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- September 8, 2005 at 5:21 am #9205
Well I just turned 17, and I found out i was pregnant when I was 16. My boyfriend is 22 and he says he’ll be there for me…but he lives in Columbus and I won’t even get to see him until October probably, and things aren’t going very well with us. We have TOO many ups and downs. Sometimes I don’t think we’ll last, but I love him so much…I don’t know what to do.September 8, 2005 at 7:37 am #9213
Take a good and honest look at your relationship. Will the father be there for you? Will he be there for the baby? Don’t give up on a good relationship, but don’t stay trapped in a relationship that deep down you realize is not healthy. Hang in there. Maybe you can work things out. If not there are resources to help out single mothers. Adoption is also a possible option is facing parenthood alone seems a frightening and overwhelming prospect. I don’t know if you are Christian or not, but I would pray and see if you feel that God leads you in a certain direction. Follow your heart and soul.September 10, 2005 at 10:36 am #9231
well i guess i’ll offer my own advice. if you love him and he loves you, then i believe you can work things out. i know my boyfriend and i fight a lot(even more since he has gone to college) but we always talk things out.
remember an argument will only last as long as you let it. 95% of the time, you should be happy. if you can still be happy when you’re fighting, then that great. but u will have to ask yourself if the fights are important or silly. me and mine get into a lot of silly little fights. we know they’re stupid. but we get frustrated cuz we stop listening for a little. try to always listen and make sure that you talk it out at all times.September 11, 2005 at 1:32 pm #9242
Well im also 17 and im also dating a guy that is older than i am. He’s 21 but i actually live with him. After i found out that i was pregnant i thought it would be best for the baby if we just raised the child together and not alone. He is also very supportive for me and he works for me as well. Hes a good guy. My advice to you is to think about your child more and not yourself. Thats what i did and it seems to be working for me. 😉September 14, 2005 at 2:03 am #9258
it might help you if you always think about all the good things about ur relationship. dont concentrate so much on the fact there is a large distance between you. try to use this time to get to know each other better emotionally. i’m doing that with my boyfriend. we kept fighting because we were focusing so much on the fact that we are far apart and unable to see each other, rather than thinking about the fact that its only temporary.
dont look at the negative. look think about things like names for your baby. also, i recommend you discuss rules you want to implement. are you going to pay more attention to buying ur child toys and placing them in front of the tv, or do u want to spend more time talking and playing with him/her than sitting them in front of the tv. you were both probably raised rather differently and you need to discuss rules early on. when the child is older, are they going to have to do chores or not? will you always buy everything for them or will they have to raise the money to buy a lot of things on their own. there’s lots to think about, and as u will both be raising this child, you need to think about these things.
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