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November 6, 2007 at 9:58 am #19404rocky51
My boyfriend just keeps saying "abortion"
and i cant do it. i just cant do that. i tell him i wont do it, no matter what anyone says. Im going to keep it and thats final…
and i give him so many reasons why abortion is wrong..and he just doesnt get it…i said i want to just show him one thing that i know will change his mind…
so im asking your help.
please just write something, why an abortion is wrong..and how it affected your life…
im going to show my boyfrined just FYI..so he can understand how hard abortions affects us girls.November 6, 2007 at 10:34 am #19411Meg11
Ok now…we have already talked about this a bit…remember if you found out you were pregnant (which I assume you have) you were not even going to consider an abortion….right?? and you have so many resources around you…you can do this…he cannot make you get one, do you know that most couples who choose to have an abortion end up falling apart within months??? so the reason he would want to "get rid of the baby" is because he is not ready to be a dad right??? and because he wants to just be with you without kids…right?? well if you get an abortion he will end up leaving in the end or you will resent him so much your relationship will fail anyways, sooooooo how about, keep the baby, he can run if he wants but you are not left alone with an empty hurting void…you will have your precious baby that no one can take from you…I have not had an abortion but I have two children and one on the way and the way that they have changed my life and grown me up and brought me joy to my heart is reason enough not too…this baby didn’t ask to be sucked out and thrown away, that is what abortion is, they will cut the baby up and suck it out and throw it away in a biohazard bag…not to be too graphic but that is truth, there is no glory, there is no still soft sentimental moment involved like in a lifetime movie, this is a real baby, with a real beating heart….this is a part of you, this baby was made from your body, are you going to let some guy or family member strip you from the right to keep your own self??? If he doesn’t want to keep the baby then maybe you shouldn’t keep him, ask him if that is reason enough for him?? If he is just afraid of the financial obligation then you can just let him deal with the court…you will never have to say a word to him if you don’t want to, it takes two to make a baby but the good thing is you are the baby’s protector right now and it is 100% up to you to give this baby every chance at life, you don’t need him to make that life changing, life saving decision….you already have made it…and you will be a great mommy because of it…I am here if you need me…Love MegNovember 6, 2007 at 9:42 pm #19422loveU
I’ve never had an abortion. But I just had a beautiful baby girl 4 months ago. She means everything to me, I love her so much. I would have never been able to forgive myself if I had killed her. Her dad wasn’t exactly happy when he found out I was pregnant but he never asked or wanted me to have an abortion. Now that she’s here he loves her to death. Having a baby is hard but it’s so worth it just to see your baby smiling at you. This morning my baby was wide awake at 6AM and at first I was cranky about it but when she started smiling I just couldn’t be mad. Everyone who has ever had an abortion has regreted it there are countless stories of girls having abortions and hating themselves for the rest of their lives! Don’t do this to yourself, your child, and if it’s her boyfriend reading this don’t do it to her.November 6, 2007 at 11:18 pm #19426rocky51
i know! i tell him this all the time! he just doesnt get it.
this is what i say when he brings up abortion
" im GIVING you the option of just leaving right now, i will never get your for child support, i will never try to contact you again…if you dont want it THAT BAD then just leave "
he says no i could never do that..i just dont want you to have the baby…he makes no sence.
but i dont care what he says anymore. I am going to what i believe is right and no one will change my mind.
Its coming out of me either way. If he doesnt want it then thats tough **** for him.November 7, 2007 at 4:34 am #19436ericklirios
I just saw your reply to a threat started by "new mommy" who recently got an abortion. Please check out my reply to her. If you get at it, check out my only blog entry too.
One of the things I said here before was this: guys are really looking for something all their lives without knowing what it is. For the most part, they’re looking for what is true and what is truly valuable. In terms of women, this means looking for a woman who can show them what really is good and stand up for it. There is no point respecting a woman who is so weak about her convictions no matter how correct they are. If a guy finds someone who knows the truth and stands up for it, then he might have really found a true friend or even a life partner.
Stand up for what is right. The world makes such a big deal about democracy, letting people do their own thing, whatever floats their boat, yadayadayada but this attitude sometimes forgets about what is right.
Your boyfriend thinks the way he thinks. You can’t do much about that except for standing your ground and, as people here will point out, you’re on really stable ground. Show him what’s right. Do what’s right. Keep the baby. Pray a lot. The Lord will never leave you. Things may not be easier but the Lord will always be with you in your suffering and if He’s there, people can surely come along but He, certainly, is more than enough.
Spare yourself the pain and give yourself the best life there is. Keep the baby and receive this blessing that the Lord himself has prepared for you.
Lastly, you may want to seach for "precious feet" on Google or Yahoo. This is a pin (around US$1.95 each) showing the feet of a ten week-old baby. People around the US wear it to clearly show that a baby is a baby is a baby. Give him one. If he insists on murdering his own child, then he may not be worth it. If he at least shows some remorse, then there is a good person there deep down inside.
Please take care. I will be praying for you.
ErickNovember 7, 2007 at 5:24 am #19438New Mommy
As you have read my story i will also write more to you. He is your boyfriend, and if he ever wants your relationship to continue he will listen to you. even though my boyfriend did not pressure me into what i did, he was there for me, but we are no longer together. The guilt was too much, and for many reasons we are not together. We had been dating for 3 years and it was amazing he was my best friend. I now miss him so much, but due to the abortion i cannot stand to see him. I have lost two things i truly loved in result. If you get this abortion like your boyfriend tell syou too, he may also being feeling guilty, becuase you are most likely to have many post-abortion symptoms. Guilt, depression, suicidal thoughts are all of mine. Now if your boyfriend loves you and cares at all he will not want this for you. If these dont phase him, he doesnt care about you. You are better off to raise your child alone. Please do not to do this becuase of pressure. This was the worst decision i have ever made, and it was just to please everyone else. I will never forgive myself of my mom. As will you, you will always resent your boyfriend. and if you guys are planning to stay together, get married, and raise a family there will always be tension between you. You will never forgive him. Please dont do this, and like i said if he doesnt care about this baby or you, then he will continue to tell you to get an abortion. If this is the case please leave him, he may be the childs father but you are better off without that. Please dont do this from pressure is all i ask. You will always regret it, and will never forgive him.November 8, 2007 at 9:01 pm #19482rocky51
yah so last night was really bad. we had a long talk and he actually started crying. like reallyy hard. he wants me to get an abortion so badly.
but i stood my ground and i just said NO!
i also talked to my friend that has a baby. He is a single parent and the mother wanted nothing to do with her son.
he told me that its better to have a mother/father thats wants to be a part of the childs life then have one that you have to force.
so today i go get my test. and if i am, im just going to say kevin i am not getting an abortion and nothing will change my mind. If you really dont want a part in YOUR childs life then so be it. I will keep my number the same, and i will update you on everything. but in the mean time, i just cant talk to you anymore, its to much for me to handle. I needed you to be by my side…..
or something like that.
and the decision is his…November 26, 2007 at 6:39 am #19709kristal101
I had an abortion. And honestly i thought it was best for me. but i was terribly wrong. Me and my boyfriend are still together and have been for 2 years now. But every day of our lives we regret not taking responsibility for our child. Do what YOU think is best and if your boyfriend cares enough about you he will understand exactly how you feel.November 27, 2007 at 2:12 am #19719washuchan
agreed. Dont let others influence your decisons. Its your body all he had to do was stick it in and hes done. Both parties should be resposible in any situation including this one. If he doesnt want to be resposible hes shown his true colors. In other words nab any info you can (SSN, income and such) Abortions at the time seem like the best way out but i really wouldnt suggest it. Ive had one and its close to the anniversary so all my mightmares, fears and memories are coming back.November 30, 2007 at 4:45 am #19767dorismay
I experienced other deaths in my family, including suicide and becoming an orphan in childhood, all of that pales into insignificance when compared to my babys death at 10 weeks pregnant. Even now after so many years and a lot of grief counselling I just can;t sort it. Besides which some men become impotent after pushing their girls into abortion, there is something really ghastly about doing this to self and others. It goes against life, and life kicks back.
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