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August 5, 2005 at 4:02 am #8975Anonymous
Hello, My name is kelly… I am 17 years old and i have a six months old daughter. Her name is silence. i named her that because i wanted her to have a unique name and i thought that the word n it self was pretty. These days i feel so alone. Her father ran of once we got the dna test results back and i can’t find him. My sister is 8 months pregnant. My parents are so happy! They hate me. My sister is 23 years old and she’s been marrried fot two years. i think thats why they hate me. because i wasn’t married. don’t get me wrong i absolutely love my sweety heart(silence) but i just wish that i could get some help from someone, i just wish i could find someone who will support me and tell me everythings going to be ok. so any way sorry to be so depressing.August 10, 2005 at 12:14 pm #9007Anonymous
First of all, I just wanted to say that I think Silence is a beautiful name! I have never heard of anyone with that name (other than Benjamin Franklin’s fictional character Silence DoGood). What did you give her as a middle name?
I’m sorry you feel so alone. It must be horrible feeling that your parents hate you. I have no idea what you are feeling since I have never been in your shoes, but I can imagine how awful it must feel.
Do you have any friends you could turn to? Do you go to church or have some sort of support group you could get involved in? Sometimes, in cities, there are groups of moms that get together and do things together and with their children. Maybe where you live they have something like that.
Sorry I don’t have anything to offer, but I just wanted you to know that there is someone out there who cares. I commend you for having your baby and giving her a chance at life!
🙂August 11, 2005 at 4:27 am #9012Anonymous
Don’t be depressed. It is important to remember that YOUR daughter is the most important thing in your life and how you raise her is up to you. I know that approval from parents is very important but it is not a necessity. I hoped for the fame and glory when I had my first child but it just didn’t happen. I got a pat on the back and a good luck have a nice life boot to the head.
Now that I am almost 30 I know now that my children are the best thing that ever happened to me. It made me who I am today and I would never change it for the world.
My best advice to you… stand-up, be strong, and be true to yourself. If your parents want to be in the life of your daughter they will have to learn to respect you and the choices that you have made. If they can’t then you don’t need them.
Best of luck.August 11, 2005 at 5:37 am #9014babygurl15
hi my name is Tia.that is a very unique name.im sure ur parents dnt hate you they may be a lil upset but they dnt hate u.n as 4 her(silence)dad its his loss!he’s gona miss out on a great kid.and everything will b ok.everything happens 4 a reason.u’ll make it through.and if u eva need 2 talk im hereAugust 14, 2005 at 11:55 pm #9040Anonymous
Dear, everything IS going to be okay.
I feel so alone most of the time too but for different reasons.
Try to embrace yourself– you’re are NOT you’re sister and that is perfectly okay.
You’re parents are probably just scared and concerned for you because you had a baby so young. You may need to sit them down and tell them that you feel left out and you need to be accepted more than ever. They need to understand that this can be a lot more scary for you than it is for them and if they don’t want to give you any support than you can seek therapy. (sometimes therapists give far better support than parents are capable of)
Look on the bright side and don’t let anything spoil it for you: You are a wonderful woman, You have a beautiful baby, You HAVE A FULL LIFE AHEAD OF YOU and it’s going to be fantastic.
And I happen to think Silence is a sweet name
-KimAugust 15, 2005 at 1:58 pm #9047Anonymous
thank you, to everyone thta has hellped me and given me advise i really needed it. i will try to get my point accross to my parents and i will try to see how that works out.
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