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April 3, 2005 at 9:48 am #7236shadyslady2004
[b]Hey guys my last boyfriend just broke up with me. I have a new boyfriend but he is my best friend’s ex boyfriend and now shes mad at me its stinks and i need help shes my best friend but me and my boyfriend love each other and when they were togehter they nver got along. Can you help me.April 5, 2005 at 4:48 am #7246Anonymous
I just want to let you know I was in that position once, where my best friend at the time started dating my ex. My ex and I were broken up for like 3 months, but it still hurt and felt weird seeing them together, just holding hands or kissing. I felt like I lost my best friend because of a guy because I was secretly hurt, but I did not tell her that. I think do what your heart says. My friend did, and she picked the guy! I was lost, but I started hanging around other people, and got a new boyfriend, which ended up being my ex’s friend. Weird! Anyhow, your friend could have loved your boyfriend, but they just didn’t get along much. But, I still think go with your heart. I think you and your best friend need to talk this out because losing a friend is not fun, especially your best friend. Maybe she is just uncomfortable seeing you two holding hands, hugging, kissing…like me. Try to work this friendship out, but if you really love your boyfriend, don’t let it ruin that relationship. REMEMBER: it takes two to make a relationship work…if your friend doesn’t put here forth towards the relationship, maybe she is not a true friend. Think about it.
This is a sticky situation, there is no right and wrong to it.
Hope it helped,
PamApril 5, 2005 at 5:18 am #7249Anonymous
I have been in your friends situation before. I went out with a guy and we later broke up and then my best friend started dating him and it crushed me. I mean our friendship really went down hill. We fought a lot and never hardly talked. The only reason that it upset me so much was because I still had feelings for the guy. Maybe your friend still has feelings for this boy that you are dating and it hurts her to see you two together. Or maybe it just upsets he because before you guys started going out you didn’t consider how it would make her feel. My friend ended up breaking up with this guy because she realized that he was a jerk and they fought a lot. You said that when your friend and this guy were together they never got along, right? Maybe that is because he was perhaps rude to her, and she is upset because she wants to warn you. That is what friends do. They watch out for there friends and tell then when there is bad headed their way. I think that you and your friend need to talk about the situation that you are in. Just remember boyfriends come and go but friends are forever. Who have you been closer to longer? I am sure you will know what to do.April 6, 2005 at 5:24 am #7269shadyslady2004
[b]well before she broke up wiht him and Justin broke up with me, we were taking those stupid online quizzes aNd one asked us what we would do if our ex got a new gf and she put that she would be happy for him. they never got along because one wanted to do something and another wanted to do somethin else or what ever and when they were goin out and Ashley told me about him like what he liked and stuff, he sounded a whole lot like me! the same way my bf at the time and Ashley were! 🙂April 6, 2005 at 5:53 am #7270Anonymous
I WAS IN THE POSITION THAT YOUR BEST FRIEND IS IN. ITS TOUGH I HAD A BEST FRIEND OF 4 YEARS AND I FELT BETRAYED. BUT LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING THAT MIGHT BE YOUR BOYFRIEND NOW AND ACT LIKE HE DOES LOVE YOU BUT IF HE DID IT TO HER IT MAKES IT EVEN EASIER FOR HIM TO DO IT TO YOU HE SAW THAT HE CAN HAVE YOU EASILY EVEN IF IT WAS LOSING A REAL FRIEND. REMEMBER TO CHERISH YOUR FRIENDS AT ALL TIMES BECAUSE WHEN THAT GUY DECIDES THAT ITS TIME FOR A CHANGE HE WILL LEAVE YOU AND GO FOR SOMETHING NEW. BELIEVE I KNOW MY BOYFRIEND OF 5 YEARS LEFT OFF WITH MY EX AND I STOP TALKING TO BOTH OF THEM WE SAW EACHOTHER ONE TIME AND HE BROKE THINGS OFF WITH HER AND GOT BACK WITH ME. NOW IM PREGNANT BY HIM AND SHE STILL CALLS NAGGING AND BOTHERING ME. BELIEVE ME WHEN I TELL YOU THAT NO GUY IS WORTH LOSING A FRIEND FOR. I HAVE SUFFERED AND HURT ALOT WHEN I THOUGHT SOMEONE I COULD COUNT ON COULD DO SOMETHING TO ME THAT I WOULD NEVER EVEN THINK ABOUT TWICE DOING TO THEM. YOU MIGHT LOVE HIM BUT REMEMBER HE MIGHT BE ALL CARING NOW BUT THE DAY WILL COME THAT HE WONT ANY LONGER. I KNOW I’VE BEEN THERE AND I MADE A MISTAKE TAKING HIM BACK, NOW IM HAVING HIS BABY AND HE TREATS ME LIKE IF IT WERE NOTHING I HURT EVERY DAY I HOPE YOU DONT WISH THIS UPON A FRIEND THAT I AM SURE THAT HAS BEEN THERE FOR YOU THROUGH THICK AND THIN. I WILL NEVER IN MY LIFE FORGIVE HER OR HIM BUT MY MISTAKE WAS GETTING BACK WITH HIM JUST BEACAUSE HE HAS ALWAYS BEEN MY EVERYTHING AND WAS MY FIRST EVERYTHING. SIT DOWN ANS THINK BECAUSE REMEMBER GUYS COME AND GO BUT FRIENDS ARE FOREVER. AND YOU WOULDNT WANT THIS ISSUE TO COME UPON YOU. 😉April 7, 2005 at 1:06 am #7282Anonymous
she might be there when he decides he doesnt want to anymore.
Post edited by: JENNIE2230, at: 2005/04/07 14:15April 7, 2005 at 11:43 am #7285shadyslady2004
[b]its so hard. i dont know what to do anymore. 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁
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