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December 14, 2010 at 10:55 pm #27749McKinney
I was 18 and I’d just started going out with my boyfriend (who is now my fiancee!) when I got pregnant. We’d had sex straight away in our relationship and my parents hadn’t even met the guy yet.
I felt like I had no other choice than to have an abortion and so that’s what I did.
I always loved that baby, I just didn’t think I could handle being a parent at such a young age….I didn’t tell my boyfriend.
A year later my boyfriend’s mum came close to death in a car accident, it made us think about how precious life is & I suddenly saw my abortion in a way that I never had before.
It was wrong.
It was a life.
I told my boyfriend, as well as his parents and they were so forgiving of me, I also begged for God’s forgiveness & to know our baby was in heaven. I now know that my baby is in a beautiful with God 🙂
A year after my secret coming out, we decided to try to have another baby & have been blessed with a beautiful little girl called Isabelle.
I realise that having an abortion does not stop you from being a mother, but it makes you a mother to a dead baby.
I’m praying that God will forgive me and my baby can forgive me so that we can meet again, I thank God for my 2 children, one in heaven and one on earth.
I just felt like I should share my story as I’ve been on both sides of this difficult decision after a crisis pregnancy and I would love to talk with some of you.
Love Sinéad xDecember 26, 2010 at 3:30 am #27787Amz93
i was 15 when i had my abortion. it wasnt my choice and i will never forgive myself. but this story has opened my eyes.
i am a mother.
i just wish there werent any complications in any future children that i’d want.
you have opened my eyes.
AmzDecember 27, 2010 at 9:26 am #27789soccer.chicka101
I’ve never experienced going through abortion but I know it has to be painful (emotional wise) and knowing that you ARE a mother to a dead baby.
I don’t see why you’d ever want to have an abortion. I mean, yes I know sometimes you’re in a situation where you can’t absolutely care for your child but there’s someone who can. Do you know how many couples can’t have children? And have to wait YEARS to adopt a child? Angelina J. is not an example. You can’t go to Ethiopia and just pick out kids. It’s like, you have to wait in line, and it’s a big pain in the butt. I have a family member who’s been waiting to adopt a baby for years now, and she’s barely in the single numbers now.
Carrying a human being in your stomach for nine months. Growing, loving and bonding with your child and then giving the baby to a different family would be most likely the most difficult thing in your life. But having an abortion is no different, I think. You’re basically killing someone you love. My point of view is that it’s murder. And it should be illegal.
And if I ever come into the situation where I need to decide whether to give my baby up for adoption or abortion. My mind is set on adoption, no if’s and’s or but’s. That child, a child who could do great things in this world, change a generation, deserves to live.
-LexiDecember 29, 2010 at 4:30 pm #27793danibrowneyes
hey guys totaly confused and in a state, found out a few weeks ago that i am pregnant not planned and not wot i wanted.im 24 soon and i have a 3 1/2 year old daughter who is my life, i met a guy online and we got really close he is a soldier and we met up when he was back on his rnr we had an amazing time together and decided we would give a relationship ago as we got on so well and bounced of eachother he went back to afgan and i then found out i was pregnant we have known each other for a few months but as i z we only met for the first time when he came home. i met his family and he has met mine! when i found out i was pregnant i didnt no wot to do or who to tell i first of all told my closest friend and she was happy for me but i wasnt she knowns how into eachother me and this guy are but the hardest thing is i dont no if we will work out! i dont no wot to do iv bn thinkin the past couple of days about having an abortion which is something i have always bn against but i want my daughter to have the life she deserves and i dont no if i can cope with having 2 children if any of u ladies can help me out would b much apreciated!! love dani xDecember 30, 2010 at 9:48 am #27800soccer.chicka101
Well.. Is it the soldier’s baby? That’s my first question. And I don’t know if you’d be able to cope with 2 kids on your own, I mean I know your family would support you (at least I hope) but it’d still be a rough ride. I’m not sure what to say exactly.. Maybe write a blog about it and see what other girls say
love lexi x
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