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May 26, 2005 at 12:55 pm #8057Anonymous
Ok here goes my situation. I found out that I’m 6 weeks pregnant. Im 18. That’s not really what Im stuck on. I told my boyfriend(now ex who is 23) about the baby, and he told me that we cant have it for various reasons such as financial situations, stability , and that we’re not ready for a baby yet . He’s against abortion to the fullest and so am i. He keeps telling me that we need to do it though, but then he’ll start crying about it and tell me that we cant because then we’ll become murderers, and not just any kind of murderers, we be killers of our baby. I cant see myself having an abortion. but he tells me not to be selfish about the situation because its not just my life its his as well that will be affected.I still love him and he loves me to, but I want to have my baby, but I don’t want him to hate me. What should I do??? Im lost. If anyone can offer me better advice please do so.May 27, 2005 at 12:07 am #8065Jonluver
first off, i am so sorry that you have to go through all this! And your right abortion is murder.
Don’t let him talk to you like that. It’s your body and your baby. And it’s not his life or your life IT’S YOUR BABIES LIFE!!! Give your baby a chance to live.
If you really really can’t keep it give it up for adoption. Remember that your child didn’t choose this so don’t punish it!May 27, 2005 at 12:28 am #8068Anonymous
Your bf is telling you not to be so selfish and that is exactly what he is doing. I strongly urge options other than abortion. I was 16 when I first got pregnant and my bf at the time TOLD ME , "I HAD TO GET AN ABORTION". Thank GOD I didn’t listen to him because now I have a beautiful, wonderful son who will turn 15 in September. Sometimes I do think about what I would have missed if I had had an abortion. Again I thank GOD I didn’t. It was very hard trying to care for him and finish school, not to mention all the sacrifices I have made so he could have everything, but it has ALL been well worth it. Children are expensive to care for but against all odds I made it and so can you.
With lots of love and prayers,
Mommy of 4 😛May 27, 2005 at 3:15 am #8074aprilmarie0204
Hey, I know where you are. I was in that situation a few years ago, and i went through with the abortion. My boyfriend and I were both pro life, but when it come to us we made a horrible decision. Now it is a black cloud that looms over our marriage. I can’t tell you what to do, but the fact that you are struggling with this choice now tells me if you go through with it you will have a very hard time. It will stay with you for the rest of your life. You said you didn’t want him to hate you if you chose to keep the baby. But oh well if he does. It will be a lot easier to live without his friendship, then to live with the pain of killing your child. Ohter girls are talking about how you will miss out on being wild. You wont. I had my first at 17 my second at 19 and i am pregnant with my third. During the brief time i havent been pregnant i have partied with my friends, taken vacations ect. Yeah it is harder because you have responsibility, but you made the choice to have sex. The baby didnt make the choice to be concieved. Have your baby and give it the greatest life you can. Or give it up for adoption. Both are easier consequenses to live with then having an abortion. I’m here if you need to talk. Keep your head up and good luck.
AprilMay 27, 2005 at 6:51 am #8087Anonymous
I think that you should just straight up tell him that you can’t go through with an abortion.Maybe you should think about adoption.Tell him that if he would rather you not kill the baby but not keep the baby that maybe adoption would be the right choice.It’s not just up to him though, it’s also your choice.If you would rather raise your baby though, then go for it.Do whatever you think is best.
-BrittanyMay 27, 2005 at 12:46 pm #8098Anonymous
There is more then one choice here. Adoption is a wonderful way to reward someone with their life long dream of having a child to love. You can also pick who your child will be rasied by. The details can be worked out with each individual agency but sometimes they even let you get pictures of the baby from time to time so you are still connected in a small way. Try LDS social services, it can be anonymous also. Good luckMay 28, 2005 at 11:13 am #8113Anonymous
Thank you all so much, and i have made a decision. i am going to keep my baby and i dont care if he hates me or not. My baby has a right to live and come out into this world and be loved by all my friends, family, and especially myself. i have my family’s love and support and thats all that matters to me right now. Again thank u all for your encouragement.
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