 at 4:12 am #25532GeneralSmut
I had an abortion, and i think i regret it. There hasnt been one morning where i havent cried when i havent been sick…but im just hoping that in the end i made the right decision and that i will feel better soon, although maybe i dont deserve to feel better, but i only had the abortion because it would never have been fair on my baby to bring it into a world where i literally wudnt have been able to take care of it.
i hope this gets easier, thankyou for caring.
xxJuly 27, 2009 at 3:19 pm #25534GangY
I am so sorey I just saw this post yet..
Well what’s done is done..
I want you to know that the road after the abortion is hard.and I’m talking out of my own experience.. It will take a lot of talking to heal..and I want you to know that when you need someone to talk,I will be there!
MonikaJuly 28, 2009 at 8:00 pm #25543Anonymous
I think that time will help you heal, but start listening to not only yourself, but the other people around you trying to support you. You DO deserve to feel better, and eventually you will learn how to deal with this grief. Let yourself grieve and let yourself cry, get angry, remember your baby… do all of it. Make the best of this choice and do what you were trying to do for yourself. Live your dreams.
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