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May 9, 2005 at 2:37 am #7714Anonymous
HELLO MY NAME IS EVE AND I JUST TURN 14 YEARS OLD ON APRIL 30. I AM REALLI SCARED I MIGHT BE PREGNANT. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I REALLI WANT TO TELL MY MOM AND DAD BUT I AM A SCARED I MIGHT DISAPOINT THEM AND THEY MIGHT KICK ME OUT AND I AM AFRAID TO TELL MY BOYFRIEND. PLEASE ANY1 HELP ME!May 12, 2005 at 11:51 am #7773dorkalious_stud_muffin
im 15 years old and im pregnant, i actually just found out…. so i no what your going through…of course itll disappoint them. Im still afraid to tell my mom. But, I think you should tell your boyfriend. He needs to know. Im telling mine tonight. The sad part is, htat I just found out hes been with other girls. So I dont wanna tell him. But I have too….the sooner the better.May 12, 2005 at 2:34 pm #7777Jonluver
first thing you need to do is calm down and find out if you really are pregnant. You need to find someone you can trust and talk to them about it. Whether it’s your boyfriend or a friend. Preferribly an adult. Like a teacher, older sibling, school nurse, or an older relative. I had the same thing happen to me when i was 15. I told one of my friends that i thought i was pregnant. She told her mother, who called my school and pretended to be my mom. She took me to famliy planning (which is like planned parenthood) and i got a pregnancy test. Turned out i wasn’t pregnant.
Once you know for sure (and if you are), then you should tell your parents. I know it’s scary to tell them but you have to. Your not a little kid any more. It’s something you have to do. And they can’t kick you out. They will probably be disapointed and it may seem like they’re mad. But your their baby and they love you no matter what.
But if they do get mad (like mine did when i got pregnant at 17) and try to make you have an abortion. DON’T LET THEM!!! You have the right to NOT have one. Fight for it. If they drag to get one done tell a nurse.
Hope this helps. I hope things work out for you!May 14, 2005 at 12:26 pm #7802dorkalious_stud_muffin
i read how you said dont let them give you an abortion to someone…and i was wondering….cant your parents make you though? or is it your choice? b/c im pregnant and I no my mom will make me abort it. and i dont want that to happen.May 14, 2005 at 4:01 pm #7804Jonluver
No. Abousultly not!!!!! If you are pregnant your are considered an immancipated teenager. You and ONLY you can make your medical desicions. No one can force you to murder your child!!
I went through the same thing. My mom tried to force me to have an abortion. She took me to the doctors and everything. She told the doctor i was having an abortion. I said no i wasn’t. The doctor told her she had no say. I was the only one now that could make my medical desicion and she would not do the surgery. There was nothing my mom could do about it!!!! 🙂
Hope that helps!!May 15, 2005 at 12:15 pm #7814Anonymous
No one can tell you what you should do but I can offer you some insight by telling you my story. I was 25 when I got pregnant by a man I didn’t love. I had not yet established myself in a career yet and didn’t know how I could provide for my baby. I was so scared and I didn’t feel like I had anyone to hold me up and tell me "you can have this baby and I am going to be with you every step of the way." I think if I had that support I could have had my baby but instead I had an abortion. I can tell you that the decision was the hardest thing I have ever done. I am now 34 years old and I have a son who I love insanely!! I tell you that because, as a parent myself, I LOVE my son SO MUCH and if he were in a situation as difficult as yours I would hope that he would come to me and lean on me because I would move the earth to help him. I don’t know your relationship with your parents but I do understand how they love you and would imagine that they will be naturally upset about your situation but I think they would want you to lean on them and let them help you. They are your parents and no one loves you more than they do so you can trust that they will help you through this. Please don’t go through this alone!!!! You need support and do not be ashamed or worried that you will disappoint your parents if you tell them. You already have their love and there is nothing you could ever do to change that – trust me. I have loved my son from the moment I first laid eyes on him and there isn’t anything he could do in his life that would ever disappoint me. PLEASE – DON"T GO THROUGH THIS ALONE. TALK WITH SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU and only wants the best for you.
All the best to you and I will keep you in my thoughts.
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