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March 30, 2008 at 11:00 pm #20796strawberryyum15
i found out that i’m about 5 weeks pregnant a few days ago…i really don’t know what to do & i feel like the only thing i can do right now is to get an abortion but i’m 17..(i’ll be 18 in 2 months) so i was wondering if i went to another state to get an abortion would they let me ? if i wasnt a resident of their state?? please help..
AngelaApril 1, 2008 at 10:16 am #20813seedsofhope
I’m not sure if another stae would let you. I’d tend to think no.
But rather than an abortion, have you considered keeping our baby or adoption?April 8, 2008 at 7:16 am #20878hopefulone
I know you must be scared and confused. I wish I had words and advice to help you make a decision you can live with. I’m in the opposite situation where I want a baby but can’t have one. I’m trying to adopt but because I’m single, it’s very difficult. I had no idea it would be this hard. Guess not being Brangelina or some other famous rich single person is definately a hit against me. Any way, if you want to talk (if you want to consider putting your baby up for adoption) I’ll be glad to talk. I don’t know what your situation is but please think hard about abortion. You can always drop the baby off (right after birth) at hospitals or fire departments and don’t have to identify yourself if you don’t want anyone to know. There are other options.. Good luck to you. I feel for you.April 8, 2008 at 7:29 am #20880karendobbs
I recommend adoption. I don’t think that abortion is ever the solution. There is a family that God can provide for your child, and if you want, you can choose to remain either confidential or open with the family. I think it is important to preserve human life. After all, what if the baby inside you is going to cure cancer, AIDS, or some other untreatable disease?
I also have heard many women explain the regret they felt afterwards. This regret can last many years, or even a lifetime. Please, seek counsel from these women and they will tell you their personal experiences. There are many of these women on this website.
I pray that you find good guidance in this matter. Please keep us updated as to your decision.April 8, 2008 at 5:46 pm #20884hopefulone
Very well written post. I hope it can save someone from aborting their baby.April 11, 2008 at 9:11 pm #20913LillieAunas_Mommy
I really hope you don’t abort your baby. It is extremely scary to be in the position you are in but so many girls get through it. Of corse no one can tell you what to do but we can tell you stories of why not to do it. I got pregnant at 14 by this guy that "loved" me.. When I told him he said he couldn’t handle that and that I was just too much drama…I misscarried. I got pregnant again by a different guy at 14 1/2. He told me that I was just trying to ruin his life and to get out of it. I was just about to get an abortion but decided not to…I was going to keep this baby not kill it. I loved the baby at just 8 weeks but I felt something was wrong…and there was…the baby didn’t have a heart beat and I was dvistated.April 17, 2008 at 9:44 pm #20977clwbabyboy
do you really want to have an abortion? what is the real reason? You need to really think about it hun. there are ppl that have abortions and can never get pregnant again. It is actually really dangerous. im 18 and 7 months pregnant. The moment you see your baby on that ultra sound, you will most likly change your mind. a baby is hard, but you can do it. Im going to do it, and I have no family support. think about things.April 18, 2008 at 9:29 pm #20983insubordinateximpx09
Well, I’ve heard that the women and girls who get abortions really have a hard time dealing with it afterwards and everything, so that’s probably not the best route to go. I’m 16 right now, and I’ll be turning 17 next month, and I just had my son and I couldn’t imagine it any other way. He is the most precious thing ever. I didn’t think I would be able to handle being a mother. I am only a junior in high school and have plans to go to college, but this baby changed everything for the better. I started getting A’s in school and passing all of my classes. I raised my gpa from a 1.0 to a 2.7. It’s amazing what you will do for the little person inside of you. Just think about it and explore the options of adoption or even keeping the baby. It may be hard, but many many girls have made it through your situation.April 22, 2008 at 5:24 pm #21008winterishrain
I reccomend that you see a dr. first. I was dead set on abortion becuase I thought there was just no other way to do it. I really felt trapped into it, like there was just no other option. but then I heard it’s heart beat and saw it, and at 10 weeks it looked surprising like a little person. I scheduled the abortion, but was dying inside at the thought of it. So, in a long distance email to my mom, I broke down and told her everything. she didn’t pressure me one way or another, which I appreciated, but she told me that if I wanted to keep the baby her and my dad would do anything in their power to help. This was not the reaction I expected from her at all. So, when it came to abortion, I just couldn’t do it, knowing there was another way. Has it been hard? yes, have I had to make sacrifices? yes. and I’ll have to make a whole lot more. But now I wouldn’t change it for the world. The period your in is hard one, and abortion seems like the only logical thing. But give it some time, talk to someone about your options, and you’ll see that there are more of them out there than you may be aware of. Abortion might erase a pregnacy, but it doesn’t erase a baby. That baby, in my opinion, will always be a part of you no matter what you decide to do, And knowing it’s alive and well with you or an adopted parent will be a much better feeling, although it seems like a hard route now. I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but there is hope, love, and happiness down the road of carrying your baby to term, even though it might seem dark and dreary at the moment.
There is a good book called "Surprise Child" by Leslie Leyland Fields, which tackles both the options of adoption and keeping your baby, and talks candidly about all of the emotions you’ll feel along the way. You may want to check it out. It’s helped me alot!
Best of luck!
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